I don’t think people are going to like the answer to that question, because ultimately it comes down to factors such as irresponsible leadership among the Churches, complacent parent and religious education and the big one—entitlements.
Usually, the conversation is over right there because people immediately become defensive and say things like “are you saying I’m a bad parent/my Church is somehow wrong?”.
That’s another reason why we are “losing” on the issue.
I say entitlements because the philosophy behind them is “I or we (even Churches) can control the government beast and it won’t possibly turn on me”. Just look at how “surprised” everyone in America was when Obama Administration forced the Little Sisters of the Poor to pay for college students’ contraception.
So-called gay “marriage” isn’t about equality, it’s an entitlement, just like a farm or a wind subsidy or welfare if you are talking about America. And in reality, people who vehemently disagreed with so-called gay “marriage” voted people in over and over and over because of an entitlement or propaganda slogan they liked. And on top of that, if you live in America, you are surrounded by people who say they are “humble, homegrown and moral” who not only do this but make excuses for their family and friends who get an entitlement, even if it costs them.
The gay “marriage” movement used the same platform that everyone else who wanted an entitlement used—they made their cause cool and neat, demonized the opposition into silence, portrayed themselves as victims, and garnered enough support among this supposedly great and righteous “silent majority” we used to hear about to desperately want a progressive arrow or two in their social quiver so that someone could give them partial approval of coolness.
So, when we REALLY think about it, is it really any wonder why we are where we are?