Hello Everybody! I am a Catholic who used to date a Scientologist. This was 5 years ago. When we first started dating, I didn’t know he was a Scientologist. It became a real nightmare when I saw someone I cared about very much caught in such an awful trap. But, he also tried to get me into joining Scientology, which I just wouldn’t do. Instead, I read alot of books about how to save someone from a cult, and also information on the internet. As already mentioned,
www.xenu.net is a really good site. So is
www.lermanet.com. Even though I have gotten on with my life after this awful experience, and I thank God for helping me grow in faith, I still wish more people knew about cult mind-control tactics. So many of my ex-boyfriend’s Scientology friends were former Catholics!
My ex-boyfriend tried to get me to join by telling me how much Scientology helped him. He credited it for making everything in his life better. He told me I would have “fun”. Everything about Scientology was “fun”. He made it seem like a harmless thing. On the flip side, he also tried to make me feel bad about certain situations in my life. I have an alcoholic father, I was rather depressed and it was hard to make friends since I isolated myself. He tried to point these things out in order to see how I “needed” Scientology. From what I have read on the internet, this is a common way for Scientology to get people in. They find out what is not working in your life (for example: you can’t find a good job, or your relationship is going downhill) and then they tell you how you need to take a communication course. This is the first step in. Just learn how to communicate, everything will be better! Or, so they say…
In trying to get me to see how “fun” Scientology was, my ex-boyfriend did tell me about some of these basic courses. In Scientology, he told me, they break things down to the lowest level and then build gradually. He said, the first step of communicating is “being there”. You have to learn to “be there”. THis is done by sitting for a long time and not blinking. If you blink yoru eyes, you are told “flunk” and you have to start over. From what I have read on the internet and books to get people out of cults, sitting for a long time without blinking puts you into a trance-like state where your critical mind stops working and you start blindly accepting information you are being given. So, as you are practicing “being there” you also are in a very vulnerable state. There is more information out on the internet about other Scientology practices, but I just wanted to share one I heard about first hand from a Scientologist.
ANother thing I witnessed firsthand was “loaded language”. In cults, they have you start talking in a new way, or they re-define commonly used words in a new way. The idea is to cement the cult identity, and also to cut you off from the outside world. If you no longer feel comfortable communicating in your “old” way, it’s harder to leave your cult group. My ex-boyfriend tried to use Scientology-speak with me, but I wouldn’t go along with it. He tried to teach me these new words and word-definitions, but I just played dumb. An example, love is redefined as “wanting to share the same space” with someone. So, if you no longer want to be around non-Scientology family members, it’s not that you don’t love them in the traditional sense, you just don’t want to share the same space with them, so you don’t love them, in the Scientology sense. There are alot more words they use that don’t make sense to non-Scientologists. I think that is why Tom Cruise comes off as not being able to communicate very well. (Which is rather sad, because he probably paid alot of money to learn how to communicate in Scientology and the end result is he can’t communicate!)
Also, I saw first hand how everything comes down to money. According to my ex-boyfriend, if you are working the Scientology technology, you will be able to do just about anything. And, they chart how well you are doing by how much money you are pulling in and giving to them. They keep statistics on this, I think they think this is scientific if you have graphs and charts. But, all the Scientologists I met were deeply in debt with bad credit. Yet, they thought they were so much better than non-Scientologists because they knew the answer to man’s salvation (Scientology).
This is what really makes me angry: I read in People magazine an article about Katie Holmes where spokespeople for Scientology said you can be Christian and be Scientologists. THis is such a lie! This is just to make you not be afraid to go and try their courses. Once you get in, the mind-control tactics are used progressively until you really believe that the psychiatrists are trying to make everyone crazy, and you are soul trapped in your body and can’t leave until you go through Scientology auditing. This is their answer to man’s salvation.