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dianaiad
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Yes, Rebecca stated that we require the permission of the parent who has legal custody. That means, if you have joint custody or have legal guardianship rights, your permission is required before the LDS church will baptise your child. Are you telling us here that your wife left you because of religion, and she left you with sole custody of the child and gave up all of her gaurdianship rights?I believe that RebeccaJ has provided a great response. In my case, I had agreed during our marriage to not baptize my son until he was older. This was a HUGE sacrafice that I was willing to make, in order to make the marriage work. However because of my Catholic beliefs and the fact that I would like to share those with my son, she has choosen to no longer be married to me and I do not have to make that HUGE sacrafice. I can proceed with the Holy Sacrament.
Please excuse me if that makes absolutely NO sense to me. Again, I have no right to demand explanations from you. I am simply saying that this looks problematic from where I sit…and that I am having major problems with the idea that a priest would allow you to go behind the back of your mother’s son in this manner.
By the way, I have a cousin who was in a similar situation…except that he was the Mormon and she was the Catholic. They had joint custody, and HE agreed not to have their child baptised without her permission. However, while the child was in her custody, she had him baptised as a Catholic.
When my cousin found this out, he took the situation to a judge, and now the mother has only supervised visiting rights.
In other words, and again noting that I have no right to demand explanations or to make assumptions about your personal situation, you might want to think about it. You are quite right; this is vital and deals with one’s faith. However, you might want to remember that your ex-wife (oh, wait…you weren’t married in the church so according to your faith, you weren’t actually married…) ALSO has deep religious beliefs.
I understand that LDS baptism, while vital, is something that can be rejected by the person baptised. It is done when the person has some idea of what it’s for. It can later be abjured and made…gone. However, I understand that a Catholic baptism, for Catholics, leaves an indelible mark upon the soul; it can never be undone, never be abjured, never be denied; it is done and done.
In other words, you are asking your ex-wife to sacrifice a WHOLE lot more than you are willing to sacrifice.
You will do what you will do, of course. I am simply amazed, however, (if the situation is as you claim it to be) that any priest would go along with it.