To Ewald Holzhaus:
I think your best bet is to teach her about these things – how to do them, information she’ll need to know – so that should she outlive you, she won’t be lost and at the mercy of people who might want to take advantage of her
It’s important for both spouses to understand family finances and how to use the internet and how to contact other family members in an emergency, as well as knowing about 911. She should know the name of your family attorney and how to contact him or her, should legal questions arise after your death.
Does she simply not wish to become involved. . . ?