Why is the Rosary failing me

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po18guy, then why did my own father ask me to pursue the CPA. Why did my own mother as well ask me to finish and even my own grandmother prays for me to finish it.

All the extension courses i took for almost 1.5 years to be eligible to sit for the exam, why didnt GOD stop me then. Is it possible to come this far and waste my time with my own family praying for me to have GOD say no?
 
Yes, it is. Have you even once tried to discern what Gods will for your life is? Ask any Priest - it is a drawn-out, excruciating ordeal for some. Yet they denied themselves, took up their crosses and followed Christ. Have you sought spiritual direction?
 
This is my biggest problem with religion. It teaches people to rely on magic for everyday solvable problems. Once a CPA, will you attempt to " pray away" a company’s money or tax problem?
 
Oh come on. I too prayed to pass every exam I ever took, in addition to trying my best to prepare. Sometimes my preparation was good, sometimes it was lacking, but in either event I prayed as it is my habit to ask God’s help with all important matters. I think every Christian who ever took exams does the same. I have been in positions of dealing with corporate problems for decades and have never tried to “pray away” a client’s problem; I have continued to ask God’s help or guidance on difficult cases, and I’ve applied my skills and practical training and common sense to every case. This is again, normal behavior for any Christian, and I reckon the non-Christians pray to Yahweh or Allah or their other deities. There is no need to exaggerate like you’re doing. The person here is studying, not just sitting there waiting for God to zoom in with a magic wand.
 
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po18guy, then why did my own father ask me to pursue the CPA. Why did my own mother as well ask me to finish and even my own grandmother prays for me to finish it.

All the extension courses i took for almost 1.5 years to be eligible to sit for the exam, why didnt GOD stop me then. Is it possible to come this far and waste my time with my own family praying for me to have GOD say no?
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You are in your 30s and let your parents convince you to quit your job and take up a new line of study and career?

Seriously?

I love my parents and thank God for His gift of them in my life – all the good and bad alike. But when my mom kept encouraging me to change my major to nursing, even into my last semester of my bachelor’s degree, I knew she was not the mouthpiece of God in that moment.

I finished my degree, got my teaching license, and have been serving children and their families for over twenty years now. My mom was wrong about me being a nurse, though I would have been good at it, and I am certainly intelligent enough in math and science. But my heart wasn’t in it, no matter how much my mother desired it for me.

The commandment is to honor thy father and mother, and you must do this your whole life. But you are no longer under obedience to them as an adult.

You say God should have stopped you sooner if He didn’t want this… Doesn’t always work that way. God allows us to fail at times. That’s how this life works.

And yes, you do need to go back and discern whether you should continue on this path. Just because your parents want it doesn’t mean it’s what you should do with your life.

You’re an adult. You, and not your parents, get to make the choices now.
 
Please ask your father why it is so important for you to achieve CPA licensure. Explain to him that you are happy and successful in real estate (if you are) and you would like to continue in that field. Perhaps God understands the necessity of funding your 401k early in life better than your father does. Perhaps he wants you to get back to it and quit goofing around with an unwarranted career change that frustrates you and does not currently provide an income. I understand respecting your parents’ and grandmother’s wishes, but you have to live your own life and produce with the skills the Lord has provided you. Frankly, I am not that discouraged that you have five times failed an exam with a less than 50% pass rate. I am sure that if you continue to study on the side while working in real estate, probability will come to your rescue, and you will pass. But do your really want to be a CPA? Be what makes you happy. Ask your parents to not be too disappointed in your desire to work in your chosen field, earn, find a spouse, produce grandchildren for them, etc., and save for retirement. There is something difficult to understand about your situation, but I have a suspicion. If you happen to come from immigrant parents who need to brag about their children’s accomplishments to their friends, explain to them that being a productive member of society who provides for one’s family is respectable enough. Above all, recognize that asking for something when praying should be done in the form that Christ used in the Garden of Gethsemane when he asked that the cup pass him by. Only then are you open to God’s plan for you, which may or may not include something your earthly father desires. Which father will you follow as an informed, intelligent, and prayerful adult?
 
Abandonment to Divine Providence
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The world is full of infidelity. How unworthy are its thoughts of God! It complains continually of the divine action in a way that it would not dare to use towards the lowest workman about his trade. It would reduce God to act only within the limits, and following the rules of its feeble reason. It presumes to imagine it can improve upon His acts. These are nothing but complaints and murmurings. We are surprised at the treatment endured by Jesus Christ at the hands of the Jews, but, O divine love! adorable will! infallible truth! in what way are you treated? Can the divine will ever be inopportune? Can it be mistaken? “But there is this business of mine! I require such a thing!
The necessary helps have been taken from me. That man thwarts all my good works, is it not most unreasonable? This illness comes on just when my health is most necessary to me.” To all this there is but one answer—that the will of God is the only thing necessary, therefore what it does not grant must be useless. My good souls! nothing is wanting to you. If you only knew what these events really are that you call misfortunes, accidents, and disappointments, and in which you can see nothing but what is irrelevant, or unreasonable, you would lie deeply ashamed and excuse yourselves of your complainings as of blasphemies; but you never think of them as being the will of God, and His adorable will is blasphemed by His own children who refuse to acknowledge it.

Abandonment to Divine Providence
Peace
 
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You are able to request things through the rosary . . .
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Yes, with the understanding your request may not be granted. The difference between what we think we need (or want) and what we really need (or want) is often a God-sized gap.

Also, perhaps now is not the time for you to be a CPA, maybe you have a better calling, or maybe you will eventually pass, and this is just a test of patience. But I can’t say for sure since I can’t speak to your specific circumstances. Use your better judgment.
 
There are a lot of misunderstandings about prayer, some expressed on this thread. God’s ways are not our ways. What we see as a good may not be so in God’s plan. If we pray for something we also have to pray that God’s will be done, not our will. Jesus taught us this prayer in the Our Father and in his own prayer in the Garden. Sometimes we do not get what we pray for and then we have to graciously submit to the greater knowledge of God. He knows what is best for us. We often don’t.
 
The question has been brought up before. Are you following your path, or the path your parents want you to follow?
There is an advantage when belonging to a large family, especially being one of the younger children in that family. I come from a generation when parents were expected to send their children, if possible to a parochial school. We usually lived where for me that just wasn’t the case. I would be at least a grade ahead of where the parochial school stopped. My parents were also well aware of our strengths and weaknesses.
Had school choice been around, they would would still have chosen public education for me at the time. They knew I liked and needed an athletic outlet that the local Catholic school simply did not provide.
This in no way means there were no conflicts between my parents and myself. I could be quite stubborn. When it came to adulthood, the path I would choose must be my own.
One of my brothers actually did go to seminary for a year. He talked about men who changed their mind at the last minute. They did not become ordained.
It is not the amount of time that you spend pursuing a course that is important. It is whether or not that course is the right course regardless of how much time you spent pursuing it. As mentioned earlier, there are career tests to uncover personal interests. Even if you have been pursuing a course not meant for you to complete, it doesn’t necessarily mean you wasted your time studying the particular subjects along the way.
Those subjects might somehow be integrated into a course more in line with your personality.
You won’t feel like you are spinning your wheels, going nowhere, in order to please somebody else and their ambitions. If those ambitions are not truly your own, you may become resentful, even if you pass the test, further down the line, when you find yourself in a career that you find unfulfilling and in which you are unhappy.
Back to my own athletic ability and interests. After I graduated from school, I never became a professional athlete. Indeed I’ve been injured and have physical limitations that at times can be quite frustrating. My academic and athletic knowledge give an advantage and a unique perspective.
You bring to your next job, whatever it is, a unique perspective based on your training as a CPA, even if you never pass the test. That training may lead to a job for which you are better suited.
 
Yes unanswered prayer is always a bummer. Or request denied without explained

So then its now what?

As saint Paul Say’s having done all. We stand.
 
Find other options. See your counseling office. Take a career inventory test.
You may be amazed by the different ways in which the current skills you already have can be utilized.
Scripture tells us to Seek God, not money first. Instead of praying, “God help me pass this exam, ask God, how would you like me to use the talents that you have provided to bring greater glory to your name?”
I grew up always wanting to be a teacher. I was the first in my family, against objections for financial reasons to actually attend college. What happen? I met a man who still thought he was going to return to seminary. We married.
College plans were put on hold. I discovered on reflection that there were ways that I did teach. I taught swimming. I taught community First Aid and CPR, even while working in a factory.
Years passed. I taught 5 years overseas. You may find things you actually like doing better than CPA work, lost in a giant corporation. Start by volunteering to count the parish collection and see what happens. Open the network to meeting new people.
If you don’t like real estate, at least not selling houses, you may find yourself in business doing something you really prefer. You might be working with young families you don’t know the first thing about saving for a home. As a part of a volunteer organization, a non-profit, you may be helping them settle into something more their style. Consider the current needs with recent disasters. Just be sure that you find a reputable organization. Maybe volunteer with Habitat for Humanity.
Service is part of our prayer life. Prayer leads to service. Service leads to prayer. Whatever you do, do for Christ.
The prayer is not unanswered. It is simply taking a different shape.
 
Remember: no is an answer.

God is not failing you, nor is our Blessed Mother. Their love for you is infinitely more than you, I, or anyone could understand.

Believe in God, and believe in Our Lady, and believe in the powerful intercession of the saints. Say “Lord, I’m worried that you aren’t listening to me.” He will respond.

Say, “Lord, I feel like you aren’t listening but I put my worries and anxiety into your hands. I know You love me.”

Studying is hard. Pray to St Joseph of Cupertino! He is the patron of students. He will help you.

No is an answer. Maybe the Creator has other plans for you! Just trust in HIM! We are all praying for you.
 
This is the best answer I have seen thus far. Thank you, and yes I have been praying to st joseph of cupertino recently. Hopefully some good will come of it. Even have a necklace of him now and am also praying with him diligently.
Again thank you for your insight and I will add what you recommended onto my prayers as well.
God bless
 
I think the rosary is meant to be prayed to bring you closer to God. So if you have heard that praying the rosary gets prayers answered, maybe it was meant for you to understand that those prayers needed to be God centered. For example, praying for stronger faith, prayer for detachment from worldly things, prayer for the conversion of sinners, prayer for babies who are victims of abortion, etc. Not prayer for material items or something that would be for your personal interests.

Also, maybe the answer to your prayer has been given to you - 5 times - and you just aren’t hearing it or don’t want to believe it? Maybe God has other plans for you and your life and those plans don’t include becoming a CPA. Try praying for understanding so that you can hear what He is trying to tell you. Keep your focus on eternity and things will probably become a lot clearer.
 
Are there coaching programs? Might help…

I feel the rosary works. It did for my job search recently!

Good luck to you.
 
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That may not be the path that God has for you. Or, perhaps you need to make a good confession so that God can answer you. Or, there may be stumbling blocks in your way, so FASTING and prayer might be what is needed.
 
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This is my biggest problem with religion. It teaches people to rely on magic
for everyday solvable problems. Once a CPA, will you attempt to " pray
away" a company’s money or tax problem?
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Au contraire! The Catholic faith teaches no such thing! It is not what seculars or pagans think of as “magic” nor is it superstition. It is faith in supernaturally revealed truth. The OP had a fundamental misunderstanding of contemplative prayer, and an unreasonable expectation relating to its practice.
 
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