Who wears the pants in your family?

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maendem:
Dear Sparkle,

Yes, Maendem: You are right, our marriage is “on the rocks” so to speak, I do not need to be reminded of this fact, and it is only day by day, that we see it through. And I do thank you too, for your prayers. For remembering me in your daily prayers. This fact, however, Maendem, does not, and will not, ever, change the Truth, God’s Truth about marriage, my friend. For this Truth stands now, has stood in the past, and always will.
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Trelow:
My wife makes the day to day decisions, and I retain the right to veto any decisions she comes to. And I make all the major decisions, I listen to her (name removed by moderator)ut, but have the final call.

As the way it should be.
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My uncle says the same! He says, “She decides all the little stuff, and I make all the major decisions.” Then he winks: “So far, nothing major has come up.”

The truth is that they live to serve each other, as my parents do. Both couples have been happily married for over 50 years each.
 
Well, since I have no husband, I wear the pants *and *the skirt, as appropriate!! 😃
 
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Trelow:
My wife makes the day to day decisions, and I retain the right to veto any decisions she comes to. And I make all the major decisions, I listen to her (name removed by moderator)ut, but have the final call.

As the way it should be.
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You answered exactly the way my husband would have answered, I had to go back up to your name to double check he wasn’t the one who wrote it! As the wife, I love that he (and I’m sure your wife likes it too) makes the final decisions. That way if the decisions are good I get to make a big fuss out of it and if it was the wrong decision, I can feel comforted that I’m not the one who enforced it. Especially if it is about money. He works really hard, if I make the wrong decision, he’s cool about it, but I feel terrible. It makes me feel protected when he accept the responsibilities of the major family and household decisions.
 
We both wear pants. 😃

Money has nothing to do with who makes the decisions, we make them together. We’ve never had a serious issue (I’m talking in recent years since we’ve grown up some) that we couldn’t come to an a final acceptable agreement together.
 
Actually, if each person follows the biblical role in marriage, then the issue of dominance becomes very balanced. The woman submits herself to the husband and he honors her. In fact, I always found it amazing that Peter goes so far as to say that a man’s prayers won’t be heard in heaven if he doesn’t honor his wife!1 Peter3:7
 
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Scott_Lafrance:
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I especially appreciate that the whole outfit is color coordinated. :tiphat: By the way, you do have very nice legs. I’m a bit jealous here.:clapping: :rotfl: :rotfl:
 
My cat wears the pants in my family…so much so he refuses to wear pants and still wears the pants. I do make slightly more money than him too 😉 😛
 
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ThornGenX:
My cat wears the pants in my family…so much so he refuses to wear pants and still wears the pants. I do make slightly more money than him too 😉 😛
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Haha! Your cat and my cat must be related!!! Rufus definitely runs things around here, I tell ya!!! :o
 
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deb1:
Actually, if each person follows the biblical role in marriage, then the issue of dominance becomes very balanced. The woman submits herself to the husband and he honors her. In fact, I always found it amazing that Peter goes so far as to say that a man’s prayers won’t be heard in heaven if he doesn’t honor his wife!1 Peter3:7
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That’s a great point. I’ve often heard how wives are supposed to submit to husbands, and how he is supposed to honor her.

For most couples, especially raised in the society in the U.S., that is a huge challenge for both of them. It is attainable if we are willing to ignore advice and bad coaching from most of society.

Alan
 
Neither of those two choices are true with my husband and I. I respect his judgment and bow to it, and he asks my advice before doing things. We consult each other daily. Also, I don’t earn more money than him and vice versa because we’re both unemployed. 🙂 (Please pray that he and/or I will be hired really soon - preferably him, because I’m pregnant and we want me to be a stay-at-home mom.)
 
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NightRider:
Haha! Your cat and my cat must be related!!! Rufus definitely runs things around here, I tell ya!!! :o
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That reminds me of this joke: Dogs have owners and cats have staff. So true!! 😃
 
Well, I make more money but we both make the decisions. It depends how important it is to me, how hard I’ll lobby. I used to fight for everything and won. :eek: Whew…thank God we have the power to change. 👍

Peace,
A recovering-control-freak

P.S. Alan, how’s the new house coming?
 
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Sorry boss, but the only pants in this family are MINE…
tee hee hee hee…
 
thought this was relevant… 🙂

*** by Rudyard Kipling*** **When the Himalayan peasant meets the he-bear in his pride,
He shouts to scare the monster who will often turn aside.
But the she-bear thus accosted rends the peasant tooth and nail,
For the female of the species is more deadly than the male. **

**When Nag, the wayside cobra, hears the careless foot of man,
He will sometimes wriggle sideways and avoid it if he can,
But his mate makes no such motion where she camps beside the trail -
For the female of the species is more deadly than the male. **

**When the early Jesuit fathers preached to Hurons and Choctaws,
They prayed to be delivered from the vengeance of the squaws -
'Twas the women, not the warriors, turned those stark enthusiasts pale -
For the female of the species is more deadly than the male. **

**Man’s timid heart is bursting with the things he must not say,
For the Woman that God gave him isn’t his to give away;
But when hunter meets with husband, each confirms the others tale -
The female of the species is more deadly than the male. **

**Man, a bear in most relations, worm and savage otherwise,
Man propounds negotiations, Man accepts the compromise;
Very rarely will he squarely push the logic of a fact
To its ultimate conclusion in unmitigated act. **

**Fear, or foolishness, impels him, ere he lay the wicked low,
To concede some form of trial even to his fiercest foe.
Mirth obscene diverts his anger; Doubt and Pity oft perplex
Him in dealing with an issue - to the scandal of the Sex! **

**But the Woman that God gave him, every fibre of her frame
Proves her launched for one sole issue, armed and engined for the same,
And to serve that single issue, lest the generations fail,
The female of the species must be deadlier than the male. **

**She who faces Death by torture for each life beneath her breast
May not deal in doubt or pity - must not swerve for fact or jest.
These be purely male diversions - not in these her honor dwells -
She, the Other Law we live by, is that Law and nothing else! **

**She can bring no more to living than the powers that make her great
As the Mother of the Infant and the Mistress of the Mate;
And when Babe and Man are lacking and she strides unclaimed to claim
Her right as femme (and baron), her equipment is the same. **

**She is wedded to convictions - in default of grosser ties;
Her contentions are her children, Heaven help him, who denies!
He will meet no cool discussion, but the instant, white-hot wild
Wakened female of the species warring as for spouse and child. **

**Unprovoked and awful charges - even so the she-bear fights;
Speech that drips, corrodes and poisons - even so the cobra bites;
Scientific vivisection of one nerve till it is raw,
And the victim writhes with anguish - like the Jesuit with the squaw! **

**So it comes that Man, the coward, when he gathers to confer
With his fellow-braves in council, dare not leave a place for her
Where, at war with Life and Conscience, he uplifts his erring hands
To some God of abstract justice - which no woman understands. **

**And Man knows it! Knows, moreover, that the Woman that God gave him
Must command but may not govern; shall enthrall but not enslave him.
And She knows, because She warns him and Her instincts never fail,
That the female of Her species is more deadly than the male!
**

**In Peace, Mr Average
**
 
My husband wears the pants but his sense of style is horrible so I have to tell him what pair:D All kidding aside, in marriage there must be an equality but not in the secular sense but in regards to issuses concerning children, home, religious upbring, retiremnet, how money is spent, ect. should be a common ground. If a husband earns a living and the wife stays home and cares and educates the children, keeps the home ect, then they are equals. Equal has nothing to do with who earns more.:amen:
 
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