I completely agree. I would prefer an OF Mass, but only when it is celebrated with reverence. Sadly I feel that too often it is celebrated in too casual a fashion, with priests trying to make it ‘more relevant’ to the world we live in. This of course is not the fault of the OF form of the Mass, but the fault of the priest celebrating it (in my opinon). The EF Mass is always celebrated reverently and it serves well to put the OF Mass in relief so to point to where we ought to be aiming for when the OF Mass is celebrated.
I prefer a reverently celebrated OF Mass (Latin included, pipe organ, Gregorian chant etc.) to an EF Mass, but I definitely prefer an EF Mass over a typically casual OF Mass (of which I think there are too many).
I think it’s more than just the priest; I think it’s a part of our culture and identity that was lost. Try finding choristers capable of Gregorian chant in most small-town and even city parishes! Like you I prefer a reverent OF Mass and would rather a reverently celebrated one without music than one with poor hymns.
Fortunately I live near a “cultural oacis” for the OF Mass, a Benedictine Abbey that has retained Gregorian chant for the propers and ordinary of the Mass, and for Lauds and Vespers… every single day, and the pipe organ on days permitted or appropriate (Sundays and feasts except Advent and Lent-Gaudete and Laetare Sundays permitted). The Mass in general is done with reverence; what’s not Gregorian is French plainchant (including the readings). I belong to a small schola of a dozen or so men in a nearby city; we were trained by the former choirmaster of the abbey. Such resources are hard to come by in may parts of the country and the world.
That said, there was a period following Trent of a progressive worsening of sacred music, to the point where “Gregorian chant” was anything but, was overly embellished, and was completely denatured.
It wasn’t until the late 19th Century that the monks of Solesmes attempted to restore chant to its roots, at least as they understood it. Pius X then approved the Roman Gradual of 1908, which was made by Solesmes and based on their interpretation. I won’t get into the “chant wars” between Dom Pothier and Mocquereau, it takes a book (which I have) to deal with that!
My point is what we know as “Gregorian chant” for the Mass today really only dates back to 1908, and is in fact the Solesmes interpretation (which is still ongoing). It attempted to restore chant to what it
thinks it was like in the Carolingian era. But it we really have no idea how the neumes (without staff) were interpreted back then.
It suffices to say that sacred Church music has been subject of ongoing evolution for many hundreds of years. Trent did away with much ancient musical tradition; I’m sure it must have been traumatic back then for Church musicians. We lost many sequences for the Mass and we lost troped Kyries to name a few. Pope Urban VIII fairly wrecked traditional hymns (which the post-Vatican II hymnal tried to restore although it also came up with its own new and controversial compositions).
The big break so far since Vatican II has been the vernacular, when it comes to sacred music. There isn’t much in the way of “traditional” hymns in, say English (some cultures do have older vernacular hymns that were used at Mass). In that sense the Anglicans have us beat, having some 500 years to have assembled a quite beautiful hymnal. We may yet achieve something similar decades from now.