The point is that Zoe or others like her may well fit that dictionary definition of female. But I imagine the same dictionary’s definition of male would be something like ‘one who has testes, can produce sperm and father young’.
So according to your dictionary, at least some intersexed people could truly fit the definitions of BOTH male AND female, since they CAN have BOTH testest and ovaries, and can both produce sperm AND bear children! So what would your response be to such a case?
And what about cases where, as Zoe relates, some people literally, for purposes of your definitions change sex in their twenties or thirties, naturally and without any surgery or medicaiton involved? What if someone married as a male before this change, and married a female, but at a point after marriage ‘became’ female themselves?
Isn’t marriage a sacrament, till death do the married parties part, in sickness, sex change and health, etc etc? So don’t you end up with two females who are married to each other?