wabrams:
A couple of things here:
- For everybody saying he should have been able to stop her from hitting him, remember: we’re the most off guard when we’re in the privacy of our home, no matter what your profession is. And when you’re off guard, things happen even quicker.
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I’m no doctor, but I am pretty sure it is impossible to have your guard down when you’re angry (as OP admits), even in your own ohome. Anger stimulates adrenalin. I do wonder how he missed something as big as a frying pan coming at him. Since he was hit in the forehead, he was facing her, and unless she has superhuman speed and perhaps did this during a “blink”, it seems odd that even if he couldn’t completely defelct the blow, that he didn’t partially. I could very well be wrong, but it does sound suspicious.
Although I am inclined to disagree with the OP’s actions, I am refraining from saying so, because only he, his wife and God knows what really happened. And no, I am not saying that it is any more okay for a woman to hit a man than vice versa, but GENERALLY speaking, it is DIFFERENT.
The woman is considered the weaker sex. In the instance, of the man married to a soldier or cop, this would be thought to be an exception to the general rule that yes, if my husband wanted to, he could kill me in a physical confrontation much easier than I could him. I would have to resort to the “sneakier” ways … like poisening, while he was sleeping or unaware … etc. But perhaps his wife is bigger than him, or he just “let it happen” From the evidence that as been presented, I think he could have stopped her. And his post says he was on his way to put the gun away, not that he had.
There were times early in our marriage that while arguing with my husband, I would intentionally provoke him. He would finally give me a shove or something (barely) and I would let my body go like he had really pushed me hard. I intentionally didn’t defend myself to intentionally make the damages from what he did … worse. Sick psycho games … glad those days are gone. Glad a prison sentence or our own stupidity didn’t destroy what has, in Christ, turned out to be a BEAUTIFUL, HAPPY, and FULFILLING marriage.