When did you have your first child?

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Magster:
I was 38, but I did not get married until I was 36. I would not trade our son for anything, but I know I would have had more energy had he been born when I was younger. Also, we are hoping for more, but age does make conception more difficult.
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Nice to see another “AMA” mom ie: Adanced Maternal Age. That is what I was designated when my OBGYN took me on. (I thought I was pre-menapausal!) I gave birth to my first child, a beautiful girl when I was 40. 17 months LATER I gave birth to my second daughter. I LOVE being a Mom. They are now 5 1/2 and 4 with the first one in Kindergarten at our Parish school. God Bless you all! So from my perspective, you’ve got lots of time to have more! Hope you do!
God Bless!
Donna
PS…Maybe we’d have a little more energy but I have to tell you, I work with quite a few moms in their 20’s (I’m blessed with a stay at home husband/Dad) They seem to have less energy than I do! I think that children infuse in us some of their energy through the grace of God and becuase we love them so much and they love us unconditionally!
 
I was twenty eight, but we started trying when I was about your age. It took several years for me to become pregnant.

I suggest that you at least prepare for pregnancy by taking a multivitamin that includes folic acid since there is evidence that it reduces the risk of birth defects. Also, try to be a good weight for you since being overweight can cause fertility troubles. If you are over weight, you may want to have your thyroid tested (blood test) since it is also related to fertility. Adjust your diet a little now so that when you are pregnant, you will not be addicted to caffeine or anything else that may be harmful (especially smoking or drinking).

Also, you may want to get a book on NFP because you will learn so much about the signs of fertility. You may want to wait on this though because perhaps you will just get pregn. right away.

I am hoping, if you are Catholic, that you aren’t using birth control. If you are, I suggest quitting and doing an examination of conscience on this issue. I hope all goes well for you. I became very frustrated. I thougth I’d get pregnant right away and it took about 3 years. I didn’t know about diet and all the other stuff that can help fertility though.
 
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I was 30 with 1st child—wow–an oldie----but I was sooo much wiser than if I was in my 20’s. IF that was the case, I’d probably have been married and divorced about 5 times. God truly spared me from this tragedy–although I was living totally not a Godly life in my 20’s…

HOW GOD truly knows best I think…and How HE will bring good from all situations. I so thank and Praise HIM for this…
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I was 40 with my 1st so to me you are just a youngster! But I agree, I am so much wiser and patient.

God Bless
Donna
PS…I’ve seen a few of your other replies and you don’t sound so kookoo here.
 
I am 25, my husband is 26. We have been married for a year. I have been open to having a child since we have been married, but my husband still isn’t open to it. He knows that I want to stay home with my first child, and right now I make over $40,000. I feel we will be “ok” on just one income, but he thinks we won’t “make it” financially. I don’t know when he thinks we will be ready. Are there other husbands on this forum that think this way, and are these views grounded? I understand that he wants to be financially fit, but at what point do you just start the family and not worry?
 
Our first baby is due on March 27 (Easter!). My wife and I are both 24. We were married for about 14 months before my wife got pregnant.

We are not waiting until we are “financially fit” by any means. I am in law school and my wife teaches computers at a local catholic school. Our income consists of her sad little paycheck and my student loans. We decided to just go for it. We know that God is good and we’ll be fine.
 
It took me until I was thirty+ to find a woman desperate enough to decide she wanted to have my babies. Then she got tired of that after the second and wanted to have her tubes tied. We got pregnant with our third just about the time she had wore me down and I agreed to let her.

I would have started earlier if I could have. I like kids and my sons are the highlight of my life. I would still have more and may if I can find a woman fool enough to take my wife’s place now that she is gone.

Make babies! It’s good for you and good for them! You’ll feel better for having them. And really, nothing else you do is gonna last.

God bless,

:tiphat:- FranL
 
I was 19 with my first child, I lost that child to miscarriage. My angel is in heaven now.

I was 20 with my second child and 21 when I gave birth to him. I was 23 when I gave birth to my third child.
 
We had our first when my wife was 52 and I was 53.

We adopted a beautiful baby girl !

I don’t worry about early or later, all I know is that we are truly blessed .🙂

Trick
 
I was 29 when I had my first - hubby and I got married when we were 24 - not sure why we waited that long, just wasn’t thinking about kids then. All of a sudden it hit us that it was the right time. I think it’s different for everyone, if you feel ready go for it! I did have my third when I was 34, and boy, do I wish I had started having kids earlier, they take a bit of energy!
 
I was 22 with my first. I felt that it helped mature me and I am glad that I started my family when I did. If you have waited three years to have a child then you are doing far better then we were. My son was born eight months after we married.:whistle:
 
I’ll be 25 when my first baby is born. I’m 11 weeks pregnant now! 😃
 
Moo Cow Steph,

Don’t worry about what people say. After all, they don’t hold any responsibility or emotional attachment to a child you conceive. When you were married the priest said, What God has joined let no man divide…Your marriage and the decisions you make in it are between you, your husband and God.
The worst decisions I have made in my life is because I listened to other people’s advice instead of listening to what God was telling me. 😦
We were married when we were 21 and had our first at 25, second at 28, and third at 29. We are adopting a fourth and will welcome her into our arms this fall.
:whacky: “Are you crazy?” seems to be the first thing out of people’s mouths when they hear we are adopting. I just tell them "Yes, I am…But that’s not the point.:yup: " The point is God called us to do this and we must answer that calling. IF I were to listen to these people, who are well meaning mind you, I wouldn’t have the guts to go on this journey. It has been amazing.
If you feel a strong desire to start your family, shut your ears to outsiders and listen intently for what it is that God wants you to do. He will never lead you astray.
 
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Tazgurl21:
I don’t have any kids thank God, and I don’t want any kids.
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Kids are a real joy. You don’t know what you are missing.
(unless you’re single)

wc
 
We had our first when I was 30 (wife was 27), second when I was 34, third when I was 37. All have been a real joy. They grow up so fast.

They were all adorable from birth to age 5, a whole lot of fun from age 5 to early teens, a handful as teenagers, argumentative as college age kids, friends (shopping mates, golf buddies) as young adults.

I really miss when they were toddlers, but we have very lively debates now that they are older. They are not as religious or spiritual as I would prefer, but they are very much into social justice and helping others.

Would I do it over again, gladly 100 times out of 100. By far the best decision we made was too have kids. The only thing I might change is maybe to pray more together as a family. They say we were too strict. We don’t think we were.

wc
 
Been married 37 years was open to children from day one of our marrage. First child 13 days before our first wedding anna. LOL
 
I was 19 when I had my first and 22 when I had my second. I’m just shy of my 25th birthday now and hope to start trying for #3 in another 2-3 yrs.
 
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wcknight:
Kids are a real joy. You don’t know what you are missing.
(unless you’re single)

wc
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Well yeah I am single, not looking into marriage cuz I don’t want to get married and have kids I’m happy the way I am. I know kids are joyful cuz i have alot of cousins that have kids. but kids aren’t for me. If the right guy comes into my life well then maybe maybe not.
 
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