What to do, if anything?

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And that’s my question…is there really a difference between the gay sister and my dad who has been divorced and remarried for the millionth time?
 
As someone who has been divorced a million times (only three, but my third wife and I are sort of back together. Long story) I don’t think so.
 
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Don’t leave me hangin’ Blue…what were you gonna say? 😝
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I was just gonna say there is no difference between really anyone…I kind of view our homes as our hearts…they should be open…

(except for the obligatory putting oneself or family in mortal danger)
 
This seems to be the conclusion I’ve come to as well. I don’t see a difference…
 
It’s your house, so it’s your rules. Do whatever you want.

Remember that they can do the same thing to you. After all, if you set rules in your house, they can set rules in theirs.
 
This is why I just default to everyone staying in a hotel if they’re coming to visit and bringing more than just themselves. Sister coming alone - I’ve got a room. Sister coming with a partner - go find a hotel. Brother comes alone - I’ve got a room. Brother comes with wife - go find a hotel. Mother or father comes alone - I’ve got a room. Mother and father are traveling together - go find a hotel. Friend comes alone - I’ve got a room. Friend comes with fiancee - go find a hotel. On and on, you get the picture. Come, visit, have dinner, watch some TV/a movie, etc. but at the end of the day if it’s more than just you, “Have a safe trip back to your hotel.”

If they want to visit and can’t stay at a hotel I’ll come to them … and stay in a hotel. Growing up and staying at family and friends’ houses for visits was one of the most uncomfortable experiences about traveling. When I’m away from home, I’m in a hotel no matter how much a room is offered.
 
How about raised Catholic, converted to Protestantism, then proceeded to marry and divorce and remarry a bunch of times?

Note: this describes both my father’s and my father-in-law’s situations.
 
Sorry, my question was posed in response to this specific post.
 
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When did that happen?
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JamesATyler,
I’m not sure what you’re trying to say here. Is your post meant to be sarcastic? If so, it is in poor taste. If not, Jesus ate with sinners all the time. And anyways, we’re all sinners. We don’t have a lot of room to talk.
Love and Prayers
 
A couple of thoughts:
  1. It is not wise to arm-chair canonist the status of someone’s marriage. You don’t know all the facts and it is not your job. A couple might be living as brother and sister, in a Josephite marriage, etc.
Adults make their own decisions about those things. If you happen to be the parent of a child you are supporting it is different.

Most adults are not clueless and know if it would uncomfortable if they stayed with you.
  1. It is an error in logic to equivocate same-sex partners with cohabiting couples or couples in irregular marriages: The former cannot marry and the latter can regularize their unions; they is, they can marry. The latter can receive sacramental grace in marriage to assist them, the former cannot.
I know what my wife and I do when we visit relatives that are cohabiting: We always stay in a hotel, enjoy our visit with them, and are usually very successful at having them attend Mass with us.

Your mileage may vary,
Deacon Christopher
 
(name removed by moderator),

This is good to know. Thank you for sharing it with us. I’d also like to know the context that Paul is speaking in, if you know it. The writings from Paul are all letters, directed to specific people and specific situations.

For example, in 1 Timothy 2: 12, he wrote “διδάσκειν δὲ γυναικὶ οὐκ ἐπιτρέπω οὐδὲ αὐθεντεῖν ἀνδρός, ἀλλ᾿ εἶναι ἐν ἡσυξίᾳ.” Which roughly translates into: “I do not permit a woman to teach or to have [violent/abusive] authority over a man [Alternate reading: her husband].” The context here is that Paul was writing advise for Tim, who was in charge of the Church at Ephesus. At the time, Ephesus had a female dominant culture and their major religion worshiped the goddess Artemis Ephesus (originally called Cybele. similar to, though not exactly the same as, the Greek goddess Artemis). When Paul and Tim tried to establish the Church there, this led to all kinds of shenanigans, that you can read about in Acts 19. Some women in the Ephesus church were also spreading around false doctrine, likely influenced by the Artemis Ephesus religion. So, we have a letter from Paul, to Tim, saying “Don’t let (these specific) women teach (heresy).”
 
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I should ad here, that my sister isn’t even baptized.
I’m the only religious person in the family.
 
Bring back the shunning!

Everyone, quick grab a stone!

Now if you will excuse me I have to go and pick up a scarlet “A” from the cleaners…

Oh, wait… were suppose to love our neighbor?..well, never mind…

I’ll just worry about this log in my own eye instead…😉
 
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If someone’s teenage daughter returned from college for Christmas vacation, bringing her boyfriend as a guest, would you put them up in the same bedroom?
 
I thank my Lord and Savior that I was blessed with multiple sons and zero daughters…
 
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Agreed. & if they’re not going to attend Mass on Sunday… can’t stay in my house. They’re not Welcome.
 
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