Mind games are simply for the insecure.This is largely due to girls also playing mind games, yes when you’re older people just want to settle down and have kids bla bla, but when you’re in your teens to mid 20’s I’d say the mind games are fairly common place.
Furthermore it’s largely the girls that are into mind games, not guys.
If all you can find are game players, then play the game
Funny…lolIndeed. I’d be more apt to consider River’s dating advice if he would tell us how it led him to a long, loving, successful marriage. He doesn’t appear to be married, though. Perhaps once he does tie the knot, he can come back and share with us how the game-playing has enriched his marriage.
:thumbsup:I was insecure and mind games were grapeshot for me and not a fun thing. Right now, several years and several mental decades later (or at least it feels like that), I could probably outgame any girl or woman of the femme fatale sort, including the most notorious drama queens, but I don’t care to play. I content myself with being able to detect most problems before they even finish manifesting properly, and limiting myself to the reasonable person standard. Ekhmm…
Don’t know what grapeshot is - but I should say mind games are for the insecure and immature. Sounds like you have gained maturity and thus mind games are not an option. Any woman is blessed to have you, such a wise soul.
Someone please tell me what OP means I see that all over the net and don’t have a clue?
Original poster.Someone please tell me what OP means I see that all over the net and don’t have a clue?
Original Poster (the person who began the thread).Someone please tell me what OP means I see that all over the net and don’t have a clue?
Lost the plot early I see? If you can’t deal with the stresses of simple mind games, which aren’t really much of a stress to begin with, how is marriage going to work out? Yes, no mind games is my point, and it’s a lot more stressful.:ehh: ummm… with no mind games…?
Old anti-personnel ammo.
I think most of the games were either unintended by the girls or even imagined by my brain. I had a knack for could-have-beens changing their minds from spectacularly lured to spectacularly indifferent and a knack for quarrels about time together in more pronounced relationships. That and communication/conflict solving style differences. I’m a value builder, but I don’t shy away from arguing ideas or points, I love to focus and hate multitasking, doesn’t mean I have Kasparov’s attention span, no, more like House. I expect people to make sense and I see things (have you met a know-it-all that finishes sentences for people?), plus I want people to be kind, non-agressive and at least a bit empathic (just make the effort). This cuts the pool in 10. Ah, and I value symmetry in relationships. Another one.
Thank you.
Wish that were true. I hope to meet someone who’ll put up with me and vice versa.She needs more patience, less compromise and a bit more action perhaps.
I have a picture of what man she needs and I’m not that. She needs a guy that’s decisive but doesn’t fill the whole room and you don’t see him around every corner, warm-blooded but emotionally a little bit cool, interested but cool about it, involved in sports, keeping himself fit, a bit on the introverted side, knowing how to behave but not being a socialite. Something like a military officer from a technical or science specialisation, if we extrapolate the traits a bit.wow - that said, you guys sound like a great match come to think of it…
That’s a valid point, but people become self-destructive when they insist on following the one who gives them thrill and challenge instead of the one that offers companionship, support, stability, fidelity and commitment; often mistaking bad manners for strength and manliness - or titillation for a nice personality or kind character. Same old stuff with games in the beginning, same old stuff with a psychotic ex in the end.
Keep in mind. the people writing those songs were not adults, and they certainly were not married, yet - a lot of those song-writers were 12 year olds. I wouldn’t take the words of a song written by a child or teenager (which is a whole different thing than a children’s song) as good advice to the lovelorn.
sierrah, I would think this was a good thing on your part. I have experienced similar behavior from a man in the past…it just leaves one feeling uncertain and suspicious…and you don’t need that…Well I did get a message this morning saying he’d had been busy. Hum…4 days and he couldn’t fit in even one text to me. Wants to go out on short notice. Sorry I have other plans which indeed I do. I honestly made other plans last night.
Well I emailed him on Saturday and said if he didn’t want to see me anymore that was ok no hard feelings but I justed wanted to know where I stood.
He was literally very busy and just didn’t get back with me yet because he said he needed space to think about all this. 
I really wish him well and hope I can get over this soon. I sort of saw it coming but that never makes it easier. If you want to play a game, play monopoly. Don’t play with people’s minds and hearts.
Are we sure he’s not married? Living with a woman, married? Just saying…just throwing it out there.Well I did get a message this morning saying he’d had been busy. Hum…4 days and he couldn’t fit in even one text to me. Wants to go out on short notice. Sorry I have other plans which indeed I do. I honestly made other plans last night.
*Oh, I’m sorry, I should have read through the thread first.Well I emailed him on Saturday and said if he didn’t want to see me anymore that was ok no hard feelings but I justed wanted to know where I stood.
He replied and we met up Sunday and had a heart to heart talk. He was sensing a lack of chemistry in our relationship he while he really liked me he didn’t believe we could get past this. To tell the truth I can’t blame him as I look back on it I can see how he would think that but it’s more due to stresses I’ve been under having to do with money and job stuff. He wanted to let go but I could tell it was hard for him. He asked to remain friends and keep in touch but I don’t know if I can do that feeling about him the way I do. After we said goodbye it’s like he took my heart with him.