Thank you for the civility of your latest posting. So often those of us who present a different perspective are treated with angry disrespect.
A little personal background. My paternal family was Catholic. One of my ancestral uncles was the Archbishop of Quebec. Frankly, I am quite well-versed in Catholicism. My late and beloved wife had been a Catholic who went to parochial school. I watch EWTN with some regularity, and read such magazines as America, Commonweal, US Catholic, etc. When religion comes up in chats with Catholic friends - rarely - I find that I know quite a bit more about their faith than they do. In this particular area Catholics are the majority, as we have heavy Irish, Italian, Polish, French-Canadian and German Catholic populations. I have heard four popes in person, including Benedict XVI at Yankee Stadium last year.
My own experience, for what it's worth - and forgive this honesty if you find it offensive -is that the more I learn of traditional Catholicism (so popular here on CAF) the more I fear that it is unduly influenced by non-Christian, often pre-Christian, influences. I honor Mary, of course, but Mariology has gone so far that it seems to smack of ancient goddess worship, even if that's not what the church intends. I believe in the real presence of Christ everywhere at all times, but transubstantiation resembles the popular idea of among the mystery cults that by eating the divine you become divine. I enjoy reading moderate Catholics. Fr. McBrien has a column every week in our daily paper and I look forward to it. He is articulate in presenting an open, ecumenical Catholicism that I find quite compatble with my open, ecumenical Protestantism. As for worship itself, I have attended many Catholic masses, and much depends upon the priest. Some are deadly, while there are priests who give them an real air of celebration, My lady friend (we both are widowed) attends mass every Sunday without fail, but she would be dismissed by most CAF participants as a cafeteria Catholic, in that she - for example - doesn't believe in transubstantiation, doubts the Immaculate Conception, and would like to see priests be allowed to marry and even women ordained (at least as Deacons).
In closing, I feel close to the Methodist Church as well as to Congregational and Presbyterian churches, as my career brought me to places where circumstances led me to be active in each. As you know, they are very similar, and their historic theological differences are unimportant today. As stated already, my commitment to 'big tent' Christianity is based on my need to explore freely matters of theology and such, and I need a church that permits that. That often is assailed as self-centeredness, stubborness, whatever. Believe me, if I thought for a moment that the Catholic Church was the only place to find the full truth of my faith I would convert in a moment. I simply don't believe Jesus had that in mind. You apparently believe that he did. We each are happy in our spiritual situation.
But may God bless all believers - and, yes, non-Christian believers in God, also. I certainly don't worry for a moment about their salvation. Our God is a merciful God, else we'd all be in big trouble. May religion become a bridge and not a barrier. It will only be a bridge when we let go of our defensiveness and engage in respectful dialogue. If God wants us to be Catholics we will be. Devout Catholics certainly believe that their church will never lose out. So why do some become so stressed when people like me express a different viewpoint? I'm, of course, convinced that through our diversity we honor God, as it suggests that God is too magnificant and ultimate and mysterious for us to understand.