Why do some stay in the Catholic Church while seeming to hate the Church with all their being?

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Straw man. The OP isn’t about ridding the Church of sinners. It is specifically about people who hate the Catholic Church, people who say the Church has a “war on women”, is bigoted, etc… 🙂
I feel better. I don’t “hate” the Catholic Church, never have “hated” the Church.
 
It is an assumption only, to state they ‘seem’ to hate the Church with all their being. We are all sinners, and it could easily be said, ‘it seems we all hate the Church, because we continue sinning.’

I have posted about human weaknesses like doubt, disagreement, etc. I tried to explain we don’t know what places a person in that position. I’m one of those who believes, ‘but for the grace of God, there go I.’ That comes from being a convert.

We are called to pray for one another, as Christ prayed for us to be one. We should pray for them, and be glad they keep coming back. We don’t know at which point correction will set in.

I don’t believe people come to a place they hate with all their being. I question the wording and the motivations behind it. It comes across as more than a simple question. With that said, I don’t know the OPs intent. Only they and Christ know that.

I will apologize for my rough responses, I was only trying to provide food for thought as I viewed the whole thing, because I would consider it wrong for me to do. I haven’t changed my view in that respect.
 
I never said I hope the ones who hate the Catholic Church leave. I said I hope they repent so they can be saved**.Because it’s been that way all through the history of the Church ever since the time of Christ.** 🙂
And the Church goes on and on…that speaks volumes. So what are worried about? The Church is not going to cave…it’s not. No matter how many “going to hell in handbasket, scare tactics, canon law, doctrine, dogma”, you toss into the fan of someone who either “hates” the Church but stays, or those who “disagree” with the Church and stays.

In America, people are no longer illiterate, unskilled immigrants…people now days “ask questions”, “state their disagreement”, some leave, most stay.

In all my years, I have never seen or heard of people being browbeat with doctrine, dogma, canon law, scare tactics, until I came to CAF.

Go to any fundy/evangel board and yep, guarantee you will see the same “hit over the head” type evangelists. Hell fire and brimstone. Focusing on the evil one…whom I personally give no quarter…especially when you think how it ended up in hell to begin with…:eek: It is very foreign to me to see it on a Catholic board.

I keep remembering what my catechists taught me about the Church being like a hospital for the sick. I guess my catechists in the mid 60’s were wrong or disordered in their teaching.
 
I keep remembering what my catechists taught me about the Church being like a hospital for the sick. I guess my catechists in the mid 60’s were wrong or disordered in their teaching.
Mat 9:10 And it came to pass as he was sitting at meat in the house, behold many publicans and sinners came, and sat down with Jesus and his disciples.
Mat 9:11 And the Pharisees seeing it, said to his disciples: Why doth your master eat with publicans and sinners?
Mat 9:12 But Jesus hearing it, said: They that are in health need not a physician, but they that are ill.
Mat 9:13 Go then and learn what this meaneth, I will have mercy and not sacrifice. For I am not come to call the just, but sinners.
 
Do you think the OP is mind reading?
I don’t know if the OP is reading minds. His question was based on complaints that were expressed in words, out loud, to the OP. Perhaps the word hate is overstated but I don’t think the OP imagined that these people were complaining about the Church. I hear it as well. Sometimes complaints are petty. Fr’s homilies are too long or too short or boring. The EM’s dress like they are going to a picnic (bugs me to death…). But his comments were with respect to some real dissent regarding Church teaching. Thus the question why stay in a church where you fundamentally disagree with her foundations?

Lisa
 
It is an assumption only, to state they ‘seem’ to hate the Church with all their being.
We can’t see into the hearts of the Westboro Baptists, but they seem to be hateful. In the same way, when people accuse the Catholic Church of being evil it would seem that they hate the Catholic Church. And saying that the Catholic Church has a “war on women” or calling the Catholic Church bigoted is the same as calling her evil. I know that I don’t take it as a loving gesture when people accuse me of being a bigot for following the teachings of Christ. And it’s scandalous when these accusations against the Church come from a politician who claims to be a Catholic in good standing. 🙂
 
We can’t see into the hearts of the Westboro Baptists, but they seem to be hateful. In the same way, when people accuse the Catholic Church of being evil it would seem that they hate the Catholic Church. And saying that the Catholic Church has a “war on women” or calling the Catholic Church bigoted is the same as calling her evil. I know that I don’t take it as a loving gesture when people accuse me of being a bigot for following the teachings of Christ. And it’s scandalous when these accusations against the Church come from a politician who claims to be a Catholic in good standing. 🙂
Are you suggesting the Westboro Baptists are ‘plotting against the leadership of the Church from within?’

You seem to be bouncing from who is scandalous now. Is it from people you’ve heard, or people you’ve heard attends the Church?

There are scandals around the Church, but who told the ‘multitudes’ (that’s what laypersons are) that we have to protect Christ’s Church? Christ gave His word, that He would be with it until the consummation of the world, and even the gates of hell shall not prevail against it. Do we believe Him, or not?

The Our Father is phrased, ‘forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.’ We pray for all, including those who have apparent weaknesses. To come here and talk about them is pretty much the same as gossiping, in one respect. Two wrongs will not make them right. We have to go by what Christ called us to do.
Mat 5:44 But I say to you, Love your enemies: do good to them that hate you: and pray for them that persecute and calumniate you:
Mat 5:45 That you may be the children of your Father who is in heaven, who maketh his sun to rise upon the good, and bad, and raineth upon the just and the unjust.
Mat 5:46 For if you love them that love you, what reward shall you have? do not even the publicans this?
Mat 5:47 And if you salute your brethren only, what do you more? do not also the heathens this?
Mat 5:48 Be you therefore perfect, as also your heavenly Father is perfect.
 
Are you suggesting the Westboro Baptists are ‘plotting against the leadership of the Church from within?’
I used them as an example of how most people can agree that it’s possible for a group of people to seem hateful by judging their actions and words even though we don’t claim to see into their hearts. Now apply that basic principle to the OP. 🙂
 
I used them as an example of how most people can agree that it’s possible for a group of people to seem hateful by judging their actions and words even though we don’t claim to see into their hearts. Now apply that basic principle to the OP. 🙂
The OP specifically said Catholics ‘seeming’ to hate the Church with all their being.
 
The OP specifically said Catholics ‘seeming’ to hate the Church with all their being.
Yes. Claiming that the Catholic Church has a “war on women” and calling the Church and those in it inflammatory things like “bigot” does make it seem that way. I never claimed to see into anyone’s heart. You have made a judgment about the motivation of my heart based on what I did not say. At least I make my judgments based on what people actually do say. 🙂
 
Yes. Claiming that the Catholic Church has a “war on women” and calling the Church and those in it inflammatory things like “bigot” does make it seem that way. I never claimed to see into anyone’s heart. You have made a judgment about the motivation of my heart based on what I did not say. At least I make my judgments based on what people actually do say. 🙂
Ok, this is the third time I asked this question.

What is your suggestion for these people?

Another question, what do you propose the Church do about those people who have doubts, or disagreements, through their weaknesses as humans?

We are not all equal, including spiritually. People can turn from their wrongful ways.

Was Christ wrong in how we should handle those that ‘hate’ us and ‘persecute’ us?
Mat 5:44 But I say to you, Love your enemies: do good to them that hate you: and pray for them that persecute and calumniate you:
Mat 5:45 That you may be the children of your Father who is in heaven, who maketh his sun to rise upon the good, and bad, and raineth upon the just and the unjust.
Mat 5:46 For if you love them that love you, what reward shall you have? do not even the publicans this?
Mat 5:47 And if you salute your brethren only, what do you more? do not also the heathens this?
Mat 5:48 Be you therefore perfect, as also your heavenly Father is perfect.
 
Ok, this is the third time I asked this question.

***What is your suggestion for these people?

Another question, what do you propose the Church do about those people who have doubts, or disagreements, through their weaknesses as humans?

We are not all equal, including spiritually. People can turn from their wrongful ways.

Was Christ wrong in how we should handle those that ‘hate’ us and ‘persecute’ us?
My mentioned my suggestion on page one of this thread in post #9. I do not hope that they leave but instead I hope everyone of them will repent and be saved. 🙂
 
My mentioned my suggestion on page one of this thread in post #9. I do not hope that they leave but instead I hope everyone of them will repent and be saved. 🙂
Where would be the best place for the chance of repentance? 😉
 
Where would be the best place for the chance of repentance? 😉
I realize the LWU was asked but my belief is they will be most likely to repent if the know and understand the Church’s teaching. I don’t think they will get this from sitting in a pew and listening to the homily.

I went through RCIA and am currently on the RCIA team. There was so much more to learn than what was discussed in our classes and during the dismissals. I have learned a LOT from CAF. When I first joined the Church I didn’t understand some of the teaching and it took a lot of extra study on my own, reading, attending Bible studies and this discussion board. I am still learning.

My experience with those who oppose the Church’s teaching don’t understand it. They say things like “the Church hates homosexuals. They won’t allow them to marry or be in an open relationship…” The Church demeans women, they won’t let women be priests…etc. I didn’t understand the teaching on homosexuality, I knew it was considered a sin but had no understanding of SSA and that a chaste individual who does not engage in non-marital sexual relations is not sinning simply because he or she has SSA. Further the same standard is asked of heterosexuals.

How many people who say they disagree with the teaching on this subject actually KNOW WHAT IT IS? I would guess about 3%.

My hope is that more Parishes engage in studies, small groups, adult catechesis. Once people understand the Church, they grow to appreciate the very teachings they opposed in some cases. I think it’s worth the effort.

Lisa
 
I realize the LWU was asked but my belief is they will be most likely to repent if the know and understand the Church’s teaching. I don’t think they will get this from sitting in a pew and listening to the homily.

I went through RCIA and am currently on the RCIA team. There was so much more to learn than what was discussed in our classes and during the dismissals. I have learned a LOT from CAF. When I first joined the Church I didn’t understand some of the teaching and it took a lot of extra study on my own, reading, attending Bible studies and this discussion board. I am still learning.

My experience with those who oppose the Church’s teaching don’t understand it. They say things like “the Church hates homosexuals. They won’t allow them to marry or be in an open relationship…” The Church demeans women, they won’t let women be priests…etc. I didn’t understand the teaching on homosexuality, I knew it was considered a sin but had no understanding of SSA and that a chaste individual who does not engage in non-marital sexual relations is not sinning simply because he or she has SSA. Further the same standard is asked of heterosexuals.

How many people who say they disagree with the teaching on this subject actually KNOW WHAT IT IS? I would guess about 3%.

My hope is that more Parishes engage in studies, small groups, adult catechesis. Once people understand the Church, they grow to appreciate the very teachings they opposed in some cases. I think it’s worth the effort.

Lisa
What tone would you recommend to explain the Church’s teachings to those misinformed people? And until they come around what would you suggest the Church do with these people?
 
What tone would you recommend to explain the Church’s teachings to those misinformed people? And until they come around what would you suggest the Church do with these people?
I would say a tone that is somewhere between the extreme of the Westboro Baptist approach and the other extreme of never letting them know that some things are a sin. And in these online forums I use a smiley face 🙂 so that no one will accuse me of being uncharitable. 😉

By the way, the one on CAFs that I think has a very impressively gentle tone yet doesn’t compromise the truth is Portrait. But we can’t all be like him. With all our faults, God still wants us all to do our best in this New Evangelization.

🙂
 
What tone would you recommend to explain the Church’s teachings to those misinformed people? And until they come around what would you suggest the Church do with these people?
Dispassionate and scholarly. We have many incredible apologists. I was even thinking about how much I have learned from EWTN and Catholic Radio. We have the resources for learning the faith from the USCCB website to Catholic TV and radio to books to study groups. I have been hearing about a number of organized Catholic Bible studies being published. Evangelicals have a number of excellent presenters and we could learn much from this model. Beth Moore for example. Her studies are in depth and tailored to groups. We are developing our own top presenters.

I heard today on Catholic Connection that the Pope said “Catholics have been sacramentalized but not evangelized.” We have much to share.

As to what the Church should “do” with these people…I don’t know what you mean. They can’t force people to come to Mass or take a Bible study or read the Catechism. I think we have to offer it or help our own Parishes obtain or provide resources. One of the programs is called “Catholics Come Home.” I don’t know how effective it is but here on CAF I see we have a lot of “reverts.” I remember our former Priest saying that the easiest way to get more people to join the Church is to focus on lapsed Catholics. My DH was away from the Church 35 years! It’s never too late.

Lisa
 
What tone would you recommend to explain the Church’s teachings to those misinformed people? And until they come around what would you suggest the Church do with these people?
I would personally invite them to read the catechism of their faith and pray for them. That’s all I think one can do.
 
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