If the ex husband passes away you can marry as usual. Otherwise you are supposed to be separated not only from bed also from table and the same apartment/house due to the close occasion of sin.
Even if a child is involved? Could you point me to the code of canon law or other Church teaching that states this?
You need to talk to your priest. If no children were involved, then you would typically need to separate. But, often when children are involved, yes, staying together-- living in the same house as brother and sister-- is a pastoral option. Again talk to your priest. Also try not to have too much anxiety over this, take it one day at a time until you know for certain her freedom to marry.
Then you could convalidate your marriage.
Hate to ask this, but were you sacramentally married inside the Church?
This is not true as close friends of ours can testify who are currently going through this process.
Act of contrition
And abandoning his child isn’t a sin?
As you quoted the catechism:
The sinful thing was to start relationship with someone who was not free. The consequence of a sin do not annul the sin itself. Any sex outside of the holy matrimony is grave sin, and living with someone’s partner is close occasion to the sin, have to be avoided.
No. At the time we were engaged, I was very ignorant of my Catholic faith, but somehow knew I needed to speak with my local priest about the upcoming marriage since I was marrying a non-Catholic Christian and that we wanted to be married in a different church. We both met with him on several occasions and did a type of marriage prep. He informed us that she would need to get an annulment. She told him that her ex-husband was a baptized Catholic and that they were not married in the Catholic Church. The priest told us this should be a simple “lack of form” annulment. To make a long story short, her ex’s baptismal record could not be found and still can’t be found. The priest then told us that he could essentially grant the annulment and that we were free to marry outside the Catholic Church. We did that. He told me that our marriage was convalidated and that we did have a dispensation and that our marriage was valid and sacramental.
I wonder if that is the case with my situation?
No.
He was a baptized Catholic. She is a baptized Lutheran.
Thank you.
Okay.
We have two bedrooms. One for us and our son.
At the time, I didn’t know that was sinful.
Normally Convalidation requires a ceremony. Long as you have done that then as the priest said your marriage is valid and sacramental. You’re worrying about nothing.
With all do respect Laszlo, this is YOUR interpretation of it. Not the interpretation of his priest nor the interpretation given by the catechism. The Catechism says “The Church manifests an attentive solicitude toward such people and encourages them to a life of faith, prayer, works of charity and the Christian education of their children.”
Yes, extra-marital sex is sinful, but living as brother and sister is not.
I should clarify. I was told that by my former parish priest in the town I was living in. I thought all was good. Several years after that my wife goes through RCIA and is told in order to continue, she would need to get an annulment. This is in a different town, different parish, priest and diocese. Now the process has started again. Actually, I don’t believe the long form annulment was sent to the tribunal the first time. I called the original priest who said we were okay and he said, “This is a mess.” and that he was sorry and that we need to pursue it with the diocese we are now in.
I’m sorry for your problems and it really makes me angry that those who give counsel (and should know better,) sometimes do so wrongfully.
This makes it complicated, or if you want easy, and let us hope, that the annulment process will be successful.
#304 … The confession of serious sins is the only ordinary way to obtain forgiveness.
I know a couple that while they were granted a Decree of Nullity they were also enjoined against after marrying within the Catholic Church again due to the defect of their maturity level and having it determined that they can not truly understand the concept of a sacramental marriage.