That is not a helpful analogy. I am not sure why people keep using it. First of all, you ARE praying to / communicating with / honoring an image. Many reformed people of faith were taught that it is strictly forbidden. So please don’t try to explain you are just talking with a picture of an ancestor.
Yes, we are praying to/communicating with/honoring–but not the image, the person it represents. That is Catholic teaching. I accept Evangelical’s rationale for what they believe, why can’t they return the favor?
Secondly, you are communicating with the dead. Again, forbidden.
No, we’re not “communicating with the dead” we are communicating with the living. Jesus himself told us that the dead are not dead to God, but living (Mt.22?32, Mk.26c-27a, 1Pt.3:19). Praying to the saints in heaven is a far cry from séances and trying to predict the future through conjuring up ghosts, etc. Evangelicals often conflate Catholic practices with superstition. This is because they repeat what they’ve been told not actually researched it for themselves. I think they should if they want to know the truth of the matter.
So when many Protestants see Roman Catholics do just that, it is going to cause some serious problems.
No one should judge from mere appearances. All too often we do, though. If Evangelicals want to know what Catholic believe and why there’s the Catechism, Catholic Answers and a host of other resources.
As for warmth when coming to or going from Mass, Catholic parishes are often large, with people attending various Mass times who are therefore unfamiliar with those who usually go to another Mass. At our parish we have one Mass Saturday evening and four on Sundays.
OTOH, many Protestant churches have a limited membership with one service on a Sunday along with other services during the week, which almost everyone attends. So when a new person comes, people know they aren’t a member. Also, many Evangelical churches actively recruit other Christians to their churches, so of course they are going to make a fuss over new people. It’s no guarantee that a person will remain involved since many Evangelicals come and go, church hopping from one church to another, looking for the perfect one, as if such a thing even existed.
My parish has greeters, who have been trained to direct people and answer basic questions. We have coffee and donuts after most Masses at which people can get to know others. There are also parish groups and activities people can get involved with.
We assume newcomers have come to worship with us–we don’t think of them seekers who will leave us if we don’t try to get to know them–no one is deliberately ignoring anyone. We gain friends for the sake of friendship, not to lure people into becoming Catholic. If they are interested in Catholicism all they have to do is contact the parish. They will be put in touch with the proper persons for that.