Why is the Rosary failing me

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Clearly, despite your parent’s wishes, and your investment, that many tries to pass the exam are a powerful indicator that this may not be your calling. That, or you are stressing waaaaaaay too much and jinxing yourself.

I will tell you that many CPAs are happy, but many drop out and pursue other endeavors. I personally know of one that became a restaurant owner and another a police officer. Just saying.
 
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This is my biggest problem with religion. It teaches people to rely on magic for everyday solvable problems. Once a CPA, will you attempt to " pray away" a company’s money or tax problem?
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I can’t speak for every religion, but mine has never told me I could do magic.
 
You know what? You might be right! I’m not sure, but some good advice! Thanks for sharing and God Bless!
 
You have twice made tell-tale comments, but I suspect you are so immersed in the matter that you do not have enough distance to see what you are saying.

You speak about your father, and your mother and grandmother and their expectations for you. And it appears that you are not pursuing the CPA designation because that is something you decided on your own, but rather are caught up in a whirl wind of trying to please what you see as their expectations.

You state that you had a promising career in real estate (and having sold and listed real estate for 7 years as a Realtor, I have some idea how difficult it is to be successful in that field), but don’t really say why you abandoned that to pursue someone else’s idea for you. It seems, from what you are saying, that one of your highest values is pleasing others.

and the results from the exams appear to you to be saying you are failing them.

At 30+ years of age, many people are still trying to figure out who they really are and what they really want to do in life; and many are stuck in a rut because they have no vision of their own. It may be that you have acquiesced in others’ goal for you, rather than pursuing the CPA designation because you have your own burning desire to be one.

I can’t sort that out for you; it is just what I am picking up from what you are saying. You are hitting a wall with the exams, and I have to wonder if way down beneath all of this, is the fact that you are pursuing something not because of your desire for it, not because you see it as the most engaging thing you could do, but because you feel that if you don’t, you will let everyone down - and perhaps added to that, because you are not yourself convinced this is what you should do.

Trying to be something or someone that others want you to be, when that simply doesn’t fit, causes all sorts of internal conflict. And you seem to be stating that you have a lot of internal conflict.

it would be my suggestion that you sit down with someone you can trust who is not part of your family or acquaintances and explore this.
 
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In book 5, Ch. 8 of St. Augustine’s Confessions, Augustine tells of the time he left for Rome. His mother begged him not to go and prayed constantly, but Augustine deceived her and left anyways:
"She would not return home without me, but I managed with some difficulty to persuade her to spend the night in a place near the ship where there was an oratory in memory of St. Cyprian. That night I stole away without her: she remained praying and weeping. And what was she praying for, O my God, with all those tears but that you should not allow me to sail! But You saw deeper and granted the essential of her prayer: You did not do what she was at that moment asking, that You might do the thing she was always asking.

The wind blew and filled our sails and the shore dropped from our sight. And the next morning she was frantic with grief and filled Your ears with her moaning and complaints because you seemed to treat her tears so lightly, when in fact You were using my own desires to snatch me away for the healing of those desires, and were justly punishing her own too earthly affection for me with the scourge of grief. For she loved to have me with her, as is the way of mothers, but far more than most mothers; and she did not realise what joys you would bring her from my going away. She did not realise it, and so she wept and lamented, and by the torments she suffered showed the heritage of Eve in her, seeking with sorrow what in sorrow she had brought forth. But when she had poured out all her accusation at my cruel deception, she turned once more to prayer to You for me. She went home and I to Rome."
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Throughout her life, St. Monica prayed endlessly for God to bring her son, St. Augustine, to the Catholic faith. When her son was leaving for Rome, she wept and prayed to God not to let him leave, but it appeared that God ignored her prayers, as Augustine sailed for Rome anyways.

However, Augustine reveals that he now sees that, while God did not grant her what she was asking in the moment, He did so only to allow a greater good to come of it; to better bring about what Monica had prayed for for Augustine’s entire life.

After sailing to Rome, Augustine eventually caught the eye of a Roman official who recommended him for the position of public orator for the city of Milan. In Milan, a combination of his studies, his mother’s devotion, the urging of his friend Simplicianus, and the influence of Bishop Ambrose led Augustine to embrace Catholicism. After his conversion, St. Augustine went on to become a priest, the Bishop of Hippo, one of the most important Church Fathers, and a saint that has been an inspiration to Christianity for centuries.

So, while it may sometimes seem that God is ignoring our prayers in the moment, always remember that He does so only to bring about a greater good and a greater manifestation of His will in our lives.
 
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Thank you! Yes, please pray for me as well! I know that each day we can struggle with what we think we want. We come to ‘fear and trembling’ so to speak.

"The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases, and his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning. Oh God: great is Thy faithfulness.”
—Lamentations 3:22-23
 
St Augustine even has a Web site with his writings.

The Rosary never fails.

You just don’t get instant results.

It’s just not one of those things you rub and … voila … you get your wish.
 
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St. Louis de Montfort talks of several false devotions to Mary in his book True Devotion to the Blessed Virgin Mary. He tells us this for the salvation of our souls. Quote from paragraph 103 of TD:
103. Then there are the self-interested devotees who turn to her only to win a court-case, to escape some
danger, to be cured of some ailment, or have some similar need satisfied. Except when in need they never
think of her. Such people are acceptable neither to God nor to his Mother.
104. We must, then, carefully avoid joining the critical devotees, who believe nothing and find fault with
everything; the scrupulous ones who, out of respect for our Lord, are afraid of having too much devotion to
his Mother; the exterior devotees whose devotion consists entirely in outward practices; the presumptuous
devotees who under cover of a fictitious devotion to our Lady wallow in their sins; the inconstant devotees
who, being unstable, change their devotional practices or abandon them altogether at the slightest
temptation; the hypocritical ones who join confraternities and wear emblems of our Lady only to be thought
of as good people; finally, the self-interested devotees who pray to our Lady only to be rid of bodily ills or
to obtain material benefits.
In the next paragraph he talks of the marks of authentic devotion. Look it up! And examine your conscience. Nothing is more important that true devotion to Jesus and Mary. Not even a CPA exam.
This may sound harsh, but we all must do this examination every day. I am guilty as well.
 
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