Where is a good place to find a Catholic Wife?

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It’ s okay by me if you don’t want to believe U.S. Department of Labor statistics. You, my friend, represent the new normal in our country. If you disagree with something than it becomes Fake News. I think you would regret an argument based on real facts–as they say, “never bring a knife to a gun fight”. Your silly video is produced by Prager U., a phone-baloney university formed by a right wing radio talk show host who most likely got his degree from Walmart.
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I never said I don’t believe the U.S. Department of Labor stats, I’m disputing the simplistic conclusion you and those with a certain political agenda draw from them. As I’ve already made clear, it’s sloppy and misleading, a very superficial analysis, to compare total earnings of two groups without also considering the many qualifying factors. The problem I see is these types of emotional personal attacks are systemic and fueling divisive identity politics. To tie into the OP, this type of vitriol is what to avoid when looking for a good wife.
 
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Yikes I always thought one of the posters here like to troll around when it comes to women and submission but I’m getting the idea now that he’s serious. 😱

You could find great catholic women in events. It doesn’t have to be in Mass. Eg a TOB talk or something. Have friends with the same faith, because that’s just good for you. If you’re lucky, you might come across a friend of theirs.
 
It’s better to say the abuse between two people has to stop. If that requires legal separation for a couple for a time, then that’s what it takes. But in the eyes of the Church, they are still married. Society will let you out of anything. It’s Jesus and His Church that have more requirements.

Divorce is a contagious disease that leaves scars.
 
Church is the best place to find a wife (if the seeker is male) or a husband (if the one seeking is female). But no, I would not deem it appropriate to ask for a date on Church grounds.
 
I really believe strongly that marriage is a matter of divine providence. If you want to be married AND God wills you be married, you will be.

You have to make some effort, of course. Use your human reason, sure, though I think many persons just collided with their spouse when they weren’t even looking for one in a specific way. People meet their spouses in so many different ways.

Just a quick fact…I looked online and the average age for men to marry in the United States is 29, so don’t freak out too much. Be patient and trust God that he will guide and help you.

Edit: I would also suggest joining a catholic singles group if there is one in your area. That seems a worthy possibility to me. The one in my parish looks to be having a very good time and has 20 to 25 members, I estimate. I walk by them every Monday evening on my way to adoration.

And don’t neglect to pray about this. I would recommend daily. Don’t forget to be reconciled to His Will, though, when you ask for a temporal good. He knows best.
 
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I agree that if you want a good Catholic spouse, you yourself should do your best to be a “good Catholic”.
So, if you want a chaste spouse, you yourself should be chaste.
If you want someone who goes to Church at least as obligated, then you yourself should do such.
If you want your spouse to have admiration for the Eucharist, then you yourself should do such.
Yadda yadda
 
One “mechanism” to finding a Catholic wife is to ask God to find her for you.

In my case, I did a LOT of for work traveling. Any time that I met a woman who was of interest, within 30 days either I was gone or she was gone or we were both gone … generally separated by 10,000 miles. No joke.

So, I said a prayer asking that God would find a wife for me.

One day, I just happened to notice a help wanted advert in a technical magazine. I sent in a resume, had a couple of interviews, and got the job. And one of the women who was working there “just happened” to be an unmarried Catholic woman the same age as me. Ta-da!!

49 years later, we are still married.
 
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I agree with this.
However, the child, not having come from an intact and happy marriage, will have to educate themselves on what goes into a strong marriage and work harder to maintain it.
 
So many problematic posts, so little time.
You do have to stay away from at least 70% of women though, because they’re often taking women studies courses, advocating for same-sex marriage, or in agreement with leftist, feminist causes.
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Feminism is the belief that women are equal to men. That women should be treated with respect, that they shouldn’t be raped or assaulted, and that they should be paid equally to men when qualified. Do you have issues with those things? If you don’t think that you’re equal to men, then do you think you’re subservient to them all?
Reality doesn’t change with the passing time. A woman older than 25 who is not married should probably be asking why she’s been sexually mature for nearly a decade and unable to rope in a man. Especially because her attractiveness has peaked and she will never be as attractive again. So it’s a valid question to ask why she is where she is.
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So now you’re saying a woman should find a husband at 15. I bet you also support Roy Moore too, don’t you? If OP is 29, and therefore “sexually mature” for a decade and a half, why hasn’t he been able to “rope in” woman? Also, not all of us age like your mother did. Black women in particular look younger for a lot longer and tend to age better due to the protective properties of melanin skin, if it’s really of that much concern to you.
Feminism is not Catholic dogma, as much as you want it to be, it just isn’t. Also, feminism is a very unattractive personality trait.
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Again, do you think that all women should show deference to men? Because that’s exactly what you’re saying here.You probably do, given your posts. There are plenty of other ways to be masculine that don’t involve putting women down. It’s funny you’re the one calling it an unattractive personality trait but can’t find a wife. Hmm, wonder why 🤔
He’s right that you shouldn’t date a girl who talks about equality and women’s rights. She should understand while it IS a partnership, her husband’s authority in spiritual matters trumps her ideas.
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This is sexist ideation, and what you’re saying contradicts itself. It’s not a partnership if both people aren’t treated as equals, that would be a dictatorship. Also note that girls who grow up in households where the mother is not respected, as you describe here, are more likely to marry men who are abusive and/or don’t treat them respectfully.
A girl with divorced parents IS a big risk. She may not have learned about compromise or sacrifice or some other essential component like perseverance through adversity. But she could still be a possibility if she knows her parents’ flaws by name, and won’t repeat them.
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Plenty of people with divorced parents are able to sustain happy marriages, that’s why it’s unwise to automatically rule them out. Many people in unhappy, dysfunctional, and abusive marriages also stay together and present a happy face to the world. Some of us actually learn from our parents’ mistakes. Mine got divorced partially because they married too young, which is why I find it funny that some don’t recommend finding a wife over the age of 25.
 
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As for swearing, there’s nothing really wrong with it.
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Although I myself struggle with swearing, it is not recommended by the Bible, so those who have issue with it should be working on eradicating it instead of excusing it.
Note that the following two things are not equivalent:
–“a guy who desires a virgin, ans would not date anyone who was sexually active” (wants a female virgin)
–"“female who wants a chaste man, didn’t sleep around and all that stuff” (wants a chaste man without a promiscuous past, not necessarily a virgin)
While one occasional bumps into a CAF posting from a young woman who is sick about the fact that her boyfriend or fiance has been with other women before her, I think it’s clearly the case that there are far more male CAF virgin-hunters than there are female CAF virgin-hunters, and that the male ones often have a substantial “past.” They tend to have “science” and the Red Pill on their side, but it boils down to, I screwed around, but I deserve a virgin bride.
It’s purportedly about reducing divorce risk, but then they do stuff like wanting a very young woman, which is a notorious divorce risk in the social science world. Another thing those guys do is talking smack about college for women, which is also highly correlated with lasting marriages.
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I wish I could share this x1000
Romans 2:1 "You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge another, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things."
 
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I think that meeting someone “at church” probably means meeting someone in various programs the Church organizes but not really in the church, after Mass, or just trying to pick up someone who just came to church to pray. There is thing, even if you are the sexiest man alive with IQ reaching the stars, but if you are the type of guy who would seriously come on to women within the church where the Holy Spirit dwells from all the prayers being said and so on there is something fishy about you. At least in modern times we are “trained” (besides having Cleopatra like skills in belittling and whipping men 😆) to be aware of circumstances when romance simply shouldn’t be and if it is then it’s strange. Like a place of worship.
But you can try befriending them in church not asking them out and then figure out what you want and what she wants from there. 😉
Maybe try beside charities, other Catholic places like libraries, working for magazines etc. And the best idea is to forget about why you are there while you are there so you can be more relaxed and enjoy it too.
 
I think he has a point. He is not saying EVERY woman is like that, but most young women that I know are like that.
 
Part of it is lack of maturity. I know because I too was like that when I was young. I stand by what I said, person who wants to take a stab at me personally.
 
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Part of it is lack of maturity.
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The OP wasn’t talking about a “lack of maturity”: he was painting the female gender as a bunch of misandrist she-devils. Being a young woman myself, I take issue with that. Maybe look a bit closer at what he said before agreeing with him.
 
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He never said all women are bad or the entire female gender is a bunch of misandrist she-devils. He said ‘a lot of women.’ Go check it out. If he is still looking for a wife, then he must believe there are still some good women out there.
 
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