Well, I Made My Ex-wife Mad At Me

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Exactly! I never said that I bring in the big bucks and explained why I don’t need to.

Not all women want rich guys to spend tons of money on them, some actually wants just simple things and don’t need to be taken out to fancy places to feel like their man loves them.

I explained everything to my girlfriend before the relationship started and she still wanted a relationship with me. She knew she wasn’t getting a rich guy or a guy that has much money to spend. She didn’t care.

As I keep saying and everyone ignores, this relationship is God sent.
 
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God is not a dating service, He allows us to make free choices about whom we date or don’t date.

Kids cost money.

If you are to enter a valid marriage, that means you will promise before God to accept children lovingly from God. No contraception, no sterilization. The primary ends of marriage is … ding ding ding… children!

The purpose of dating is to prepare for marriage.

When you marry this woman, you will be open to children. That means family #3.
 
I guess you didn’t read where I was forced by my parents to have a vasectomy?

It was that or I live out on the streets. I chose a roof over my head.

So, no ding ding ding… no more children.

Nice try though!
 
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lonegreywolf20 said:
Exactly! I never said that I bring in the big bucks and explained why I don’t need to.

Not all women want rich guys to spend tons of money on them, some actually wants just simple things and don’t need to be taken out to fancy places to feel like their man loves them.

I explained everything to my girlfriend before the relationship started and she still wanted a relationship with me. She knew she wasn’t getting a rich guy or a guy that has much money to spend. She didn’t care.

As I keep saying and everyone ignores, this relationship is God sent.
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You need to be prepared for the fact that your kids are going to have more and more needs and expenses as they get older. If you and your girlfriend get married, she’s going to have to be cool with that, too–that you are going to be spending more and more on your existing children.
 
She is cool with it. We discussed these things at length before even starting a relationship.

She is fully aware of my situation as I never keep anything from her.
 
No, they didn’t. However, when my wife and I separated my only choice was to live with my parents until I got back on my feet again.

Their stipulation was I had to get a vasectomy or I could not live there. I chose a roof over my head.

I have been absolved of this sin by my priest as it is not something I would have chosen on my own and was done under duress.

I am not required to get it reversed and so will not do so.
 
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I am glad that you and your ex-wife were able to talk the situation out and come to a good agreement. Prayers for a good, peace filled life for everyone involved.
 
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No, they didn’t. However, when my wife and I separated my only choice was to live with my parents until I got back on my feet again.

Their stipulation was I had to get a vasectomy or I could not live there. I chose a roof over my head.

I have been absolved of this sin by my priest as it is not something I would have chosen on my own and was done under duress.

I am not required to get it reversed and so will not do so.
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You’re correct in noting that you’re not required to have your vasectomy reversed. That said, given that any Catholic marriage should be open to life and given that you committed a grave offense against God when having a vasectomy, why wouldn’t you want to have it reversed?
 
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Why must I?

My girlfriend makes more than I do actually, much more. She also is not someone that wants extravagant things in life. We do mainly free things with or without the kids. We stay at home alot when she comes over, with the kids watching a movie. If we do go out, we split the bill.

One doesn’t need to make big bucks in order to have a relationship or even two families. Since we’re only dating, this is not a third family. The mother of my other children doesn’t want anything from me and I only pay child support because the state forced her to. If I wasn’t paying child support, she knows all she would have to do is ask, but she is very independent and wants to do things on her own. She also has a boyfriend that lives with her and they combine their incomes and take care of things on their own. When she has asked me for help, I have given it without question.

Please stop assuming things about me and my life! Not everyone has to fit into your mold of what life should look like. That is not at all things work as each situation is different with different circumstances and solutions.
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It’s kind of mind-boggling the number of non-parental partners your children are around. Each time you reveal a new layer of family dynamics, another pops up. You mention them all so casually as though they have no impact on your children.
 
Because I was absolved of that sin by my priest who said I am not required to have it reversed for one. Two, it’s about $5,000 or more and again not required as I have been absolved of the sin. Three, it’s not guaranteed to work. Four, that will put me out of work for two weeks or more and I would likely lose my job because I have 15 hours of PTO and the surgery is not fixing a life threatening medical issue. Five, I have been absolved of the sin and am not required to get it reversed.

Should I repeat it once more that I have been absolved and am not required to get it reversed?
 
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A mind boggling number of non-parental partners?

Hmm… there are two mom’s of those children and a girlfriend. So, one person is non-parental and the other one, who is my girlfriend, isn’t.

Lets see… that’s oh, one person that isn’t parental. Such a mind boggling number.
 
1 woman mother of your children has a boyfriend/husband? That is 1 non-parental person.

2 woman mother of your children has a boyfriend/husband? That is 2 non-parental persons.

You have a girlfriend who is the 3rd non-parental person.

This is not “healthy childhood” math.
 
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1 woman mother of your children has a boyfriend/husband? That is 1 non-parental person.

2 woman mother of your children has a boyfriend/husband? That is 2 non-parental persons.

You have a girlfriend who is the 3rd non-parental person.

This is not “healthy childhood” math.
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It’s A LOT of math. OP, you don’t see this as a lot??
 
My mistake then. I thought we were talking about my sphere of people.

I cannot control what their mother’s do.
 
I cannot control what their mother’s do. It is their life and they both will flat out tell me that same thing.
 
Yep, I do.

So, because they have a boyfriend I am delegated to being lonely without a partner till my kids are grown?
 
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