Where to find a good man

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Meeting a good man? I used to advise domestic violence victims that meeting a man in Church was better than in a bar - at least in Church you were fairly certain that he did not think that he was God.
 
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Statistically, women older than 25 often look like a bad bet.
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Statistically, younger women are more divorce prone than late 20s/early 30s women.

My parents were very opposed to marriage out of high school 30 years ago when I was a kid. A handful of my girl cousins and people I grew up with went that route. All the ones that I know what happened to are divorced now (aside from the one who was widowed in her early 20s with twins).
 
Straight out of high school is bad. Early 20s, not really:
The research reported here used measures of marital success based on both marital survival and marital quality to assess how well first marriages entered at relatively late ages fare in comparison with those entered younger. Analysis of data from five American data sets indicated that the later marriages fare very well in survival but rather poorly in quality. The greatest indicated likelihood of being in an intact marriage of the highest quality is among those who married at ages 22–25, net of the estimated effects of time since first marriage and several variables that might commonly affect age at marriage and marital outcomes. The negative relationship beyond the early to mid-twenties between age at marriage and marital success is likely to be at least partially spurious, and thus it would be premature to conclude that the optimal time for first marriage for most persons is ages 22–25. However, the findings do suggest that most persons have little or nothing to gain in the way of marital success by deliberately postponing marriage beyond the mid-twenties.
http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0049089X10001183?via=ihub
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That said, it varies greatly among individuals. How ready they are, how mature they are, etc. and those can only be judged by those who know them well enough.
 
Let’s go back to gingerbread men. FAST!!!
 
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ATraveller said:
Let’s go back to gingerbread men. FAST!!!
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I am becoming increasingly convinced that once a thread has passed 100 replies it is more seldom that constructive, charitable, or intelligent conversation is taking place.
  • Women don’t stop being attractive after 25. Or 35, 45, 55, or 65.
  • Unless a man is specifically looking for a 6+ family, fertility in the early 20s is not an important issue.
  • Being asexual is going to make finding a relationship more difficult, though not by any means impossible as this is a condition that exists with both sexes not unlike other orientations. Whether or not the OP is called towards marriage is completely and entirely a matter of vocational discernment that can be done with herself through prayer, a wise spiritual director, and possibly trusted family/friends as she sees fit.
  • The OP has not expressed unrealistic standards, however it is not a secret that since we are in an age where the family is under heavy assault, faithful men are in shorter supply because [reasons].
@Happy1033 Don’t feel like you have to apologize for anything as you’ve done nothing wrong. Unfortunately, it is very easy to dehumanize on the anonymity of the internet and that means callousness will abound. I wish you the best of luck with your life.
 
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Bringing up the fertility theme first and that open has aways been creepy and as nothing to do with a wish for a family - one is a life goal the other an overweighting of a specific aspect of a woman. And oldfashioned…well…no.
In former times, you didn´t know in most cases if a woman is fertile until she got pregnant. So you have two “oldfashioned” ways to act now (irony on):
  1. wait with marriage until she gets pregnant like it was in the early medieval time very common
  2. go for some rather alchemistic help for security, little talismans etc. (also very much in use until the 19th century)
    or, irony off, you go for way
    • just hoping the best in the trust of god and be humble with what he holds for your marriage. Very old fashioned.
 
alice24 said:
wait with marriage until she gets pregnant like it was in the early medieval time very common
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I’ve also heard of that as being a practice in some parts of modern Africa (I heard about it from an African guy in church back in the 90s). It was actually traditional practice for the big official wedding to happen after the bride got pregnant.
 
Well, I think you are in better luck than me! I am disabled and it is hard for me to find good people, let alone good man! So may God bless you with a wonderful and amazing husband who praises God everyday for having you as his wife!
 
alice24 said:
I know enough men who won´t be shy to say that, because they don´t recognize those catwalk models that much - but the models who are seen single in photoshoots or in the bikini/dessous section are mostly older than 16.
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Yeah. There’s a big distinction between high fashion models and swimsuit/lingerie models. In the high fashion world, a “womanly” body or distractingly pretty face is actually a negative.

Compare and contrast:


I was about to link some Victoria’s Secret or Sports Illustrated models or the Miss America pageant, but I figured it wouldn’t be CAF appropriate. Suffice it to say that there’s not a lot of vavavoom on the Milan catwalk–or at least not a fraction of what you see in the other venues.
 
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