Too hard to settle for just one reason----the Truth; the Eucharist; the Church being the Church that Jesus founded; a bulwark against relativism; on and on.
I think that a lot of lapsed Catholics have absorbed, whether they know it or not, a lot of Protestantism and relativism. They are uncomfortable with the idea of absolute Truth (even going so far as to deny such a thing exists), and, lacking a deep understanding of the Eucharist, put their personal “feelings” in the front seat—if something “feels” good and exciting, it must be true! Religion must be “Oprah-cized” and made interesting and emotionally charged to zap life into dulled, bored souls. So, if they don’t really “feel” that the Eucharist is real (and, trust me, most won’t want to engage in a conversation about why they think it isn’t real because that would require too much effort), then it isn’t as interesting as the Pentecostal minister down the street. It’s then very easy to defend one’s position by pointing to the “empty ritual” and the phrase, “I wasn’t being fed” is delivered. Hey, it’s easier than having to learn one’s own faith, and it’s fun to be caught up in the sizzle----ignoring the steak in the process.
What can you do? Maybe show, by your own personal witness, that you can have the steak and the sizzle too. I have seen it so many times: a lapsed Catholic begins to look into why he thinks what he thinks, and in the process discovers that the Church he left is very exciting. He begins to see the importance and meaning of ritual, of reverence, of tradition—all things he had been thinking as dull and meaningless. A new apologist is born…