Who am I to say Paul was wrong? What Paul did he must have thought didn’t fit under the word that Jesus gave. He may have thought that calling himself father was OK as long as no one else did. Besides Paul wasn’t perfect either. Because Paul may have made a mistake doesn’t give us the right to make the same mistake.
Obviously, St. Paul has made no mistake. Respectfully, I would suggest that the mistake is in the popular Protestant reaction to the Catholic Church’s practice of calling our spiritual leaders, “Father.”
Do you really think that Jesus actually meant that we shouldn’t call anyone on earth father or teacher?
If we take Jesus words in the Matthew 23 passage literally, as has already been pointed out, then that would mean that we couldnt even call our own male parent father. Do you really think that is what Jesus is saying here?
Or do you think that MAYBE he is using this strong statement to teach his disciples about the sinful and arrogant presumptions he notices in the scribes and Pharisees? Maybe he is warning them of the temptations that come with authority and power and preparing them for their mission of humble service in the Church.
It does not seem, from the rest of the context of Scripture, that in Matthew 23:9 the Apostles understood Jesus words here literally.
Instead, it seems that Jesus message to them is an instruction of how they are to realize their inferior position in the kingdom of God . They are not to presume, as the scribes and Pharisees did, that their roles as spiritual fathers and teachers are of their own ordaining or by their own power. They are not the originators of the faith. . .they are ministers of Jesus Christ.
The New Testament gives so many examples of how the Apostles functioned as spiritual fathers to the early Church. In writing to St. Timothy, St. Paul often calls him his child (inferring his own fatherhood):
Therefore I sent to you Timothy, my beloved and faithful child in the Lord. . . (1 Cor. 4:17),
To Timothy, my true child in the faith. . . (1 Tim. 1:2),
To Timothy, my beloved child. . . (2 Tim. 1:2),
This charge I commit to you, Timothy, my son. . . (1 Tim. 1:18),
You then, my son, be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus. . . (2 Tim. 2:1),
But Timothy’s worth you know, how as a son with a **father **he has served with me in the gospel (Phil. 2:22).
St. Paul refers to others in this way, too.
To Titus, my true child in a common faith (Titus 1:4),
I appeal to you for my child, Onesimus, whose father I have become in my imprisonment (Philem. 10).
My little children, with whom I am again in travail until Christ be formed in you! (Gal 4:19)
Timothy, Titus, Onesimus, and all of those in the Church at Galatia arent St. Paul s biological children, yet he still is very comfortable calling them his children and calling himself their father.
St. Paul is very direct here:
**I became your father in Christ Jesus through the gospel **(1 Cor. 4:15).
We also see St. Peter and St. John referring to themselves in the same way. St. Peter writes about Mark,
She who is at Babylon , who is likewise chosen, sends you greetings; and so does my son Mark (1 Pet. 5:13).
St. John says,
My little children, I am writing this to you so that you may not sin. . . (1 Jn. 2:1)
and
No greater joy can I have than this, to hear that my children follow the truth (3 Jn. 4).
And St. John even addresses the elders in the congregation as Fathers (1 Jn. 2:13-14).
Now, do you think that ALL these Scriptural instances of the Apostles referring to themselves as fathers or in positions of spiritual fatherhood contradict Jesus’ message in Matt. 23?
Even the Protestant churches regularly called their own clergymen Father up until 200 and 300 years ago. Some still even do. In the American churches, Father was the common title given to New England Congregationalists, Baptists, Methodists, and German Reformists who held positions of honor in their churches. American Methodists often referred to John Wesley, their churchs founder, as Father Wesley. All of these churches did so according to what they perceived to be a very strong Scriptural mandate. In the spirit of the Reformers, who were often called Fathers themselves, the early American Protestant churches believed that Matthew 23:9 was meant to condemn the vanity and arrogance of the Pharisees rather than prohibiting the use of the title Father or Teacher. This is the same interpretation of the Catholic Church.
Perhaps if you really believe the Holy Spirit is telling you not to call anyone “father,” you would do well to test the spirit and delve deeply into God’s Word.