Maybe I can offer a thought here, and this really helped me understand the theology behind Sacramental Confession.
For starters, God’s ways are NOT our ways. (Scripture tells us that). The priest is capable of absolving or retaining sins (and this was a very hard part of the teaching to wrap my mind around), precisely because they were given that power through Christ. Ultimately, Ladybug, yes all forgiveness comes from God, and noone is disputing that, but as Catholics, we go to confession because we contend that Jesus intended for the priest and the confessional to be the channel by which he granted us forgivness. We have a saying as Catholics, that to accept Salvation, you must accept it on the terms that it was offered. Christ offered us His perpetual and assured Mercy through the Sacrament of Confession, and to accept that Mercy without accepting the means by which He gives it to us is to not accept it at all. (Now, this only applies to those of us who know this to be Truth, and reject it in defiance of what we believe to be Truth, not neccesarily to someone outside the Catholic Church who can not accept this…but that is a totally different thread…I digress) I strongly urge you to read all that the Catechism says about Sacramental Confession, and if you get hung up on anything, then post a new thread with specific questions. One thing I will add here is that the Catechism points out several things that I really internalized. One was the statement that the priest in the confessional was not the master of Christ’s mercy, but rather a servant to it. The other thing that struck me was the reference to Nathaniel in the old testament. God using physical human presence as the channel through which He forgives sin is certainly not without Biblical precedent. And, I would further like to point you to the formula for Absolution that the Eastern Catholic Churches use…I think there are some things that the Eastern rites do “better”, and this is one of them.
As far as your original post is concerned, I think another poster was very articulate when he told you that yes it is possible to be forgiven without “confession” (the Catholic kind), but it is dependent on things that only God knows for sure (I say that because I think we all to often deceive ourselves on the state of our own contrition)…through confession, we are ASSURED that we are forgiven of our sins.