What would you do if DD's friend reveals she has a crush on DD?

[silentfactor80]

So if this situation occurred, and your 14yr old DD’s friend revealed that she’s bi-sexual and had feelings for your DD, what would be your response?

Honestly, I would be very careful. The youth these days see the body as a device of pleasure to be used when desired. The most recent episode of the popular show “Glee” featured a “conversion of a straight girl” to the bisexual mode. I tend to think there are 2 general reasons for this trend.

1. As men are increasingly vilified and derided by the media and politics women are taught to fear us. Girls are also frequently told that men don’t care about them and can’t understand their feelings, but girls can! The only logical conclusion for a girl is that to get the happiness they desire is to be with another girl to feel loved and safe. Of coarse the “best part” is they cannot get pregnant! In a society that is so down on pregnancy this is a huge “plus” for girls!
2. Bisexuality is in many ways seen as liberation and power for women. It gets them attention from men and women alike. They get to shake off the shackles of “those crusty religious oldies” and fully experience their “oppressed feminine sexuality.” It is “power and freedom.” In every way 2 woman can go as crazy as they want sexually and again not get pregnant. That is seen as “liberation.”

This is the message young women are being barraged with. Out of the risk of being sounding politically incorrect, I am going to say women are easily exploited when it comes to the “empowerment” thing. This is just the latest saga to it all. Your daughter is going to get this from her friend and the media. If you try to forbid her you are going to look like the scared freaking out parent and she will be shut off to you.

My suggestion is to reaffirm your daughters confidence and self-esteem as a human being. Ensure her that there is a guy out there that wants to treat her properly and that God will bless her but good things only come to those who are patient. Also, continue to teach your daughter by example to value non-material things. Valuing things like power are exactly how human beings get into trouble. We have no power except that which is given to us by God and still it is His power!

 

[PRmerger]

Honestly, I would be very careful. The youth these days see the body as a device of pleasure to be used when desired. The most recent episode of the popular show “Glee” featured a “conversion of a straight girl” to the bisexual mode. I tend to think there are 2 general reasons for this trend.

1. As men are increasingly vilified and derided by the media and politics women are taught to fear us. Girls are also frequently told that men don’t care about them and can’t understand their feelings, but girls can! The only logical conclusion for a girl is that to get the happiness they desire is to be with another girl to feel loved and safe. Of coarse the “best part” is they cannot get pregnant! In a society that is so down on pregnancy this is a huge “plus” for girls!
2. Bisexuality is in many ways seen as liberation and power for women. It gets them attention from men and women alike. They get to shake off the shackles of “those crusty religious oldies” and fully experience their “oppressed feminine sexuality.” It is “power and freedom.” In every way 2 woman can go as crazy as they want sexually and again not get pregnant. That is seen as “liberation.”

This is the message young women are being barraged with. Out of the risk of being sounding politically incorrect, I am going to say women are easily exploited when it comes to the “empowerment” thing. This is just the latest saga to it all. Your daughter is going to get this from her friend and the media. If you try to forbid her you are going to look like the scared freaking out parent and she will be shut off to you.

My suggestion is to reaffirm your daughters confidence and self-esteem as a human being. Ensure her that there is a guy out there that wants to treat her properly and that God will bless her but good things only come to those who are patient. Also, continue to teach your daughter by example to value non-material things. Valuing things like power are exactly how human beings get into trouble. We have no power except that which is given to us by God and still it is His power!

 

[stewstew03]

You wouldn’t do anything different. If your daughter turns out to be a lesbian or bisexual you won’t let her bring her girlfriend home and you won’t welcome her will you because you don’t even want her to be friends with this girl now and won’t invite her over. So if it comes down to your daughter being forced to choose between family or the woman she loves and lives with she might find she has to make the same choice I did. You’re in no position to criticise my family when you’d do exactly the same thing yourself, tell your daughter she’s welcome home anytime but not with another woman, while her brothers and other sisters are more than welcome into the house with their boyfriends and girlfriends.

Hi Bella! Are you familiar with Melinda Selmys? I think you might be able to relate to her story…

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[anp1215]

I know she said she’d do nothing. What I was saying is that she was specifically referring to this situation. When you responded to her post, you were making it sound like she’s some sort of bad mom who doesn’t do anything at all in regards to her children’s life, when all she said is that she’d do nothing IN THIS SITUATION.

Now, whether we think that’s a good call on her part or not, doesn’t matter. We raise our kids our way, and we let others raise their kids their way. This poster has said nothing to indicate she’s some sort of abusive or neglectful parent, so it isn’t our place to start criticizing/lecturing her on the way she chooses to parent her children.

That’s all I was saying.

I think your posts have been the best in this thread, with regard to politeness and logic.

 

[Debora123]

I think your posts have been the best in this thread, with regard to politeness and logic.

Aww, thanks! It’s good to hear that…

 

[Bella92]

Of course I would welcome my girl home, Bella!

On your terms because she has to comply with your standard of what’s right or wrong or acceptable or unacceptable to be welcome. Been there, experienced it and still wear the tshirt.

 

[PRmerger]

On your terms because she has to comply with your standard of what’s right or wrong or acceptable or unacceptable to be welcome.

Nope, Bella. She would be welcome in my home.

But, as in all areas other than sexual sins, she would be encouraged to avoid sin.

We do not nurture sin in our home.

I am sorry that your family has rejected you, when they ought to be only rejecting your sinful behavior.

'Tis a sadness indeed that many folks cannot seem to be able to distinguish between the two.

And it appears that you, too, have demonstrated this inability. You are making the opposite fatal error. In an attempt to love the sinner, you are loving the sin.