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Why would he be intimate with a woman before being married? Fornication is a sin.I’d even be willing to bet he’s never even been intimate with a woman.
Why would he be intimate with a woman before being married? Fornication is a sin.I’d even be willing to bet he’s never even been intimate with a woman.
Some thoughts:Reality doesn’t change with the passing time. A woman older than 25 who is not married should probably be asking why she’s been sexually mature for nearly a decade and unable to rope in a man. Especially because her attractiveness has peaked and she will never be as attractive again. So it’s a valid question to ask why she is where she is.
So if this is true, why were so many women women relegated to cleaning and cooking and beaten by their husbands? Not to mention all the sexist vintage ads, some which even explicitly stated that men are better than women. You’re enjoying freedoms now that you wouldn’t have been able to before women fought for their rights, and some that women in other parts of the world don’t have, now you’re taking that for granted. You can drive, choose to go to school, and even run for president. Your ability to play tennis with other men was something that Title IX fought for. And yet feminism is bad?Any man before then knew that women had equal dignity to him. In fact, they quite possibly had more respect for women.
So where do you get your “true” statistics from?Women are quoting statistics that just aren’t true.
Their beliefs are still compatible with the Oxford definition.I know there are a few groups who claim to be feminist and pro-life but the main movement is not controlled by these women
Now you’re coming off as a “pick me” type here. You called yourself an “independent and head-strong” woman earlier in the post, so why are you now discouraging that behavior? You didn’t say that about the men who made posts like this on this thread. The fact that you take issue with a woman holding debate and having ideas says a lot more about you than me and indicates internalized sexism. And funny you say “easy for a man to talk to”. I find that a lot of men actually love my intellect and love debating with me. They don’t like boring girls who just agree with whatever they say. This isn’t the Victorian era where we’re expected to catch a husband by coyly peering over our fans.Read your post and ask yourself if you’re an easy person to talk to for a guy. That’s the topic of the post, essentially how does a guy find a good Catholic woman who will be like a soft pillow, not like a barb-wired fence.
Not really. I’ve mentioned before the story of some of my relatives, where a mother wanted to leave her husband in the 1950s, but her parents would not take her in–and no, there really wasn’t anyplace for a mother of a large family to go (remember that women’s shelters were a creation of the 1970s). The father of that family was extremely abusive and molested two generations of girls. There’s much more awareness and much less toleration of that sort of thing today. A wife and mother in that situation is much better off today than 60 years ago–there are places she can go and people who can help her and the children.Feminism is not about the three things you mentioned. They were all there before the 1970’s.
I’m not sure I see the difference between those two things.In my view, men are made more for sacrifice, and women more for service.
Shudder, a woman left her home twice a week to buy groceries!They drive the car to get to the Pamper store in the middle of the week, when they should have known on grocery day what they’d need three days later.
Do you see the irony of posting this post and writing that?For all their ambition, women like to sit and have tea and criticize others.
Bear in mind, that there’s a certain amount of toughness necessary for a chaste gal on her own–one needs to be able to say “no” and make it stick. Motherhood requires a lot of toughness. I’m finishing up 3 years of potty training a moderately special needs child (she’s 5+) who was still having a lot of poop accidents at 4.5. We have three children, two of which are special needs. The older one is doing great now, but when she was younger, there were two years where she threw multi-hour tantrums. I’m probably looking at 2-3 years of very intensive work on the youngest. If I were just a soft pillow, I couldn’t do what I need to do for my family.That’s the topic of the post, essentially how does a guy find a good Catholic woman who will be like a soft pillow, not like a barb-wired fence.
It’s a pet peeve of mine to see people romanticizing the past like this. It’s wrong, on all accounts.They were all there before the 1970’s. Any man before then knew that women had equal dignity to him. In fact, they quite possibly had more respect for women. Consider what atrocities men were willing to fight when they signed up to fight in the Second World War.
Wow, you’re just so much better than all those silly feminists, huh? What does 99% of what you’re saying have to do with feminism?Now, I’m an independent head-strong woman. And all the feminists you talk about, I’ve seen. They let their husbands drive the car when they’re out together. When I ask who mows the lawn, they say stuff like, my husband, of course! They yammer on about environmentalism, but throw piles and piles of Pampers in the trash. They drive the car to get to the Pamper store in the middle of the week, when they should have known on grocery day what they’d need three days later. When I tell them all my ambitions, or want to talk politics, they look at me blankly and talk about something their friend said that offended them. In fact, I’ve rarely met anybody as ambitious as I, and I’m not a feminist. I can’t find women who will play tennis with me. For all their ambition, women like to sit and have tea and criticize others. So I end up having to play tennis with men. Then after one game or two or whatever, their wives get jealous, and I have to look for another tennis partner.
Like it or not, there are very, very few people on CAF who met their future spouse via their home parish.If anyone at church says that church is not an appropriate place to try to find a spouse tell them kindly that they are part of the reason churches are dysfunctional.
You ought to specify here Protestant Christianity.since Christianity is like an umbrella with so many different denominations. Many of these denominations disagree on their interpretations of the Bible
Being “sexually mature for a decade” is completely irrelevant (as of course you know) since a 15-year-old is obviously not going to be ready for marriage for at least 6 more years (give or take a bit, depending on the person). Plus, many girls reach sexual maturity younger than 15. Are they supposed to be looking for a husband in their teens simply because they physically matured at 12?A woman older than 25 who is not married should probably be asking why she’s been sexually mature for nearly a decade and unable to rope in a man.
In the end, it’s depends on the person. It’s risky to treat people as a uniform mass and push them to marry ‘too early’ or ‘too late’.The greatest indicated likelihood of being in an intact marriage of the highest quality is among those who married at ages 22–25, net of the estimated effects of time since first marriage and several variables that might commonly affect age at marriage and marital outcomes. The negative relationship beyond the early to mid-twenties between age at marriage and marital success is likely to be at least partially spurious, and thus it would be premature to conclude that the optimal time for first marriage for most persons is ages 22–25. However, the findings do suggest that most persons have little or nothing to gain in the way of marital success by deliberately postponing marriage beyond the mid-twenties.
http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0049089X10001183?via=ihub
Wow, what a real catch you are!Especially because her attractiveness has peaked and she will never be as attractive again. So it’s a valid question to ask why she is where she is.