Well, I Made My Ex-wife Mad At Me

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It is of huge concern to your children from previous women.
It may not seem so now, but one day…they will have a lot to say about it.
I’m just saying: be ready for the fallout.
Go back to your own church.
 
Tulitas said:
Why are you so keen defend? 2 kids, to 2 exes, and another girl in the wings? I’m sure she wants children. How is one guy with an ok job going to support three families?

Those are the details that people are advising him on.
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How are you sure she wants children? You don’t know how old she is. Before he came back to the faith, he made a bad decision to listen to his parents about getting a vasectomy. It’s been confessed. He’s acknowledged his fault in that but there’s not much likely chance there will be more children.

Are his children Catholic? Have they been baptized? He can’t go against court orders. If he was granted the dispensation, then his Bishop has already discerned the situation of his ability to go to Mass. It’s not for you or anyone else to insist he go.

You also don’t know that his gf would take them to her Church. It’s entirely possible she may convert someday.
 
Of course we don’t know. :roll_eyes:
Neither do you.

These are things to be THINKING ABOUT.

😬
 
I will answer that question.

No, they aren’t baptized. My ex-wife wouldn’t allow it. She vehemently hates the Catholic church.
 
bummer. She likely won’t like the GF’s church either. It’s similar to the Catholic Church in many ways. 😣
 
lonegreywolf20 said:
None of your concern.
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Sorry, the care of minors is the concern of most here on this forum. Your whole opening post is about how unfair it is that the mother of your children is making you drive a few extra minutes.

You have a job with no control over your personal life.

You need a job that will actually provide for the children you made. This includes being able to provide them with stable, reasonable and predictable time with you.

Your supervisor is about to show you the door if you don’t cooperate with his demands. Your parents are happy to blackmail you into immorality.

You have two failed major relationships with minor children. That means in less than 18 years you have wood, moved in with, made multiple babies with and broken up with two different women.

When did you have time to heal from those relationships? When did they? This kinda thing takes multiple YEARS, not months.

YOU need to get healthy for you. This includes at least a couple of years living on your own and being alone, not with parents, not with a significant other to go to or even worse live with.

Your employer has you captive because you choose not to better yourself. You’re an EMT. I have friends who are EMT’s. There are many ways to move up in that field, mostly by getting into nursing.

If you don’t want that field start learning to code. Learn to write or edit. Learn something…99% of which you can get the basics for free online.
 
As i said. None of your concern in regards to my relationship.

The rest about the job I will take under advisement, but I do not want to be a nurse nor do I want to code, write or edit.

Being an EMT no matter how bad the company, is what I excel at and what I enjoy. So it’ll be hard to find anything that matches it.
 
You are correct. She was specific in any church but the Catholic one.

Her pastor, being southern Baptist is very anti - Catholic.
 
lonegreywolf20 said:
They are not someone ele’s responsibility, but my own. I will not do that.

I was given dispensation because of my situation.
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How long are you planning to do this?

It’s one thing to do it for a year or so, but at some point you need to be back at Mass, with or without kids.

Also, if you have your kids four days a week, it won’t kill them to spend two hours with your parents (assuming they’re not completely terrible people).
 
lonegreywolf20 said:
As i said. None of your concern in regards to my relationship.

The rest about the job I will take under advisement, but I do not want to be a nurse nor do I want to code, write or edit.

Being an EMT no matter how bad the company, is what I excel at and what I enjoy. So it’ll be hard to find anything that matches it.
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EMT work is not forever. It’s a young man (or woman’s) game.

The concern is your relationship is taking up an area that you need for other things. Your emotional energy needs to be on making yourself better for your children. One day you will have to answer why the mother they love was not good enough for you. You need time to invest in finding ways to get yourself a more stable job. Even EMT through a fire department (which may require firefighter training) or simply becoming an ER nurse.

You have children. What you “enjoy” is now irrelevant if it does not provide them stability and security. My husband enjoys woodworking. He could probably scratch a living out of it. But he has a real job because he is responsible to his family.

I could forgo the hours I work to really dedicate to my children, but I work because it allows me to provide them stability. My husband, who I made a vow to, and my children are aways before friends. Your girlfriend is a friend. That’s it. You are choosing to spend time with a friend over doing the things you need to figure out and secure a job that will provide stability for your children. You are putting a friend above your children, like it or not.
 
Opinion and nothing more in regards to my relationship.

As for EMT through a fire department, that is not possible as I have asthma. I cannot handle the smoke. Even as an EMT in a fire department in this county you must have your fire credentials in order to get a job. You are called to do both duties when needed.

I do not want to be a nurse, whether in the ER or on a regular floor.

I said I would take what you said in regards to my future in a job under advisement, but my current relationship with my girlfriend is off limits to everyone.
 
lonegreywolf20 said:
will answer that question.

No, they aren’t baptized. My ex-wife wouldn’t allow it. She vehemently hates the Catholic church.
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So you are allowing your ex wife, through proxy, to determine whether you worship at Mass.
What about your first batch of kids, are they baptised? When do you see them? Are they being raised Catholic.
 
lonegreywolf20 said:
I do not want to be a nurse, whether in the ER or on a regular floor.
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How about PA?

You could put yourself and your kids in a completely different financial world if you were able to hack the course work.

Right now, you don’t have time and you don’t have money, but if you could budge even just one of those (and with any luck you could improve both), you could be living in a completely different world.

(Of course, if you don’t think you’re up to the academics, then I would not risk the debt.)
 
I will no longer answer questions about my relationship current or past.
 
I had thought about it, but I’m not sure I can do the academics.

I’m pretty smart, but not that smart. The math alone would cause me issues. I never made it past beginning fractions in high school because I don’t get it. I have tried and tried and had people try to teach me, I just don’t understand fractions once you get past beginning fractions. So, I have never taken algebra either. I tried algebra in college because I was going to get my EMS degree, but got lost in the first chapters.

PA, while a good move, is out of my reach academically. Which to be honest means nursing would be as well. I have seen the math that nurses have had to do and it makes my head spin.
 
Here’s the thing. I believe you should stick with and marry your gf. In the Catholic Church. Even if she still goes to her own church.

Why?

Because she is the only one who worships God by attending any service.

Your parents dont, your ex’s parents don’t, your ex’s don’t.

You don’t.

Your gf is the only one who appears to be putting God anywhere in the picture.
It might well be through her, your family finds God.

And as is the case in many of these situations , People are too scared of being taken for more money, they don’t stand up for what’s right.

Stand up for your right to religious freedom to raise YOUR children and Baptise them. Aren’t you in USA, don’t you have religious freedom. Don’t you have freedom.

If my choice was live in the worst dive possible, and baptise my kids, or live a more comfortable life and not baptise my kids and put God first, money has no Dogg in this fight

Put God First, not money.
 
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And that’s a no.

Fight for your rights as their father.
 
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No, it’s I will no longer discuss my relationships. Has nothing to do with the answer.

I should have done this from the start and didn’t, so I am doing it now.
 
It looks like you are one injury away from a catastrophe.

Always have a plan b. Our youth and health does not last forever. You can take remedial Math at a local community college, at least give it a try! Or find a way to flip burgers at night if you have to in order to at least have some savings.
 
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