When is it to much

[nana3]

My niece came back from Sunday’s visit at her dad’s with saddness again. Her dad insisted on having them on that Sunday for he could not have them on Friday or Saturday. THey were on a three day cruise and came in Sunday morning. He picked up the kids from my sisters and took them to his house and slept the rest of the day. My niece said she had to be with her “wicked” stepmom all day. She saw her cleaning and wanted to help by feeding the dog and asked her where the dog food was. This is the answer she got from her stepmom: “You have lived here long enough and know darn well where the dog food is.” in a sarcastic way. Needless to say the dog didn’t get fed for the teenagers were not home and the stepmom did not tell my niece where the dog food was. She said she felt bad for the dog and the stepmom cared less if the dog ate.

The stepmom packed my niece a lunch for school Monday. You won’t believe how she did this and how much. She took a brown paper bag and threw in the bag, one small scoop of oriental rice, half of an eggroll and one small one inch piece of chicken. All thrown in the bag with no utencils and not even in little ziplock bags. As if she was a dog to be fed. My niece did not have to eat it, thank God, for I already paid for my niece and nephew to have hot lunches this week.

That brings me to the fact that my sister has no money whatsoever. My parents are paying for all her utilities and gas. They do not want her to stop going to college for this is her last term and she will graduate with a bachelors. She only has two more months to go. Her ex has not paid child support and that is what she used to pay the kids lunches and pay their tuition. I have asked the principal about the tuition and he wants my sister to go into the office and talk to him, but he will be waving the school tuition. She just has to make the time.

My husband did something good also that may help this case. He is involved with his political party and one of the members is a guardian ad litem and a very good one. He won guardian of the year for the entire state of Florida. My husband told him that the children were being verbally and emotionally abused at their father. He said that he wants to defend the children and gave my husband his card and told him to have my sister call him. He said that there are things that can be done to help the kids. Thank God!! This sounds promising. I will let you know what he will do for the kids when I know.

 

[nana3]

Hello everyone, the court date in November 7th at 3pm. Thanks for you continued prayers. My niece is having trouble in school and concentrating especially after a weekend at dad’s. The teacher wants a conference next week with my sister for now school work is affected. She is one sad little girl and no counselor, psychologist or psychiatrist will see her in this area without dad’s permission. She goes this weekend with dad again and is already crying about it. When she arrives on Monday morning and I see her she is sad and looks very tired. I just found out that she doesn’t sleep well at her dads.

The ex has not paid child support neither and my sister is living off my parents and I help her as well. He is over 16 days late in paying child support.

I know in my heart the Lord will see that co-parenting is harmful to the children at this point and give sole custody to my sister. My nieces’ counselor will still testify that spending more than 4 days at dad’s is not in the best interest of the child.

My sister’s attorney has not heard at all from the ex’s attorney and thinks that the ex may no longer have an attorney. If that is the case, I hope and pray that for the kid’s sake the November date is not postponed. For in December the kids get two weeks of Christmas holiday and he gets one week. This would not be good for the kids mental and physical well being.

 

[Myangel]

OH nana3, I just finished reading all your posts and I have to say my heart is breaking. Please know you and your sister and her kids are in my prayers. If only your sister lived here, I could get her the best family law lawyer in town…My boss! I find it so hard to understand the law in the US, it really does not protect the children I have seen too many times angry spouses using the children as leverage and they dont realise that they are not hurting their ex’s but their own flesh and blood, their kids. So sad. Your sister is a tropper and I know Jesus is holding her through this as well as your niece and nephew.

 

[Suz21]

Hi Nana, I will also be praying for your sister and her children… Don’t worry, the Lord will do his thing.
In faith, Suz.

 

[Robaynne]

Hi Nana you and your family will always be in my prayers even though things are not great with me. We are all going through such a tough time together but there is one thing we must always remember is not to give up. Even though things might not be looking so good right now the power of togetherness and prayer goes a long way. We are going to win this battle no matter how many times we get knocked down we will dust ourselves off and move forward.

Take care and God Bless.

I Refuse To Be Discouraged

I refuse to be discouraged, to be sad, or to cry;
I refuse to be downhearted, and here’s the reason why…

I have a God who’s mighty, who’s sovereign and supreme;
I have a God who loves me, and I am on His team.

He is all wise and powerful, Jesus is His name;
Though everything is changeable, my God remains the same.

My God knows all that’s happening; beginning to the end,
His presence is my comfort, He is my dearest friend.

When sickness comes to weaken me, to bring my head down low, I call upon my mighty God; into His arms I go.

When circumstances threaten to rob me from my peace;
He draws me close unto His breast, where all my strivings cease.

And when my heart melts within me, and weakness takes control;
He gathers me into His arms, He soothes my heart and soul.

The great “I AM” is with me, my life is in His hand,
The “Son of the Lord” is my hope, it’s in His strength I stand.

I refuse to be defeated, my eyes are on my God;
He has promised to be with me, as through this life I trod.

I’m looking past all my circumstances, to Heaven’s throne above;
My prayers have reached the heart of God, I’m resting in His love.

I give God thanks in everything; my eyes are on His face;
The battle’s His, the victory is mine; He’ll help me win the race.

It’s amazing and incredible,
But it’s as true as it can be
God loves and understands us all
And that means you and me.

His grace is all sufficient
For both the young and old,
For the lonely and the timid,
For the brash and for the bold.

His love knows no exceptions,
So never feel excluded,
No matter who or what you are
Your name has been included.

And no matter what your past has been,
Trust God to understand,
And no matter what your problem is
Just place it in His Hand.

For in all of our unloveliness
This great God loves us still,
He loved us since the world began
And what’s more, He always will!

 

[nana3]

Thanks Myangel, Suz and Robaynne for your prayers and words. It is so nice to hear others praying also.

I took my niece to school this morning and this Friday is her dad’s weekend. She cried at her house before coming to me, for I drive them to school. She cried at school and told me that she had a feeling. I asked what kind of feeling and she said this, “I have a bad feeling. I have a feeling something bad will happen this weekend. Do I have to go? Please, do I have to go?” She said all this crying. I reassured her that everything will be fine and not to worry for she is having test this week in school. I told her to try and have some fun. She said, “How can I have fun? How?” My heart was so broken, but I had to be positive and strong for her. I told her to that if they went out to go to the restroom with an adult, but she said that when she ask if her dad can go with her and wait outside the door, he says no. What a dad huh?

I was reading today, the Diary of St. Faustina and read the promise of Jesus for those who venerate his Divine Mercy Image. The promise that he will help them defeat their enemies. I was reminded of this promise and will remind my sister. I do not think, as I said before, that the 3 pm hour was chosen for the court time. Jesus will show his mercy on these little innocent children and my sister. I know there are more children out there who suffer worse abuse and my sister’s experience has made me pray all the more for abused children. And Myangel you are right, here in the US we do not protect the children. It is a very sad truth and someone needs to do something about it. Who knows, maybe I will once I know more on lobbying. If the Lord makes it possible and opens doors, my husband and I will try to protect children.

My sister’s attorney said that is very illegal and unsafe to have the children in the trunk, but that there is nothing we can do about it if he is not caught red handed. My sisters’ attorney is just as tired as we are of this whole mess and all the fighting back and forth. I can’t believe how slow the justice system is around here.

Thanks again for your prayers.

 

[nana3]

My sister received a call from her attorney today. I am unsure of what she suggest as the best thing to do, but here it is. She wants to write a letter to the ex’s attorney giving the ex one last chance to go to therapy and his children. She will insist on at least three visits to a counselor and than he must follow whatever the counselor recommends. If he agrees, they my sister will not have to go to court. Here is why I don’t agree. He has lied so much in the past and said he agrees to something and then changes his mind and doesn’t do it. He can say yes to this proposition than not go to therapy and by then my sister would have dropped her case. Also, what about the kids and the abuse they receive at their dads. My sister’s attorney said that here in the State of Florida that it is impossible to take the father’s right away until there is sexual abuse going on. She doesn’t think the judge will order supervise visitation and informs my sister that this letter is the best option. If he doesn’t respond, for no one has heard from the other sides attorney for about a month, the court date is already set and we will be there. I hope he doesn’t agree for I think my sister has a better chance with the judge. She will have an expert witness testifying, the counselor. The attorneys feels that the judge will just give the ex a stern talking to and that is it. I have more faith in God and think that the judge can’t dismiss the expert witnesses testimony and what happens to my niece while at the dad’s. Please continue to pray for as the date gets closer, everyone is getting nervous, including the attorney. She knows of my sister’s finances and just doesn’t want her to spend more if it is not needed. My parents are paying for the attorney for now and they want this to go to court one last time, November 7th, and if whatever happens is not what we want, we will accept it as God’s will and live with it.

Thanks again for your prayers. We don’t have much more time left. My sister’s attorney did run into the ex’s first attorney and he told her that the reason he fired the ex is because he owes him so much money. I think the ex’s current attorney are not getting paid either. My sister’s ex may not have any attorney, and my sister’s attorney thinks that he will do what he did the last time and that is wait until close to the court date, hire a new attorney and pay him a little without him knowing his history of not paying attorneys, and when this new attorney goes before the judge he will demand more time to become familiar with the case. Last time this happened the court was rescheduled four months later. My sister and her attorney don’t want this to happen and she has been keeping an eye on how long things have been silent on the other side and the ex has had time now to hire an attorney. He will try to manipulate his new attorney and the judge, but this time my sister’s attorney will inform the judge how long he has had to hire any new attorney. It will be almost 2 months.

 

[MCGar]

My prayers for this situation!

 

[nana3]

My ex brother in law did not accept the terms in the letter from my sister’s attorney. All is set for the court date on the 7th of November. My nephew told me something disturbing but not surprising. He almost drowned in the pool while at his dad. He is 6 and doesn’t know how to swim, but was unsupervised by his dad or wife and he accidently went to the deep and paniced. He swallowed lots of water and moved to the edge of the pool. My sister had him in a program that taught the kids to move to the edge anyway possible when they are in the deep. He did tell his dad in the house that he almost drowned and that he should be watching him for he is a kid and his dad said, “well your okay, no harm done.” My niece who is older heard him say this. Sad huh? It is not safe at the dads and never as been.

 

[nana3]

Thanks to all for your prayers. My BIL won and the kids will not be supervised by anyone while at his home. He knew how to use the system and his attorney was better than my sisters. My sister was charged with being in contempt, but only has to give her ex the Thanksgiving holiday. She is so depressed. The court did order the husband to take the kids to counseling, but he didn’t get in trouble for it for he made it sound that he agrees with counseling, but just not the one that was going to testify. THe counselor was there but didn’t testify and knew she would not, but did take the $200.00 before the court date today.

 

[Karin]

Thanks to all for your prayers. My BIL won and the kids will not be supervised by anyone while at his home. He knew how to use the system and his attorney was better than my sisters. My sister was charged with being in contempt, but only has to give her ex the Thanksgiving holiday. She is so depressed. The court did order the husband to take the kids to counseling, but he didn’t get in trouble for it for he made it sound that he agrees with counseling, but just not the one that was going to testify. THe counselor was there but didn’t testify and knew she would not, but did take the $200.00 before the court date today.

AND WHY IN GOD’S NAME didnt the counselor testify???

 

[nana3]

AND WHY IN GOD’S NAME didnt the counselor testify???

SHe was so ready to testify two months ago and testify to the fact that it is not in the best interest of the children to spend long times at their father’s due to physical neglect, lack of supervision, and emotional and verbal abuse. She was sent a letter by the ex’s attorney of some law which prevents her of breaking the seal of privacy between patient and counselor. She could not testify due to this. No one could testify to what the children have told us for it is all “hear say” and the judge would not listen.

It is now 3 am here where I am at and I can’t sleep. I just can’t believe that my ex BIL will get away with not paying child support and oweing my sister about $5000.00 in past medical bills and current and recent medical bills. He was not found in contempt for that. He doesn’t allow the children to call their mother and he was not in contempt for that, in fact the judge reprimanded my sister and told her that she doesn’t need to talk to her children on a daily basis when they are at their dads for two weeks, he said, “they are on vacation.” This is not in the final divorce papers which says she can and should talk to the children daily when at their dad’s. Counselors in the past have recommended that both parents call their children daily when not with the other.

Karin, I am so depressed and am so afraid for the children. My niece and nephew are like my own children. THey are suffering abuse over there and now there is nothing that will be done unless one of the children gets so badly beaten or dies. This is what our attorney told us, it is the law. The law protects the right of a mother and father to see and be with their children. They don’t care about mental and emotional abuse. Since the ex and his wife are cops, they know how to use the system and they did and won. THey lost the love of their children though and my niece is growing hatred for her father every day.

I don’t understand the will of God here and I know I need to be resigned to his will. My sister has no more fight in her to protect her children. Maybe our niece has lied about how bad it is over there, I don’t know what to think. WHY would God allow this? I don’t know. I know that my ex BIL lied so much in court and was believable that the judge believed him. He lied and said he was outside of the bathroom of the theatre and she much have missed him and walked outside and got lost, I mean my niece here.

 

[nana3]

What gets to me is the children are the ones in the middle of all this and they will have more to suffer. They are going to need counseling all of their lives living at the dad’s where not only they are abused but also spiritually and morally neglected. They are living in a household that has the step mom and dad living in mortal sin for their is no annulment and she is on her third marriage. THey don’t go to Mass and the 17 year old and 14 year old are actively seeing boyfriends and the 17 is allowed to stay out all night. My niece said sometimes she returns from her boyfriend in the morning when she wakes up. My ex- BIL use to tell me that he sees nothing wrong with pre-marital sex. The teens dress very inmodestly. All I can do is pray so that they will grow up fearing and loving God and doing his will, but I will be honest, my niece likes these teens and looks up to them. THey will have an influence on her, they are her step sisters.

I am sitting here and crying. I can’t sleep. I know I should not worry, but the ex won, he won and the children will suffer. My sister is completely broke and will have to live with my parents if she continues with no child support and quit college and he dreams of going to Physical Therapy School to make a better living for her and her children. SHe willl not be able to afford to be a full time student, not because of the cost of going to school for she has grants, but not being able to have daily living money for expenses. I had to bring my niece this past Monday to the ER due to an insect bite she got at her dad’s this weekend. They saw that it was swollen and red and hot to the touch, but did not see the need for her to go to the doctors. SHe developed cellulitis. When she will be longer at her dads and develops anything, they tell her to “suck it up.” Sad, but very true.

By the way, this judge was in agreement of taking the kids by force if need be to the dads, as has happened in the past. I testified to the time my ex BIL took the kids out of my car by force. I was reprimanded for defending the kids and talking to in front of them to the father and his wife. They are real big on not talking in front of the kids. I was just allowing the kids to talk to their dad and let them express how they feel, but apparently the judge said I mean well, but make things worse. Maybe, I did, but I did it to protect my niece and nephew and they wanted me to tell their dad how they felt, for they feared him and still do.

I am sorry to go on. I have to go now and have a good cry.

 

[Robaynne]

I have been struggling for the right words to say right not. I am sorry that you are going through this. I had hoped that things would work out differently.

God has a plan am not sure what it is yet but he has a plan. All we can all do now is pray that things work out for the best. Whether we want to hear this or not but he is their father at the end of the day and he has a right to see those kids. I pray to God that he and is wife change and become better people. I know that you are guys are feeling so dispondent and disappointed. But you cannot blame God for this or feel that he has forsaken you guys.

Norma must now pick up the pieces and move on. She cannot allow herself to stay knocked down. She must just pray that things work out some how or the other. Just try and be positive I know that it is not easy and it is going to be hard. Norma needs to lift herself up for those kids sake. The devil is now going to work on you guys and you have to be strong. Continue to pray, read the bible and fast don’t give up. Try and do things differently now.

I don’t know how to say this but try and not let the kids see that you guys are worried about this situation try and take the positive out of this negative situation. And the morals and values that you have instilled in those kids will be with them forever. Yes, you niece might think the world of her step sisters but that does not mean that she will want to do the same things that they do. Everybody has a choice in life and Norma’s kids are still very young and maybe things are going to change. Let us just pray and keep on praying and not giving up on life.

Norma must make sure that she puts her ex in for child support. Even if it means he pays school fees, buys cloths twice a year (winter and summer).

This is a suggestion if Norma is not able to talk to her kids everyday while they are at the father’s place. Why does she not prepare before hand letters that they can read to let them know that she is thinking of them, little reassuring notes or even how you feel cards. And pack them in the bag so that they can read them while they are away. Put it in a envelope and write the date and day on the outside. She does not need to say anything bad about the Ex or even talk about them. For example Today is Monday and remember that I love you guys and am thinking about you. Or even right a little pray that they can say. Try not to make a big issue over the fact that they cannot speak every day.

You guys need to do things differently now. You cannot show these people that they have won. Be pleasant, be nice (even if you guys do not feel like it). You are better than them and you have the power of God and the support of so many people on your side. You are not defeated yet. Those kids are going to be fine and they are going to come out of this. And you guys need to stop talking in front of these kids about how you feel about the ex and his wife. They are feeding off these vibes.

There is one thing that I always remember about my mother she never ever said a bad word in front of us about my father. She never bad mouthed him even though he hurt her so badly and caused her so much pain and left her to take care of 5 children on her own with no means of support. I was only 2 when he left and never saw how she suffered as much as my older brothers and sisters did. I made my choice myself about him. He is now 75 yrs old and is suffering in such a bad way for what he did to us. He will never know his grandchildren and us. We are what we are today because of my mother. And she was a good women no matter what people said to her how can she still have faith in God after all he has done to her. She never gave up on life and on God.

No matter how angry and upset I am with my ex it does not help to bad mouth my ex in front of them. And I had a good talk with them and I explained to them that their father loves them no matter what happens in life they are not to blame for what happened between us. He has his reason why he does not call or come and see them. And he needs to explain to them one day why. It is not my place to do so. I cannot allow them to grow up and feel my feelings and emotions towards their father or even towards my own father. I always felt that I am reliving my own childhood of not having a father figure around. But I never suffered I had a brothers to look up to and they took care of me. As there is such a big gap between us I was the baby and spoilt by my brothers and sisters.

So take care and remember you are always in my prayers.

 

[Karin]

SHe was so ready to testify two months ago and testify to the fact that it is not in the best interest of the children to spend long times at their father’s due to physical neglect, lack of supervision, and emotional and verbal abuse. She was sent a letter by the ex’s attorney of some law which prevents her of breaking the seal of privacy between patient and counselor. She could not testify due to this. No one could testify to what the children have told us for it is all “hear say” and the judge would not listen.

It is now 3 am here where I am at and I can’t sleep. I just can’t believe that my ex BIL will get away with not paying child support and oweing my sister about $5000.00 in past medical bills and current and recent medical bills. He was not found in contempt for that. He doesn’t allow the children to call their mother and he was not in contempt for that, in fact the judge reprimanded my sister and told her that she doesn’t need to talk to her children on a daily basis when they are at their dads for two weeks, he said, “they are on vacation.” This is not in the final divorce papers which says she can and should talk to the children daily when at their dad’s. Counselors in the past have recommended that both parents call their children daily when not with the other.

Karin, I am so depressed and am so afraid for the children. My niece and nephew are like my own children. THey are suffering abuse over there and now there is nothing that will be done unless one of the children gets so badly beaten or dies. This is what our attorney told us, it is the law. The law protects the right of a mother and father to see and be with their children. They don’t care about mental and emotional abuse. Since the ex and his wife are cops, they know how to use the system and they did and won. THey lost the love of their children though and my niece is growing hatred for her father every day.

I don’t understand the will of God here and I know I need to be resigned to his will. My sister has no more fight in her to protect her children. Maybe our niece has lied about how bad it is over there, I don’t know what to think. WHY would God allow this? I don’t know. I know that my ex BIL lied so much in court and was believable that the judge believed him. He lied and said he was outside of the bathroom of the theatre and she much have missed him and walked outside and got lost, I mean my niece here.

Ah…next time get the court to appoint a therapist…they CAN tesitify without any issues
I can totally udnerstand your concerns…my suggestion is pray and help your sister get a better attoenry for next time…

 

[Robaynne]

I Refuse To Be Discouraged

I refuse to be discouraged, to be sad, or to cry;
I refuse to be downhearted, and here’s the reason why…

I have a God who’s mighty, who’s sovereign and supreme;
I have a God who loves me, and I am on His team.

He is all wise and powerful, Jesus is His name;
Though everything is changeable, my God remains the same.

My God knows all that’s happening; beginning to the end,
His presence is my comfort, He is my dearest friend.

When sickness comes to weaken me, to bring my head down low,
I call upon my mighty God; into His arms I go.

When circumstances threaten to rob me from my peace;
He draws me close unto His breast, where all my strivings cease.

And when my heart melts within me, and weakness takes control;
He gathers me into His arms, He soothes my heart and soul.

The great “I AM” is with me, my life is in His hand,
The “Son of the Lord” is my hope, it’s in His strength I stand.

I refuse to be defeated, my eyes are on my God;
He has promised to be with me, as through this life I trod.

I’m looking past all my circumstances, to Heaven’s throne above;
My prayers have reached the heart of God, I’m resting in His love.

I give God thanks in everything; my eyes are on His face;
The battle’s His, the victory is mine; He’ll help me win the race.

–Author Unknown

It’s amazing and incredible,
But it’s as true as it can be
God loves and understands us all
And that means you and me.

His grace is all sufficient
For both the young and old,
For the lonely and the timid,
For the brash and for the bold.

His love knows no exceptions,
So never feel excluded,
No matter who or what you are
Your name has been included.

And no matter what your past has been,
Trust God to understand,
And no matter what your problem is
Just place it in His Hand.

For in all of our unloveliness
This great God loves us still,
He loved us since the world began
And what’s more, He always will!

 

[nana3]

Norma must make sure that she puts her ex in for child support. Even if it means he pays school fees, buys cloths twice a year (winter and summer).

Her ex has to be 15 days total late and how he does it is that he pays anything, usually a small amount before the 15th, which is usually the beginning of the month. The law will not do anything about it then. He is also claiming that he is not working, but is in fact working. He just has is own businesses so it is hard to call an employer, he is the boss. My sister is already going to have to cut off her phone services and cell phone. She can’t afford it. She is thinking of taking her kids out of the Catholic School, which is what the father has wanted from the beginning.

I like the note a day you recommended and I will let her know.

As far as being positive around the kids, she has done a great job. My niece is home from school sick again with stomach pains and I asked her how was her mom yesterday after the court and she said mom was fine and she helped me make a behavior chart. She did not notice anything different from her mom. I did call her in advance, after my sister dropped me off at home, and asked my niece to listen to her mom today and help her brother get to bed. I was so proud of her, for she did. She usually gives my sister the anger she has on her dad and his wife. Out of nowhere the date before the court date, she told my sister she hated her step mom. My sister told her to talk to her dad about it, but did acknowledge her feelings. She just told me the same today and I told her to pray for her.

Its funny that she told me today that she had to tell me a funny story. I was thinking of a story she may have heard of in school and she said that one time when her dad picked her and her brother from school, her brother told his dad that he was going to hell. His dad asked why he would say that and he said they were talking about hell in school that day and that mean people don’t go to heaven. He told his dad that he was a mean and rude person and therefore going to hell. His dad told him that the only way you go to hell is if you murder someone and he laughed and said he had not. My niece said she laughed at the whole conversation. She said her brother was persistent on telling his dad he was going to hell.

 

[nana3]

Ah…next time get the court to appoint a therapist…they CAN tesitify without any issues
I can totally udnerstand your concerns…my suggestion is pray and help your sister get a better attoenry for next time…

The judge did order counseling, but he did not appoint any particular counseling. He told the dad that he had to pick three counselors and submit it to my sister and she needs to approve of one and if she doesn’t of all three, she needs to have a good reason. The problem now is that since she is getting no child support and is a full time student, she can’t afford the co-payment which is $25.00 every visit. I told her to have him take the children to counseling and pay for it, since he owes her for so many co-payment medical bills. We don’t know if he will agree. But the court did not appoint a counselor.

I did just talk to my other sister, not Norma, who was in the court room from beginning to end. I had to step out for I was a witness. She said my sister’s attorney was so incompetent and was terrible in her questions. This is the reason my sister lost. I think if she had a better attorney with the all evidence, a more experienced and better lawyer would have done more and not asked stupid questions. Apparently, the judge was getting annoyed at her and yelled at her several times.

Thanks to all for your prayers and thanks Robaynne for the poems. I am not angry anymore. I am over it with prayers and I think it was just a reaction of it all at first. I was not the only up last night though, my mom and Norma did not sleep either. Norma is still very angry. I think she is angry at herself for not switching attorneys long ago when I noticed that she was not that good. Also all the areas she got in trouble for were all things she did on advice of her attorney.

 

[nana3]

I can’t believe that all this is still not over. My ex BIL is not responding to my sister’s attorney about the counseling needed for the kids. This part is not surprising to us, but he is now still wanting to make up his 21 days lost, even after the judge gave him the Thanksgiving Holidays and make up his own days. He is also wanting my sister to pay all his attorney’s fee. It is over $10,000.00. She has no money and they know it, but since they have about two businesses and two part-time jobs, they think my sister is lying about having a job also. They think she has money.

I am so upset with my sister’s attorney. I wonder if she could be sued to pay this amount, for it was by her professional legal advice that got my sister to refuse visitation to her ex. She thought, as I did, that this lawyer knew the law and what she was doing. She was not a good family law lawyer at all.

I hate to even ask, but please continue to pray for her and her children. I think this is not over. Her ex will not allow the kids to see a counselor. He doesn’t care if he goes into comtempt. He has been and has gotten away with it. He paid a huge amount of money just before going into the courtroom of past child support and medical bills that he did not pay against court order. He did this to not be found in comtempt and now to know of our surprise, is not paying child support again. He is very late again. My sister doesn’t care anymore and I believe is suffering from depression. Her daughter is yelling at her and taking over and even telling her mom to “shut up.” My sister said she doesn’t care and just cries. I think she needs medications. Her daughter is taking her anger out on her mom. She is so angry about going to her dad’s on Thanksgiving Holiday. I told her that she has to get use to it and she just cried and said we have no idea what it is like over there. I can’t do anything. My sister can’t do anything. The law doesn’t do anything. These are two cops, and they believe them over us. Our hands are tied and all that is left is prayer and trusting that God will protect them from the verbal and emotional abuse. It is not normal for a kid to cry to much when she knows that she has to go to her dad’s. She cried again before this weekend and is there now. My sister reminded her that she can call her and she cried and said she is not allowed too.

The ex is also in this letter to my sister’s attorney asking in writing for my sister’s incarceration. What a man! I hate to say this, but I don’t think this is over. I am afraid it is not. I worry for the children. My niece knew that my husband went into the hospital before her visitation with her dad and asked if she could call me to see how her uncle is doing. SHe has not called and will not call, for she is not allowed to.

 

[Karin]

nana3-
why is she waiting for him to pay child support? she can through the courts have is wages automaticvally garnished for his child support and then the state sends her the money…I do this in regards to my child support…never late and if he does not have the money he gets thrown in jail

As to your sisters lawyer…SHE NEEDS TO GET A NEW ONE!

I can’t believe that all this is still not over. My ex BIL is not responding to my sister’s attorney about the counseling needed for the kids. This part is not surprising to us, but he is now still wanting to make up his 21 days lost, even after the judge gave him the Thanksgiving Holidays and make up his own days. He is also wanting my sister to pay all his attorney’s fee. It is over $10,000.00. She has no money and they know it, but since they have about two businesses and two part-time jobs, they think my sister is lying about having a job also. They think she has money.

I am so upset with my sister’s attorney. I wonder if she could be sued to pay this amount, for it was by her professional legal advice that got my sister to refuse visitation to her ex. She thought, as I did, that this lawyer knew the law and what she was doing. She was not a good family law lawyer at all.

I hate to even ask, but please continue to pray for her and her children. I think this is not over. Her ex will not allow the kids to see a counselor. He doesn’t care if he goes into comtempt. He has been and has gotten away with it. He paid a huge amount of money just before going into the courtroom of past child support and medical bills that he did not pay against court order. He did this to not be found in comtempt and now to know of our surprise, is not paying child support again. He is very late again. My sister doesn’t care anymore and I believe is suffering from depression. Her daughter is yelling at her and taking over and even telling her mom to “shut up.” My sister said she doesn’t care and just cries. I think she needs medications. Her daughter is taking her anger out on her mom. She is so angry about going to her dad’s on Thanksgiving Holiday. I told her that she has to get use to it and she just cried and said we have no idea what it is like over there. I can’t do anything. My sister can’t do anything. The law doesn’t do anything. These are two cops, and they believe them over us. Our hands are tied and all that is left is prayer and trusting that God will protect them from the verbal and emotional abuse. It is not normal for a kid to cry to much when she knows that she has to go to her dad’s. She cried again before this weekend and is there now. My sister reminded her that she can call her and she cried and said she is not allowed too.

The ex is also in this letter to my sister’s attorney asking in writing for my sister’s incarceration. What a man! I hate to say this, but I don’t think this is over. I am afraid it is not. I worry for the children. My niece knew that my husband went into the hospital before her visitation with her dad and asked if she could call me to see how her uncle is doing. SHe has not called and will not call, for she is not allowed to.