I once got into a heated discussion with a man who insisted that ALL women like the bad boy type and I just didn’t know or understand that (and I, of course, am a woman). It was kind of comical. But he seriously though all women were attracted to one type of man, no exceptions.
But I’ve wondered this too. I was pretty much a “good girl” in high school and college and hung out with other “good girls.” We didn’t party, do drugs, we studied, didn’t dress immodestly (we weren’t wearing burlap sacks or anything, just normal clothes)… and we were routinely ignored by nice guys who had crushes on girls involved with “bad boys” (and usually those girls were party girls, very stylish, etc).
It’s like I said before, I have this pet theory that some men get wrapped up in wanting the girls already with “bad boys” that they don’t notice the available women near them.
No offense meant at all to the OP, but this rant right here has been one of my greatest pet peeves… especially in high school.
The truth of the matter is, for every girl who wants to date the good looking bad boy, there’s a boy who wants to date the good looking materialistic b_tchy girl.
It goes both ways gentleman, and yet you don’t see us “good girls” complaining about it nearly as much as the “good guys” complain about it. Man up!
The most hypocritical thing about all this is that all the “good guys” who came to me whining about this have had perfectly nice girls interested in them… they just didn’t happen to be pretty enough to be worth it I guess. Too chubby or too plain.
It goes both ways. Man up.
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Wow!!![/SIGN] I really lack words to say regarding these posts. I feel like I am being addressed here and these posts are nothing other than the simple truth as far as I am concerned.
I have always known that “nice girls” prefer players and that we “nice guys” have little or no chance.
I have to reveal this:
About two weeks ago, I came across this catholic girl. I would say she was nice. When I went back home, one thing was outstanding: She had invited me
twice to come visit their area (they have a catholic group…) because I was complaining that I rarely come across catholics my age…I mean, her words were more or less like “it would be nice if you came by”.
But…(LOL)
I had a debate between my catholic and secular selves:
The catholic me said that, wow!, look, you know very well how difficult it is to come across catholics today; moreover how difficult it is to engage in discussions with people you don’t know… This is an opportunity for you. She said something you would have probably been afraid to say. So what are you waiting for? What else do you want?
The secular me said that, lo, this is just not your type. Nothing about her captivated your eyes. She wasn’t dressing at all like the “nice girls”. If you happen to be walking around with her, you would probably just be looking at the “nice girls” and feeling uncomfortable being beside her. And it’s sunny. Man, just forget about her. You see “nice girls” every single day. You have been having it hard getting to them but just continue to be patient, you would be lucky one day.
So how did I decide? Well since this is still very recent, I haven’t made a final decision but I tend to go with the secular me because I honestly don’t find her attractive enough to even go visit their community.
She seems to be the kind of girl that wouldn’t mind to initiate and I don’t like to hurt anybody cos I don’t also like getting hurt. She is not like the “standard nice girl” I see daily and like seeing.
However, the catholic me still sees this like the Holy Grail…
I just want to honestly admit that maybe it’s just that some of us “nice guys” prefer “bad girls”.
As mellowcalico said, we desire the kind of girls with “bad guys”—modern, stylish, sexy,… I can only be honest here; yes, I kind of do.
But I am hoping that I slowly readjust.
