Where to find a good man

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I refuse to join a dating site after being on them since 2005 and wasting 1,000 of dollars. Does anyone know where I can meet a single man in real life? I’ve tried church, I’ve tried community events, I’ve even tried single events. All I want is a good man between the ages of 28 to 38 who goes to church every Sunday. Am I asking too much?
 
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I too wonder how people date. Usually you don’t meet with others enough to know if they are marriage material so to speak.
 
How about giving a man you wouldn’t think about a chance - he may be right under your nose but you haven’t noticed - are your standards to high maybe. They say 80% of women want only 20% of the men - and that 20% of men are all cheaters know this. Pick one of the 80% and give them a chance.
 
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Once i got out of college, I found most of my guy friends at work. I worked in a profession where the ratio of men to women was 3 to 1, so it was easy.
 
Any possibility of taking some courses or even just using the library at a local Catholic college? (if one is nearby)
If you are looking for a faithful Catholic man, I’m afraid you are going to have to continue to look within the Catholic faith community.
Some suggestions might be to volunteer in an organization such as the St. Vincent de Paul society or involve yourself in Catholic Church sponsored social and charitable programs. Don’t know if it is possible, but can you help out on any local Knights of Columbus projects?
The sad part of this discussion is the fact that only 22% of CAtholics regularly practice their faith, and single men in your desired range are unfortunately not very common in the pew on Sunday. Anyone think we need better teaching of our youth?
 
From what I’ve seen, sharing religious values is really important. Some marriage questions on this Forum have involved lack of communication on really basic Catholic teachings.

There’s nothing wrong with having standards. Most of my coworkers see marriage and relationships as disposable; thus, there’s no reason to be discerning. All I can say is that you shouldn’t hesitate to ask difficult questions. Finding a Holy spouse is difficult :man_shrugging:t2:
 
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I refuse to join a dating site after being on them since 2005 and wasting 1,000 of dollars
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What’s wrong with your experience of them? They always worked well for me when I was single and i’m not the most handsome man, except in my mothers eyes
 
CatholicMatch is not good? I would consider moving to Chicago and going to St. John Cantius to find a spouse.
 
I’m sure Chicago isn’t the place for anyone (lol) I’ve always heard people from there are pretty slick
 
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All that’s on dating sites are men looking to cheat on their wives or men who have used me for money. On Christian Mingle I didn’t meet a single man. My Church offers absolutely nothing for its single community.
 
The other denominations sometimes offer assistance for divorcees and widow groups can be found abroad. It’s true about Catholicism, we may never (in the US) return to what we once had.
 
Then you are looking at the wrong men. If you think “all” of them are looking to cheat on their wives. Yeah, it takes awhile to seperate the good from the morally unsound. But that shouldn’t stop you.
 
Online doesn’t work well for a lot of men. Have to imagine online doesn’t always work for chaste women trying to meet men who meet their standards so I’m not surprised to hear from one who says so.

Since online isn’t happening, getting out of the house is vitally important. If Catholic-centered activities are sparse in your region, you may have to try secular activities in order to widen your net. Meetup.com, social dancing, Toastmasters, volunteer work, pro life groups, etc., whatever floats your boat. Be sure to pick activities that could draw men in the general demographic you’re looking at. This same advice applies to men as well.
 
Catholic match is very good,you can use your profile as a screening system .Joining in with great people on the forums there is the way to go.
God bless.
 
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