Why do the " Bad Boys" get so many women?

[Andromedus]

You have probably already discussed it but isn’t perhaps one of the main reasons for why ‘‘bad boys get so many women’’ that they seems to be more confident than some of the nicer guys? I say ‘‘some’’ because it is of course not all of them, but I don’t know how many since I don’t have any statistics on it.

SAY NO MORE!

My bags are already packed! I’m on my way to Europe!

Don’t trust her! She is Danish!

(It is not an uncharitable post, just a childish joke post from a Swede to a Dane)

 

[feed_me]

You have probably already discussed it but isn’t perhaps one of the main reasons for why ‘‘bad boys get so many women’’ that they seems to be more confident than some of the nicer guys? I say ‘‘some’’ because it is of course not all of them, but I don’t know how many since I don’t have any statistics on it.

Don’t trust her! She is Danish!

(It is not an uncharitable post, just a childish joke post from a Swede to a Dane)

Who cares, it’s European women.

 

[EasterJoy]

You have probably already discussed it but isn’t perhaps one of the main reasons for why ‘‘bad boys get so many women’’ that they seems to be more confident than some of the nicer guys?

There is also the “problem” that when the fellow is both good and confident, he may have the strength to avoid near occasions of sin and the chutzpah to correct your moral faults. With a “bad boy” or a “bad girl” as a social partner, the person who imagines himself or herself to be “good” does not have to be concerned that someone will challenge him or her to be even better. People who are “too good” aren’t enough fun!!

“Lord, make me a saint, but maybe not just yet”

 

[joshvanrad]

You have probably already discussed it but isn’t perhaps one of the main reasons for why ‘‘bad boys get so many women’’ that they seems to be more confident than some of the nicer guys? I say ‘‘some’’ because it is of course not all of them, but I don’t know how many since I don’t have any statistics on it.

Don’t trust her! She is Danish!

(It is not an uncharitable post, just a childish joke post from a Swede to a Dane)

Who cares, it’s European women.

Women outnumbering men 4 to 1 in Europe! I’m a good catholic boy! Sign me up!

 

[StarFireKK]

Why do “bad guys” get the girls?

Ok, let’s break this down.

You like a girl. You want to date the girl but the girl for whatever reason is going for a different guy.

You dislike the guy, you don’t think he’s good enough for her and that he treats her poorly. (Maybe that’s true, maybe it isn’t.)

So what do you do? You imply (or outright say) the woman has horrible taste, no self-esteem, and can’t make good decisions.

You honestly wonder why girls aren’t breaking down your door?

 

[Norseman82]

I’m sure her superiors would have been thrilled to hear her say that. There’s some room for formation there, at any rate.

I’m hoping it was just due to the fact that she was born in Europe so English is not her first language - and I did express the sentiment that marriage was not only for “bad” people, and she did back away a bit and said there was a need for holy marriages. However, those words still haunt me, because looking at the statistics and the “poisoned” dating pool that Mary Beth Bonacci referred to, I really am worried that she may be proven right.

 

[Debora123]

Why do “bad guys” get the girls?

Ok, let’s break this down.

You like a girl. You want to date the girl but the girl for whatever reason is going for a different guy.

You dislike the guy, you don’t think he’s good enough for her and that he treats her poorly. (Maybe that’s true, maybe it isn’t.)

So what do you do? You imply (or outright say) the woman has horrible taste, no self-esteem, and can’t make good decisions.

You honestly wonder why girls aren’t breaking down your door?

 

[TrueLight]

Anyone ever met the nice, bad boy?

That’s the worst type of all.

He messes up and he confesses how he messes up, shows remorse and admits he is no good. He is brutally honest about his failings.

He wonders why you put up with him.

He is good to talk to and treats you like a princess when he is not messing up.

He volunteers at the shelter and loves animals.

But he suffers from one of two maladies:

1. He is too lazy to work and relies on his good looks.
2. He has 10 different women.

That is the worst type of bad boy.

 

[JimG]

Maybe it’s really simple. The “bad boys” are out looking for women. The good guys are inside the house on the computer complaining about it!

Come to think of it, with so many distracting gadgets around, it’s a wonder anybody gets married.

 

[armywife]

Maybe it’s really simple. The “bad boys” are out looking for women. The good guys are inside the house on the computer complaining about it!

Come to think of it, with so many distracting gadgets around, it’s a wonder anybody gets married.

Like.

I haven’t read all of this but I remember back in college my girlfriends and I would dream or our dream guy as being able to chop down a tree, kill a bear then come home a read poetry over candlelight. :shrug:

 

[Stratocatholic]

It’s been my experience in life that women, in the world, often not Catholicly formed, are lining up for the bad guys. Bad guys? Bad guys: consume alcohol beyond moderation, perhaps they smoke, present a certain image of danger (tattoos and attire), use more colorful language, tend to be more controlling, less inclined to wanting family or interacting with her family, don’t like children and can’t relate to them, less inclined to culture and the arts, are not above threats of violence or tough talk. Generally they have numerous past relationships and are less reliable in jobs.

 

[ManOnFire]

I don’t know how it is in America, but in Europe there are almost only whitehaired people in many Catholic Churches, and wherever there are some young people, there are 5 young women for every young man. I know it sounds unreal but every normal decent Catholic man here will have at least a few Catholic ladies looking at him wishing secretly he wasn’t so passive. Passivity seems to a widespread malady among Christian men. And then there are those you hardly see. They are clearly smart but they hide behind a screen and dont go out meeting real women. We can only wonder how they live their chastity with so much calm. Then there are young men who are plain odd. Social ackward, with weird ticks, or who say untasteful or immature things when they open their mouths. Eg. I went on a date with a proper young man… after a while he started talking about a girl he had dated before mentioning she was fat and had been with other men before, so he dumped her. Im sure to this day he didn’t comprehend why I didn’t find him attractive as a gentleman. Another one was weeping all the time when we spoke, like a hormonal lady, all the time moved by something, and then proposing marriage to me after we had only known each other for a very short time. I could not feel safe with such a man.
I have been in love with a few… Good looking guys who appeared to be on top of things, some of them were Christians and some not… But what always came out eventually during the dating period was their psychological or emotional problems, their inability to function in productive life, their trauma from childhood which made them paralysed in the things that belong to commitment and work. Some were substance abusers, some had major rage problems, almost all of them were halfway homeless or unable to work full time. Most had had agressive, absent or cheating fathers or mothers, and couldn’t get out of the woundedness of that. They were all jealous kind of people. I know I have been pretty unlucky perhaps, but really… Im not kidding. The other day I found my self in a packed Catholic Church for a certain conference. I saw only 2 guys under the age of 35. One was my married family member. The other was a seminarian.
Tell me whats a girl to do? In fact I know many seminarians, but no marriageble men who are not in some way odd or emotionally crippled.All the while I have family members saying I am too picky because I don’t want a non-Christian man. And I don’t even demand that the gentleman be Catholic.
If I couldn’t laugh at the whole situation I might go crazy

The liberal social engineers have weakened the traditional male figures in the media, and most people become what the media says. They don’t promote us studly righteous men because our wives are happy having many kids with a strong man (fears of overpopulation and the usual domination). It’s social engineering. It takes an open mind to see it, even though they define an open mind as the opposite in an effort to continue the deception. If they were obvious about it, there wouldn’t be so much confusion, and people wouldn’t go along with it. Better to stroke people’s egos and be insidious. Much more effective that way.

 

[Crescentinus]

It’s been my experience in life that women, in the world, often not Catholicly formed, are lining up for the bad guys. Bad guys? Bad guys: consume alcohol beyond moderation, perhaps they smoke, present a certain image of danger (tattoos and attire), use more colorful language, tend to be more controlling, less inclined to wanting family or interacting with her family, don’t like children and can’t relate to them, less inclined to culture and the arts, are not above threats of violence or tough talk. Generally they have numerous past relationships and are less reliable in jobs.

You forgot how a lot of them are rude to her folks.

Meanwhile, the decent men are forgotten or thrown away.

 

[Lost_Wanderer]

It’s been my experience in life that women, in the world, often not Catholicly formed, are lining up for the bad guys. Bad guys? Bad guys: consume alcohol beyond moderation, perhaps they smoke, present a certain image of danger (tattoos and attire), use more colorful language, tend to be more controlling, less inclined to wanting family or interacting with her family, don’t like children and can’t relate to them, less inclined to culture and the arts, are not above threats of violence or tough talk. Generally they have numerous past relationships and are less reliable in jobs.

Agree with one half, disagree with the other. (Seriously, image? Last time I checked, bad guys can dress in suits too. Furthermore, thugs get caught but if you’re the suit, some dough is all it takes to order a hit that can’t be traced to you.)

As far as culture and the arts, that depends too. Modern urban culture is still culture and I say that in the most positive way.

Let’s not forget Hitler and Stalin were high-culture types too.

 

[Lost_Wanderer]

The liberal social engineers have weakened the traditional male figures in the media, and most people become what the media says. They don’t promote us studly righteous men because our wives are happy having many kids with a strong man (fears of overpopulation and the usual domination). It’s social engineering. It takes an open mind to see it, even though they define an open mind as the opposite in an effort to continue the deception. If they were obvious about it, there wouldn’t be so much confusion, and people wouldn’t go along with it. Better to stroke people’s egos and be insidious. Much more effective that way.

The only thing I actually disagree with here is the ‘studly’ part.

Last time I checked, it was the “Bad Boys” who were studly. -.-

 

[Pfaffenhoffen]

You have probably already discussed it but isn’t perhaps one of the main reasons for why ‘‘bad boys get so many women’’ that they seems to be more confident than some of the nicer guys? I say ‘‘some’’ because it is of course not all of them, but I don’t know how many since I don’t have any statistics on it.

Don’t trust her! She is Danish!

(It is not an uncharitable post, just a childish joke post from a Swede to a Dane)

Now a European problem. Why is it so that Northern Girls like the Southern Boys, knowing that they are Bad ?

 

[Pfaffenhoffen]

Women outnumbering men 4 to 1 in Europe! I’m a good catholic boy! Sign me up!

Do you have the statistics straight? Never noticed!
Unless you are speaking over 90s ladies!

 

[Pfaffenhoffen]

Maybe it’s really simple. The “bad boys” are out looking for women. The good guys are inside the house on the computer complaining about it!

Come to think of it, with so many distracting gadgets around, it’s a wonder anybody gets married.

Or girls are too demanding?
The other day in Dr. Phil, I heard that girls make lists of qualities in their minds.
One of them had in the list of the qualities she pretended in a date: “knows how to swim!”

 

[Crescentinus]

Or girls are too demanding?
The other day in Dr. Phil, I heard that girls make lists of qualities in their minds.
One of them had in the list of the qualities she pretended in a date: “knows how to swim!”

Women that are too demanding are a turn-off, not a turn-on.

 

[GraceDK]

Agree with one half, disagree with the other. (Seriously, image? Last time I checked, bad guys can dress in suits too…

I totally agree. The only really bad boy I have fallen for wore the nicest clothes, dressed like a gentleman always wearing black shoes, black pants and nice shirts even when it was warm. No trodden out sandals or beige shorts one can see has been worn for 2 weeks, with hairy legs sticking out. He had taste alright, but no manners., He was the kind of guy who would be hiding an illegal gun in his house, cut out an aching tooth with his own pocket knife, and get into actual fights with other adult men.

I have attended quite some Christian youth things around where I once lived, and I noticed that most of the Christian young men wore blue jeans and sweatshirts and very short hair. I always wondered why that is. I much more liked a more stylish look, nice longer hair,e even beard is okay… but not this look of a boyish nerd who looks like he just spent the last 2 days with other boys playing videogames. Also I wonder when people all look the same, what is going on.