Where is a good place to find a Catholic Wife?

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Short answer to your question: Where ever God wants you to be.

It could seriously be a bar, a church, a park, a foreign country, or even a dating site. God will match up up when the time is right. Maybe the woman he wants you marry isn’t ready yet, though I would assume you might not be ready either.

My wife was a non-Catholic who supported abortion and same-sex marriage. However, even before I met her, she was interested in learning more about the faith. As I taught her some things about the catechism, we naturally covered those taboo topics and she accepted the Church’s teachings as what makes sense in reality, no scripture passages required. Perhaps until then, I wasn’t ready to give her what she needed. Note that I didn’t seek her out, but rather she appeared when the time was right.

I know at least one good marriage where the wife rejected dating the first time, but years later they began to date. God’s time is the best time.

More importantly though is why do you want a wife? And is that really the life for you? I’m not saying that you need to be a priest, but not everyone is meant to be married. I would suggest watching this video from Top Tenz
 
Geez, remind me never to ask about relationships here, it’ll just turn into some kind of political debate.
 
It’s saturday night, all thse folks home aarguing about how to find a soul mate…think about that.

I found mine about 38 years ago in a on base Officers Club in Little Creek., Virgina, a Thursday night sing along in the basement bar… The Where isn’t as important as recognizing its right there in front of you!

And don’t rule out other Christian faiths. Things can change with a little faith in the Lord!

Seek and you shall find!
 
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I met my wife there, almost 18 years ago. I’m not Catholic, either, but she is.
 
ChunkMonk said:
You should ne thanking me. I have you a chnace to white-knight and signal your good feminist credentials so women you have never met can give you e-likes
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You know something, ChunkMonk? It’s most likely not your poverty and looks that repulse women. Poor and homely people get married all the time. You know what women REALLY don’t like? Basically everything you’ve said about our gender thus far. Check your attitude: you’ll be surprised at how much it’ll improve your life.
 
  1. Why would a Catholic husband tell his wife not to go to church etc…? I don’t get that.
  2. I spoke of only the woman’s parents’ marriage because ChunkMonk was speaking as a man and giving advice to the OP, a man, about whom to marry.
  3. It is not a question of charity. It’s a question of the truth. When you notice consistently un-Catholic behaviour and you call it, that doesn’t mean you’re uncharitable.
  4. On the contrary, his speech patterns are going to drive away the ones he doesn’t want to attract, which is at it should be.
  5. Your mother and grandmother come from a different generation. Men today watch t.v. shows with swearing, join armies and save people from rape and torture all while swearing, swear while hanging out with their friends for fun. There are a few swear words that make little sense, I admit, but why can’t they have some fun at our expense? Women like to joke about men’s foibles too.
  6. Men and women should both strive for good behaviour. That includes cutting ChunkMonk and the OP some slack. They never claimed to be perfect. They only have some objective standards of what constitutes the right woman for them.
 
We would. But I already have a boyfriend like him. Plus I’m ten years older than he is so I’m kinda fat and droopy and wouldn’t make the cut.
 
What’s wrong with advising caution in consideration of the statistics?
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Or caution after seeing that womans march on Washington lol.
 
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Lara said:
On the contrary, his speech patterns are going to drive away the ones he doesn’t want to attract, which is at it should be.
Your mother and grandmother come from a different generation. Men today watch t.v. shows with swearing, join armies and save people from rape and torture all while swearing, swear while hanging out with their friends for fun. There are a few swear words that make little sense, I admit, but why can’t they have some fun at our expense? Women like to joke about men’s foibles too.
Men and women should both strive for good behaviour. That includes cutting ChunkMonk and the OP some slack. They never claimed to be perfect. They only have some objective standards of what constitutes the right woman for them.
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–I don’t think so–the sort of woman who these guys want is traditional and virginal and from a traditional family. Women from that sort of background do not tolerate vulgarity or familiarity from strange men–and their mothers certainly do not.
–Look, my grandfather landed at Normandy in WWII as an infantry medic. I have no doubt that the guys he served with used a lot of bad language. BUT, I’ve never heard a four letter word out of his mouth. My grandma would never have tolerated it.
–People who have standards that others don’t live up to need to bear in mind that they may not be living to other people’s standards as well.
 
Cath13 said:
Ummm, you should probably stick to talking about church stuff.
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Please don’t be disrespectful or make a personal attack against me. Again, the 77 cents myth is sloppy and misleading. You can’t just take an average without considering the many pertinent factors. The gap is greatly exaggerated for political purposes, it’s divisive identity politics. You’re repeating it so uncritically, again, only further proves my point.

 
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Xantippe said:
I suspect that the fact that it’s only a 5-year window is also important and that the numbers will be less dramatically different for, say 10 or 20 years.
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You’re dismissing the study by what you “suspect” which is not a very strong argument. I never would have suspected I’d have to argue the deleterious effects of premarital relationships on marriage on a Catholic forum. Here’s a longer sample for you:


 
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Parents are the first teachers of their children, and in many ways the foremost teachers of their children. I’ve never met a person from a divorced household who didn’t suffer in some way, or who didn’t bear a vestige of that pain.

A man seeking to marry a woman should definitely look at her family, and vice versa. This is common sense, passed on for generations. Divorce puts children, even adult children, at risk. It doesn’t mean that they necessarily have problems, or that those problems couldn’t be corrected. But it means keep your eyes out.

Also, you’re too close to the situation to see it objectively. You may not know what you missed and how it affected you as well as somebody from an intact family who observes you.

Also, if you marry a person from such a family, you will have to teach your children about why grandfather has a new wife, and yet his old wife still comes to family gatherings, and why their mother has two half-brothers, and basically you will have to deal with a different sort of family tree. It isn’t as clear as starting out with a solid tree. Naturally, it’s a blessing to have come from such a tree.
 
I was also wondering how long it took him after meeting women at church before asking them out. He may be asking too quickly.
 
Regarding not dating/marrying someone whose parents divorced: it is unjust to punish somebody for the parents’ sins. And where are they supposed to do for a spouse if they have discerned they cannot handle lifelong celibacy?
 
Lara said:
Also, you’re too close to the situation to see it objectively. You may not know what you missed and how it affected you as well as somebody from an intact family who observes you.
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better to be a divorced family instead of being stuck in an abusive marriage which society won’t let you out of. Learn to be less judgmental of situations that you could never possibly understand. know your place

Anyways, I disagree with everything you said so that’s about all I can respond with.
 
I second the National Catholic Singles Conference. Most people there are serious Catholics and are seeking spouses. I met a nice Catholic lady there, I honestly thought I had finally found someone to spend my life with, but she ended up joining a religious community, so she is wearing a veil, just not the kind I was hoping for. So, that leads me to another point: it is a common joke to tell women to wait outside a seminary to await men who “discern out”, so maybe men should do the same and pitch tents outside of convents?
 
Hope1960 said:
I was also wondering how long it took him after meeting women at church before asking them out. He may be asking too quickly.
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Just as an FYI, one of the things a speaker said at the National Catholic Singles Conference was to be upfront when asking a lady out and, so you do not get trapped in the “friend zone”, specifically state that you are asking her out on a date.
 
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