I’m not sure whether I mentioned it or not. He was born Intersexed, and required genital reconstruction early in life to relieve pain and enable him to urinate properly.
He’s a normal little boy - no sign of transsexuality (THANK YOU GOD). But if he’d been a girl in a mostly male body, we would have given him - or rather her - whatever support we could.
After the op, he looks almost normal. Things work, there was no nerve damage. Had things been a little more severe though, he would have been one of those children that the surgeons recommend get surgically assigned as female. Which would have made him transsexual, as he’s very obviously a boy. That happens in about a third of such cases, which is why Intersex organisations work so hard to have this practice ended. You wait till age 5 or 7, until the child can tell us what gender they are, before surgically intervening. The only exception is minimal surgery to relieve pain, ensure excretory function, and prevent imminent (rather than long-term) cancer risks.
I’m open about my own condition, but rather more circumspect about my son’s, for obvious reasons.
And people ask me why I consider myself so lucky. Things are so much worse for so very many I know. Women who were assigned male, men who were assigned female, and all now bearing the stigma of “mental illness” because the surgeons got it wrong. The Church condemns such practices, but
soto vocce, without much conviction, as regardless of how the child feels about themselves afterwards, afterwards the patients conform in appearance to either a male or female norm. They’re no longer social or theological embarrassments. Catholic hospitals that absolutely refuse to allow adults to correct the surgeons’ mistakes still countenance surgery on newborns who don’t look normal. Some even insist on it - though that’s more common in Baptist run ones. That was one area where Dr McHugh got it right - he just didn’t see the corollary. That gender is not always correlated with external appearance at birth.
Hence cases like that of
David Reimer. I deal with those all the time in peer support groups. Perhaps 1 in 10 of “transsexual” people had this happen to them. See the post on my blog,
Square Peg, Round Hole.