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Apart from my troublesome past catching up with me, there is another issue: I don’t think it is realistically possible to sufficiently learn what Catholicism teaches as an outsider before joining. And I want to know what I am getting myself into before formally joining.

Even if the ideal would be the case and it would indeed be possible to learn enough as an outsider so as to make an informed decision, given how slow I am,
It is possible (I managed it), but not simple, and you do not need to be fast, just patient. When dealing with something this complex, do not feel that you need to rush. Take your time. God isn’t going anywhere.
 
Unfortunately your doubts are not uncommon. Do you know who Scott Hahn is? He faced some of the same doubts you have and I recommend giving his story a listen. God bless. PT. youtu.be/XyFuaXlYo8Q
Could you point out which doubts you think Hahn and I have in common?

I’ve listened to about twenty minutes of the talk you link to, and found it utterly boring and uninteresting.

Given that he started off with a Christian background, it is not possible for his doubts to be like that of someone who never was any kind of Christian before.
 
=Mystophilus;12760392]I’m not so sure.
From Catholic canon law:
Can. 991 All Christ’s faithful are free to confess their sins to lawfully approved confessors of their own choice, even to one of another rite.
Can. 204 §1 Christ’s faithful are those who, since they are incorporated into Christ through baptism, are constituted the people of God.
Can. 980 If the confessor is in no doubt about the penitent’s disposition and the penitent asks for absolution, it is not to be denied or delayed.
While canon law discusses “sacramental confession” as a distinct operation, it does quite clearly state that a non-Catholic can validly confess to a Catholic priest, who then must provide absolution if the penitent is genuine.
Thanks,

Keep in mind the Code of Canon Law is for Catholics, BY Catholics; not binding on the universal community of Christ believers.

God Bless you,

Patrick.
 
=amrin;12760504]Two things are holding me back. One is my current family situation, I live with my child’s father but we aren’t married thus I can’t enter the Church until we either marry or I leave him. Number two is Fear. Fear that even if I join the Church I will end up in Hell and fear that if in the end when I die God doesn’t exist, it was a huge waste of time and worry.
On your first point I can AND WILL only pray for you!👍

On the second point the polar opposite is FAR closer to the truth. Forgiveness of sin GOD"S WAY is sacramental Confession through an Ordained Catholic Priest [following OT practice of using priest in this soul-saving role]

The recent innovations and inventions of all Protestant faiths =“to protest” are only mortal men’s musings.

1John.1 Verses 8 to 10 If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just, and will forgive our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us."

1John.5 Verses 16 to 17 "If any one sees his brother committing what is not a mortal sin, he will ask, and God will give him life for those whose sin is not mortal. There is sin which is mortal; I do not say that one is to pray for that. All wrongdoing is sin, but there is sin which is not mortal.

John.20 Verses 20 to 23" When he had said this, he showed them his hands and his side. Then the disciples were glad when they saw the Lord. Jesus said to them again, “Peace be with you. As the Father has sent me, even so I send you.” And when he had said this, he breathed on them, and said to them, “Receive the Holy Spirit. If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven; if you retain the sins of any, they are retained”

My friend the ONLY unforgivable sin is denial of God. Period:)

So as soon as #1 is resolved quickly get on to #2:thumbsup:

God Bless you and protect you and your’s!

Patrick
 
=jimcav;12760714]It has been my experience that converts to the Faith are even more fervent and devout than many cradle Catholics. They seem to grasp to it and want to learn all that they can. They tend to be very enthusiastic and bring the gifts they’ve gained from their journey to the Church.
Please don’t feel sorry for yourself or pity yourself. If you truly believe that you are called to the Faith, then do whatever it takes to get there. You will “catch up”, you will find your way, you will make friends, and you will feel at home and comfortable here. Do not treat Catholicism as just another denomination, instead know that it is the end of your journey, the culmination of it all. It’s home…🙂
Adding to a GREAT post:thumbsup:

SADLY while that ought to be true;“that Catholics ARE better informed”] its very far from reality. Our Church had for a period of MANY post-Vatican II years has done a poor job of evangelization, therefore their are very many Catholics who too are in great need of being fully and rightly informed I’m a trained and certified Teacher of Our Catholic Faith with 20+ years of experience. .

God Bless you,

Patrick

This was a key motive for my developing a TOTALLY FREE OF ALL COST home study e-mailed course that I offer to all. I also answer privately all faith questions.
 
Could you point out which doubts you think Hahn and I have in common?

I’ve listened to about twenty minutes of the talk you link to, and found it utterly boring and uninteresting.

Given that he started off with a Christian background, it is not possible for his doubts to be like that of someone who never was any kind of Christian before.
He was finding that the more he studied the Catholic faith the more he felt attracted to it. Yet he came from a very anti-Catholic back ground and had doubts he was on the right path. Most of his protestant friends left him and his wife nearly divorced him… What you have in common is resistance. PS, I’m sorry, I thought you were protestant. This video to me was very interesting as it was a life long atheist turned Catholic. Perhaps you could relate to some of what she went through?: youtube.com/watch?v=sXmX8NrpaLE
 
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QUOTE]Originally Posted by dronald

For me, it’s what God is doing through the Church I’m involved with. It’s hard to believe it’s just a giant heresy with all the good it does while maintaining conservative, Biblical teachings and shows great love.

Is it from God or Satan or just nothing? If it’s from God, then it’s good. If it’s from Satan then it’s evil. If it’s from nothing, then why doesn’t God be a little more clear that He wants all of us to become Catholic?
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I think there are many protestant church’s that are doing great things and God is pleased with them… I would like us all be one because I think a united front against what is coming is stronger. Also, when non-believers see dis-union they are less likely to be persuaded so to speak… JMO
I thin k “heresy” is too strong of a word in THIS context.

God is able to use anyone of Faith and is able to read our hearts and REAL intentions.🙂

While ALL Protestant faihts Do hold some untrue [and frankly unsupportable beliefs] they also hols onto some very Critically Important beliefs: One True God; the Trinity and Christian Baptism [John 3:5] all come to mind.

However that said; one needs to ask if that “truly sufficient” for ones own salvation…
And the answer is perhaps BUT not necessarily; maybe not even likely for most non-catholic s…

From the Catholic Catechism:

846 How are we to understand this affirmation, often repeated by the Church Fathers? Re-formulated positively, it means that all salvation comes from Christ the Head through the Church which is his Body:

Basing itself on Scripture and Tradition, the Council teaches that the Church, a pilgrim now on earth, is necessary for salvation: the one Christ is the mediator and the way of salvation; he is present to us in his body which is the Church. He himself explicitly asserted the necessity of faith and Baptism, and thereby affirmed at the same time the necessity of the Church which men enter through Baptism as through a door.*** Hence they could not be saved who, knowing that the Catholic Church was founded as necessary by God through Christ, would refuse either to enter it or to remain in it.***

847 This affirmation is not aimed at those who, through no fault of their own, do not know Christ and his Church:

Those who, through no fault of their own, do not know the Gospel of Christ or his Church, but who nevertheless seek God with a sincere heart, and, moved by grace, try in their actions to do his will as they know it through the dictates of their conscience - those too may achieve eternal salvation

ALL salvation does, indeed MUST flow through the Catholic Church as it IS the One True Church founded by God and enable to teach the TRUTH of How salvation might conditionally be possible. Mt 10: 1-8; Mt. 16: 15-19, John 17:11-26, Mk. 16:14-15 & Mt. 28: 16-20 if read carefully paying attention to whom Christ is Speaking exclusively and directly will see God’s intent clearly in the above passages. BUT this "flowing through} can be mysterious and God is a God of Mercy and Love.

Still for those exposed to the truth; it becomes incumbent on them to seek and embrace it.👍

God Bless you,

Patrick
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PS, Lucy: You don’t have to kick out your child’s father or marry him to start on the road to Catholicism. It’s not like you have to live a pius life as a litmus to becoming Catholic. Why not take the RCIA classes and see where it leads you. You don’t become holy THEN start a relationship with Christ. You start a relationship with Christ and THEN you will want to be holy:) God Bless and I’ll keep you in my prayers:thumbsup:
 
=Lucy107;12761357]Plase don’t say such things, they really don’t help anyone.
It’s not pity, it’s apathy, resignation. I am so used to being rejected that being rejected once more wouldn’t be a surprise. But I don’t think I could survive another rejection of such magnitude.
If you put it that way - I don’t know if I am truly called to the Faith.
I certainly feel desperate. But desperation is not a good guide to making choices.
Just because I am despaired, doesn’t mean that a religion (in this case, Catholicism), is right.
I am afraid that one day, the Catholics may find that it was/is a waste to invest in me.
Given my background (I don’t want to go into details here, but suffice to say that it is troublesome, even if technically not a formal impediment), I don’t think I will ever be like the other members, so I need to be realistic about my options.
I mean, I suppose I could keep the formal obligations. But there is so much more necessary in order to actually be a functional and accepted member of a community.
And there are those who don’t.
Look, I’m not critizing the Church or Catholics here. Every organization has certain criteria that all members or prospective members must live up to. This is normal.
It’s reasonable that nobody likes people with a troublesome past, especially since they may also have a troublesome present and likely a troublesome future.
Thank you.
Anyway, I’m finding myself in a bind - On the one hand, I want to be serious about Catholicism (because otherwise why be in any way involved in it), while on the other hand, I realize how limited my options are.
My real life situation is currently such that I feel a great need to decide on my spiritual path.
Apart from my troublesome past catching up with me, there is another issue: I don’t think it is realistically possible to sufficiently learn what Catholicism teaches as an outsider before joining. And I want to know what I am getting myself into before formally joining.
Even if the ideal would be the case and it would indeed be possible to learn enough as an outsider so as to make an informed decision, given how slow I am, I don’t think Catholics would tolerate me hanging around for five years (or most likely more) just trying to figure out what it is all about (and I don’t blame them). I also don’t think I myself could live in an undecided state for so long. There is so much to study, so much to learn, so much to consider.
This is why it is so much easier for people who are born and raised in a religion. They don’t have to go through any of that, they’ve simply received all that with their birth.
I just replied to the OP. Perhaps it would be better I wouldn’t.
Hi Lucy, I AM the “OP”

Please send me a private message so we can talk privately:thumbsup:

Your in my thoughts and prayers,

Patrickl [PJM] here on CAF
 
=ptisme;12761533]I would say keep it simple:
  1. Ask God to forgive you.
  2. Pray for guidance then listen quietly
  3. Read the Word. New Testment probably better at first
  4. Know that you are one of Gods children and he will always love you and wants you to come home with him
  5. No Catholic can save you. It’s up to you to accept Christ into your life. Once you do that you will have peace;)
THANK YOU!👍

Very nicely done

Patrick
 
.From the Catholic Catechism:

846 How are we to understand this affirmation, often repeated by the Church Fathers? Re-formulated positively, it means that all salvation comes from Christ the Head through the Church which is his Body:

Basing itself on Scripture and Tradition, the Council teaches that the Church, a pilgrim now on earth, is necessary for salvation: the one Christ is the mediator and the way of salvation; he is present to us in his body which is the Church. He himself explicitly asserted the necessity of faith and Baptism, and thereby affirmed at the same time the necessity of the Church which men enter through Baptism as through a door.*** Hence they could not be saved who, knowing that the Catholic Church was founded as necessary by God through Christ, would refuse either to enter it or to remain in it.***

847 This affirmation is not aimed at those who, through no fault of their own, do not know Christ and his Church:

Those who, through no fault of their own, do not know the Gospel of Christ or his Church, but who nevertheless seek God with a sincere heart, and, moved by grace, try in their actions to do his will as they know it through the dictates of their conscience - those too may achieve eternal salvation

ALL salvation does, indeed MUST flow through the Catholic Church as it IS the One True Church founded by God and enable to teach the TRUTH of How salvation might conditionally be possible. Mt 10: 1-8; Mt. 16: 15-19, John 17:11-26, Mk. 16:14-15 & Mt. 28: 16-20 if read carefully paying attention to whom Christ is Speaking exclusively and directly will see God’s intent clearly in the above passages. BUT this "flowing through} can be mysterious and God is a God of Mercy and Love.

Still for those exposed to the truth; it becomes incumbent on them to seek and embrace it.👍

God Bless you,

Patrick
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The “church” is referring to Christ’s Church=All Christians. Not the Catholic Church. As I read that.
 
=Lucy107;12761653]I pray the Lord’s prayer several times daily. I also read Psalm 51 on an almost daily basis. But I don’t really feel anything. I can’t imagine really asking God’s forgiveness. Not because I would think myself innocent; but because I don’t believe in anyone forgiving me. Least of all God.
How do I know that that which I “hear” will indeed be God speaking, and not simply my mind?
I’m reading the Bible by the calendar system, so as to read the whole Bible in one year.
I don’t know that.
I don’t know what that would be “to accept Christ into my life.”
Unfortunately, my idea (!) of Jesus has too much Jim Caviezel in it. It’s awkward. I have a measure of phonographic memory and can readily remember someone’s voice. I’ve also listened to bit of the Bible reading he did, and I remember some verses in his particular voice, the way he emphasised particular words. It bothers me, as I am not sure the way he read them is the way Jesus himself would say them.
Lucy, if you can be specific on these verses I MIGHT be able to help you:)

PLEASE 🙂 carefully consider these passages, Thank you!

2nd. Peter 3: 14-17 “Therefore, beloved, since you wait for these, be zealous to be found by him without spot or blemish, and at peace. And count the forbearance of our Lord as salvation. So also our beloved brother Paul wrote to you according to the wisdom given him, speaking of this as he does in all his letters. There are some things in them hard to understand, which the ignorant and unstable twist to their own destruction, as they do the other scriptures. You therefore, beloved, knowing this beforehand, beware lest you be carried away with the error of lawless men and lose your own stability

2nd. Peter 1: 16-21 “You will do well to pay attention to this as to a lamp shining in a dark place, until the day dawns and the morning star rises in your hearts. First of all you must understand this, that no prophecy of scripture is a matter of one’s own interpretation, because no prophecy ever came by the impulse of man, but men moved by the Holy Spirit spoke from God.”

John 5: 37 “And the Father who sent me has himself borne witness to me. His voice you have never heard, his form you have never seen; and you do not have his word abiding in you, for you do not believe him whom he has sent. You search the scriptures, because you think that in them you have eternal life; and it is they that bear witness to me; yet you refuse to come to me that you may have life [Speaking of accepting the entire WORD of GOD]. I do not receive glory from men .[Meaning disobedience is rampant!] But I know that you have not the love of God within you. I have come in my Father’s name, and you do not receive me” [Obey Me!]

God Bless you,

Patrick
 
There are a lot reasons why I am not Catholic, but that does not mean I dislike the Catholic Church. In fact, I tend to be a strong apologist among my peers for it, even though I am not myself Catholic.
I’m curious, what are a few of those reasons ?
A:
Many people are very ignorant.
True.
 
I enjoy the dialog ( for the most part) -there are some witty members (GKC for example)

I love my Church and the people at my local Parish -I do not want to be a protesting member of a Church but a full participant-

CJM
 
He was finding that the more he studied the Catholic faith the more he felt attracted to it. Yet he came from a very anti-Catholic back ground and had doubts he was on the right path. Most of his protestant friends left him and his wife nearly divorced him… What you have in common is resistance.
Resistance?
I don’t feel like I am being resistant - although I know many Christians see me that way.

I find that I don’t have sufficient knowledge of Catholicism (nor do I think that one can gather such sufficient knowledge as an outsider) to decide one way or another.
That’s not resistance.
PS, I’m sorry, I thought you were protestant. This video to me was very interesting as it was a life long atheist turned Catholic. Perhaps you could relate to some of what she went through?: youtube.com/watch?v=sXmX8NrpaLE
I am also not an atheist - although I know many theists see me that way.
I think labels like “atheist” are inadequate to describe an actual person; people are simply too complex to be subsumed with one simplistic label.

Interestingly, I have noticed in discussion of religion on the internet something odd: Of all the theists (of different religions) I know or who have participated, noone of them considered me a theist. But many atheists have considered me a theist. And this in conversations which both took part in, both theists and atheists saw the same things I said, and yet they came to so different conclusions about me.
PS, Lucy: You don’t have to kick out your child’s father or marry him to start on the road to Catholicism. It’s not like you have to live a pius life as a litmus to becoming Catholic. Why not take the RCIA classes and see where it leads you. You don’t become holy THEN start a relationship with Christ. You start a relationship with Christ and THEN you will want to be holy
I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone. I know the Catholics. I have reason to believe that things would not go well if I showed up at church. I don’t have the trust that God would somehow change the hearts of people there for my sake.

The territorial principle was enforced here last I checked: that is, a person must on principle attend the church in the parish of residence. I have less than a ten minute walk from home to the church, and I don’t work on Sundays. So I have no legitimate excuse. I’ve been to mass in a bigger city a few times; things there are quite anonymous and formal. So that’s better. But it’s also a bit lonely, no opportunity to really ask anyone anything.

I mean, Catholicism seems nice enough here at these forums, and especially in relation to American culture, with all that American “You can do it!”
But here in rural Europe, Catholicism seems connected to a kind of country club mentality.
God Bless and I’ll keep you in my prayers
Thank you.
 
THANK YOU!

Very nicely done
The advice you praise here - have you any idea how foreign it is to some people? Most of those points I can do nothing with.

You ask in the OP why people don’t become Catholic. One reason is because they get advice they don’t understand and can’t implement. And if they point this out, chances are the advice-giver is going to knock them down.
Lucy, if you can be specific on these verses I MIGHT be able to help you
I’ve listened to his reading of the Gospel of Matthew.
 
Resistance?
I don’t feel like I am being resistant - although I know many Christians see me that way.

I find that I don’t have sufficient knowledge of Catholicism (nor do I think that one can gather such sufficient knowledge as an outsider) to decide one way or another.
That’s not resistance.

I am also not an atheist - although I know many theists see me that way.
I think labels like “atheist” are inadequate to describe an actual person; people are simply too complex to be subsumed with one simplistic label.

Interestingly, I have noticed in discussion of religion on the internet something odd: Of all the theists (of different religions) I know or who have participated, noone of them considered me a theist. But many atheists have considered me a theist. And this in conversations which both took part in, both theists and atheists saw the same things I said, and yet they came to so different conclusions about me.

I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone. I know the Catholics. I have reason to believe that things would not go well if I showed up at church. I don’t have the trust that God would somehow change the hearts of people there for my sake.

The territorial principle was enforced here last I checked: that is, a person must on principle attend the church in the parish of residence. I have less than a ten minute walk from home to the church, and I don’t work on Sundays. So I have no legitimate excuse. I’ve been to mass in a bigger city a few times; things there are quite anonymous and formal. So that’s better. But it’s also a bit lonely, no opportunity to really ask anyone anything.

I mean, Catholicism seems nice enough here at these forums, and especially in relation to American culture, with all that American “You can do it!”
But here in rural Europe, Catholicism seems connected to a kind of country club mentality.

Thank you.
I have an observation to make that may help you but please don’t take it as an insult. In reading your posts I see the terms “i” and “me” used an awful lot. When I was able to really turn the corner with my conversion was when I left the world centered on self and put my life’s pathway in Gods hands. In other words when I find things in life that are difficult to bear I pray about it and put it in Gods hands. Makes life much more bearable.
Remember when Peter was outside of the boat walking on water? As long as he kept his focus on Jesus, he was able to continue. As soon as he focused on the storm around him he began to sink. So too in life:thumbsup:
 
The advice you praise here - have you any idea how foreign it is to some people? Most of those points I can do nothing with.

You ask in the OP why people don’t become Catholic. One reason is because they get advice they don’t understand and can’t implement. And if they point this out, chances are the advice-giver is going to knock them down.

I’ve listened to his reading of the Gospel of Matthew.
Which points can you do nothing with?
 
I have an observation to make that may help you but please don’t take it as an insult. In reading your posts I see the terms “i” and “me” used an awful lot.
I deliberately use this form; it’s the assertive communication style, as opposed to an aggressive, passive, or passive-aggressive one.

The aim of making I-messages is to own whatever I say, take responsibility for whatever I feel and say, and not blame others.
When I was able to really turn the corner with my conversion was when I left the world centered on self and put my life’s pathway in Gods hands.
Assertiveness isn’t selfishness. In fact, assertiveness is aimed to avoid selfishness.
In other words when I find things in life that are difficult to bear I pray about it and put it in Gods hands.
That then requires a specific doctrinal conviction.
Such as that God loves me, wants to help me, cares about me. I don’t believe any of that.

In one sense, when being assertive, one is taking the whole existential and epistemic burden upon one’s own shoulders. “Letting go and letting God” goes straight against that.

One could “let go and let God” only if one is somehow convinced that God would, will, and does. I don’t have that conviction.
 
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