Well, I Made My Ex-wife Mad At Me

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lonegreywolf20 said:
I guess you didn’t read where I was forced by my parents to have a vasectomy?
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You were an adult with 2 failed relationships behind you. . No one can force you to do anything. You made that choice.
 
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You know, even though it’s not counted as Sunday mass, if you really wanted to, and we’re serious about your faith, you could attend Mass during the week.

Are you and your gf celibate ?
 
I was forced into the vasectomy. I was not going to live out on the streets. It was a vasectomy or living on the streets.

There was no choice at all.
 
I cannot attend mass during the week.

You did read where I said that when I don’t have my kids I am working, and what my work hours are? There are no weekly masses at 8pm at night. I would like to attend mass, but am unable.

Yes, we’re celibate and waiting for marriage.
 
No you weren’t forced. No one held a gun at your head. You made a choice. Don’t preach homelessness to the homeless.

You are also painting your parents as ogres,
 
gracepoole said:
Of course you can say no. Recognize, though, that you haven’t really accepted any opinions here on any topic that haven’t lined up with your own.
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Why does he have to accept other opinions? Perhaps he considered them and decided against them.
 
Yes I read what you said. Does your gf attend Mass?

Here’s an idea, get the kids looked after for an hour of Mass. show them how important Mass is.
If you truly thought it important , you would find a way
 
Elizabeth3 said:
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gracepoole:
Of course you can say no. Recognize, though, that you haven’t really accepted any opinions here on any topic that haven’t lined up with your own.
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Why does he have to accept other opinions? Perhaps he considered them and decided against them.
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If someone posts here about a domestic issue and only accepts the opinions with which he already agrees, there isn’t much point in posting. At the very least, it would benefit everyone if someone in this position would just say outright, “Feed my ego and tell me I’m right.”
 
I made the only choice that I could at the time. I was not going to live out in the street and yes, my parents would have made me do that if I didn’t get a vasectomy.

I had no choice, no matter what you want to think.
 
lonegreywolf20 said:
I made the only choice that I could at the time. I was not going to live out in the street and yes, my parents would have made me do that if I didn’t get a vasectomy.

I had no choice, no matter what you want to think.
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“Someone forced me to kill someone else!”
“Someone forced me to rape!”
“Someone forced me to masturbate!”

All of these sound ridiculous, right? There is always a choice involved when committing a mortal sin. That said, it’s wonderful that you’ve confessed your sin and received absolution.
 
Yes you made a choice, There was no being forced. Your mother didn’t have a gun to your head, did she?
You could have gone to a shelter, lived in a car, lived couch surfing, found really cheap dump digs. Lived on the street. Lived in a trailer, Sorry, but We all have choices.

Here’s an idea, get your parents to watch the kids for the hour of Mass.
 
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They are not someone ele’s responsibility, but my own. I will not do that.

I was given dispensation because of my situation.
 
lonegreywolf20 said:
She is cool with it. We discussed these things at length before even starting a relationship.

She is fully aware of my situation as I never keep anything from her.
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While I’m thinking of it–it may be a good idea to work on a Plan B with regard to your profession.

It sounds like it may be pretty physically taxing, and there may come a point where you can’t do it anymore, but you’ll still have years of financial responsibilities to minor children (and even moral responsibilities to young adult children–it takes a long time to launch kids today).

So it might be a good idea to take inventory of your talents and interests and think about what kind of work you could do if your EMT work became too physically taxing to continue.
 
Roseeurekacross said:
You know, even though it’s not counted as Sunday mass, if you really wanted to, and we’re serious about your faith, you could attend Mass during the week.

Are you and your gf celibate ?
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The guy came here for advice on a specific problem not to have his entire life probed and debated.

OP, your original question has been resolved for now. I suggest you ignore anymore questions into your private matters. It’s really not anyone’s business here whether your sleep with girlfriend or not.
 
lonegreywolf20 said:
They would not accept that as an option.

Vasectomy or street.
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You’ve accepted that you committed a mortal sin and you confessed it. Just end it there instead of blaming your parents. “Commit a mortal sin that will likely land you in hell forever or live on the streets…” You can see why Catholics here are stymied that you’re trying to justify the former. You’ve confessed and been absolved. Leave it there.
 
Well, how old are you? Seems like an adult should not coerced into that kind of life altering notion, unless they thought you already had too many offspring for your young age.
It just seems harsh. Why did they no trust you?
 
I will not go to a shelter around her that is rife with disease. I have picked up patients from there, I know what kind of diseases are prevalent. I had no car. I had no real friends as I was not born in this state and making friends for me is rough. I also didn’t have a job as I was staying home with my ex-wife caring for her and our children.

Was not living on the street and what trailer was I going to live in?

Again, I was given dispensation from attending mass because of my situation.
 
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