What do girls search in guys?

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Anyway jokes aside, I haven’t read all the posts in this thread and I literally have nothing against discussing this topic because this is a forum, it needs healthy discussion but in my opinion, there is really no such thing as ugly people. I do think that people should take care of their appearance as most of the time, people who think they are ugly aren’t really ugly, just unkempt. All my life I would walk and sit slouching but when I started practicing kendo and doing pushups everyday, not only did I start walking with my back straight and head held high but I felt more confidence. There is a saying that goes ‘shout when you do something. Do you think a horse would find you annoying?’ Meaning don’t mind those morons who tell you you are too ugly to date, just fix your appearance and manners if need and guys or girls will be cooing all over you.**

So in other words, not everybody is currently attractive, but everyone has the potential to be attractive. I like that, it’s a nice was of looking at it. 🙂

There might be exceptions for people who have certain disorders, though… But for them, being unattractive is probably the least of their worries. 😦

I think most everything regarding beauty has been said. You’re the OP- what do you want to talk about now?
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I didn’t read any replies but i have seen your post and decided to post a few line.

First if you are seeking to please a girl, it must be from your heart and not trying to fake it. Meaning, if you aren’t yourself, your relation is a meant to fail due that she will fall in love with someone that don’t exist.

Be yourself always and honest at all cost!

If she doesn’t like you as you are, you may want to figure this out right of way!
 
Crescentinus said:
Point well taken.
There is one problem though. There are guys who are offended by what attracts me. I just told them in the most courteous and tactful manner that I am not attracted by the criterion that attracts them. After that, they erupt in a fit of intolerance.
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Ok, well then better not to say anything at all.
 
Crescentinus said:
Best works if they’re not asking. When they do ask and expect an answer, it can get pretty problematic at times. :o
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If they ask and want to know, then you can tell them, but use some tact. Don’t say “I don’t like flat chested women… they look like men.” Instead, say “I prefer a more curvy, well endowed woman.”

If they STILL get angry, they’re psychos and they have much bigger issues to be worring about.
 
Debora123 said:
If they ask and want to know, then you can tell them, but use some tact. Don’t say “I don’t like flat chested women… they look like men.” Instead, say “I prefer a more curvy, well endowed woman.”

If they STILL get angry, they’re psychos and they have much bigger issues to be worring about.
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This. Some people will always get angry, and that’s not your fault. If you insult the women they like, though, it is your fault, so don’t do that. 😉
 
Debora123 said:
If they ask and want to know, then you can tell them, but use some tact. Don’t say “I don’t like flat chested women… they look like men.” Instead, say “I prefer a more curvy, well endowed woman.”

If they STILL get angry, they’re psychos and they have much bigger issues to be worring about.
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I tried that tactic in the past, and they got angry. They do have issues, part of which involves how some of them turn extremes in breast size (either too large or too small) into sexual fetishes.

For the record, I am physically attracted to a woman who is curvy and has a well-proportioned figure which is proportionate to her height. I am not too attracted to well-endowed women because in some cases, their figures can be out of proportion for various reasons (health issues, diet, etc.). In any case, it’s a minor attraction compared to the other parts of her (such as personality). 🙂

Disclaimer: This post must not be attacked because these are my preferences. Thank you.
 
Kamaduck said:
This. Some people will always get angry, and that’s not your fault. If you insult the women they like, though, it is your fault, so don’t do that. 😉
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Again, I’m not insulting the women that they like. :o
 
kelvinf said:
I think you are lucky that some of those stern CAF moms are not on this thread; otherwise…😃
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I know. What I don’t get is this:
What’s so offensive about what attracts me? I do not have a sexual fetish.
 
Crescentinus said:
I know. What I don’t get is this:
What’s so offensive about what attracts me? I do not have a sexual fetish.
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Methinks:
  1. We, Catholics, believe that love is a choice and most hardcore Catholics believe that physical appearance doesn’t matter.
  2. Your preference is not about general physical appearance per se, but rather, about a specific body part. So it doesn’t go down well with some. I think some see it as trying to reduce the person and the body to a single part.
I remember there was one woman how was very, very annoyed with you referring to the breast in the first place.

Personally, I wouldn’t say such things in public. If I prefer a girl with a nice face, I can say that because for some people, beauty has a lot to do with the countenance, I believe. But when it comes to certain parts of the body, I did be careful.

So if I say that I like or prefer girls with nice natural fingernails, most people would tend to think that I am reducing girls to fingernails which is a petty and very irrelevant issue in a Catholic marriage, which is true.

I think that was the issue Dreg was raising with Debora: what he called reductionism.

We say that physical appearance plays just a little role but we spend the bulk of the time discussing physical appearance which seems to suggest that we are putting too much weight on it. This seems to be the issue Vim71 was raising.
 
kelvinf said:
Methinks:
  1. We, Catholics, believe that love is a choice and most hardcore Catholics believe that physical appearance doesn’t matter.
  2. Your preference is not about general physical appearance per se, but rather, about a specific body part. So it doesn’t go down well with some. I think some see it as trying to reduce the person and the body to a single part.
I remember there was one woman how was very, very annoyed with you referring to the breast in the first place.

Personally, I wouldn’t say such things in public. If I prefer a girl with a nice face, I can say that because for some people, beauty has a lot to do with the countenance, I believe. But when it comes to other parts of the body, I did be careful.

So if I say that I like or prefer girls with nice natural fingernails, most people would tend to think that I am reducing girls to fingernails which is a petty and very irrevalant issue in a Catholic marriage, which is true.

I think that was the issue Dreg was raising with Debora: what he called reductionism.

We say that physical appearance plays just a little role but we spend the bulk of the time discussing physical appearance which seems to suggest that we are putting too much weight on it. This seems to be the issue Vim71 was raising.
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Point taken.
In any case, I have mentioned that what attracts me physically is always less than the other traits, such as personality and being sociable.
 
I would be remiss to not mention that trying to be what girls “search for in guys” is not really being true to yourself. You should be the guy that is true to you, true to God, and true to the woman that you love. You’ll find that in doing that, everything will just sort of fall into line. Don’t be what they want, be you and then be with the one who loves you for you!

Peace
Brian
 
Crescentinus said:
I tried that tactic in the past, and they got angry. They do have issues, part of which involves how some of them turn extremes in breast size (either too large or too small) into sexual fetishes.
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Well then that really isn’t your problem.
 
Crescentinus said:
I know. What I don’t get is this:
What’s so offensive about what attracts me? I do not have a sexual fetish.
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Nothing is offensive about what attracts you or anyone.

Those who think so have issues, and that’s their own problem.
 
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