The whole “don’t go to bed angry” thing actually was meant as a general statement to everyone, not just married people. It comes from Ephesians 4:26 “BE ANGRY, AND yet DO NOT SIN; do not let the sun go down on your anger.”
Yeah, it’s better to go to bed mad at midnight than to stay up another hour getting not mad.
That was not our experience. Of course, being on the opposite side of the world for 42 months helped
I worry about the ones I don’t know about that have been friend zoned for years. Since I only plan to do this one I worried about things throwing a wrench I things.
Oddly I dismissed the idea whole single as there was no one besides my parents to pass things to. Now it actually matters.
I was one of them (no kids though). As a concept marriage is the riskiest things a man will undertake and a career killer for women. Before meeting my wife doubted if marriage was for me especially since I know only a handful of couples who stayed together and many more who didn’t in addition to the messy issues of their divorce.
And most importantly, we point out when our personality faults ate clouding our judgment. For instance I have an understanding that I want her to point out when my pride or ego push me into poor choices.
It’s funny you say that because I see it as the exact opposite. Love is a choice and you make a choice and a commitment to love. The like can come and go.
Once you have your allotted/acceptable two children–the question will change to “You know what causes that don’t you?”
Interesting. It never occurred to me that getting married was something risky. I don’t think my wife did either. I think we both just took it for granted that it was for life–I don’t think we have ever thought of divorce as on option.
I simply mean that it either works and is the best thing ever or it fails horribly. I’ve had a friend ask my family to hold his gun during his break up so, yea there is a risk. I don’t intend to, but I can’t pretend failure is impossible. Only a few life long marriages in my family and friends but many more breakups.
Love that lasts is the love that loves when you don’t like someone.
You can dislike some of your spouse’s bad habits (such as leaving underwear on the floor or riding the clutch) but you must like the overall person. You must like being with them and enjoy their company.
So if you stop “liking” your spouse, time to divorce? Nah. Time to get counseling of yourself or the couple, maybe; time to seek pastoral care; but not time to divorce. This person is now part of you; you don’t get to amputate him/her because of your feelings at the moment.
Again, I talking about liking them overall and liking them until death do you part. Yes, there will be bumps in the road. But I’m talking about the Big Picture.
See, I find that odd because I can’t imagine ever being without my wife… I want her around because she completes me.
That is part of the grace received in the sacrament. I, too, tend to be a loner when I am not around my wife and I don’t like people telling me what to do.
It is absolutely, not doubt about it, the best thing that ever happened in my life.I also very much enjoy my alone time. I thought I would have a much harder time with this after getting married than I actually do. My husband and I take care to make sure we each have some space to do solitary activities, but really I prefer having him around more than not. I’m not sure I could say that about anyone else, friends and family included. It really isn’t that hard, if you are both sensitive to each others’ needs. Plus, we’ll have a baby in a few months and all of my alone time is going to go out the window anyway. I think if you’re called to marriage, God gives you the grace to handle the adjustment and also the desire to (generally) be around your spouse and children.