Wife does not like my mom so I can't visit

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Scott_Lafrance:

Ya, be a man and take control of your family. Sorry if that sounds a bit short and presumptuous, but because I allowed my first wife to dictate the tone of my family, she lost respect for me and left me for another guy. There is a way to resume control gently, but firmly. I’d recommend that you get a copy of the book Man of steel and Velvet. Please don’t take offense to this post. I’ve just been there so I know what you are probably going through.

Oh my Gosh!!! THIS book, by Aubrey Andelin, is by far the greatest book on manhood ever!!! YES! You can only get it though since it’s out of print through www.fascinatingwomanhood.com. Also their accompanying book for women: “Fascinating Womanhood” by Helen Andelin (his wife) is equally astounding!!! Every lady should read it. You can order it at Barnes & Noble!!!

So great Scott you mention it!

God Bless You~~

 

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Sharon:

Do I ever understand where you are coming from. I am a mother to two married sons. I have experienced wrath from both my daughter in laws. It’s just unfortunate that their wives are so insecure and jealous that they can’t share a part of their life with a mother who gave them life.

Hi Sharon:

So sorry and so sad about your situation and your health issues too!

What a delicate relationship mother-in-law with daughter-in-law is isn’t it? It must be tread very carefully and with prayer.

Know what they say? “A son is a son until he takes a wife, a daughter is a daughter for the rest of your life.”

Try to take an interest in your DIL’s Sharon, that’s all I can say! And accept them for who they are–if if they’re different from you!

 

[Scott_Lafrance]

My wife read Fascinating Womanhood at the same time that I read Man of Steel and Velvet. People wonder why we are such a stong couple.

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Oh my Gosh!!! THIS book, by Aubrey Andelin, is by far the greatest book on manhood ever!!! YES! You can only get it though since it’s out of print through www.fascinatingwomanhood.com. Also their accompanying book for women: “Fascinating Womanhood” by Helen Andelin (his wife) is equally astounding!!! Every lady should read it. You can order it at Barnes & Noble!!!

So great Scott you mention it!

God Bless You~~

 

[StephanieC]

I think the link is probably www.fascinatingwomanhood.net (not.com)…in any case, looks muy interesante!

 

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StephanieC:

I think the link is probably www.fascinatingwomanhood.net (not.com)…in any case, looks muy interesante!

Hi Stephanie! Yes, hey thanks–and it truly is. I feel these books are so needed among couples today. They truly say the essence of marriage, how it should be, according to life, according to God’s Word. Thanks for pointing out the correct web site.

God Be With You Today Steph~~

 

[Mimi_G]

Someday, your wife will be a mother in law and she will then reflect on how she treated your mother. The old saying of what goes around, comes around is sometimes true. The sad part is that it will be too late for her to make ammends with your mother and ask for forgiveness since the chances of your mother being still on this earth are slim.

Amen to this! This problem exists in my family as well. These young gals just don’t know yet what it feels like. One day it could become very apparent to them, but probably too late. Their young sons are taking note of how their mother treats their grandmother, and more than likely will do the same thing when they marry controlling spoiled women. All of this is so unnecessary.

 

[AmyS]

catsrus:

I can barely stand my husband’s mother and 2 sisters. His father can be a pill too. They are VERY well to do, VERY ultra liberal and snidely anti-Catholic. HOWEVER, they are my husband’s family and he loves them. I have learned to turn the other cheek, put up with, and never argue anything (but abortion ) with these people. Even THAT arguement has somewhat subsided over the years. I figure they are part of the package of my marriage. I’m stuck with them. I just look at it as the lemons floating in the lemonade of my marriage.

You sound a lot like my mom… My grandmother was never very nice to her, she was not good enough for my dad. My grandmother would do things to purposely upset my mom and hurt her… My grandmother was cold and hateful towards her, and made sure to do everything to my mom when my dad was out of the room. My mom never stopped visiting her, or had my dad or us kids stop, in fact she would encourage that we visit. My mom always figured that my grandmother had issues she was dealing with. My mom wasn’t a whimp about it either, it really hurt her, but sometimes you have to put those things aside (she was a true example of loving your enemy). When my grandmother was in the hospital and dying my mom was there everyday with her. My grandmother was very loving and sorry about they way she was with my mom. My grandmother realized how many mistakes she made with people in her life. Like I said my grandmother had some issues…

My question Tom is did your wife have issues with your mother before you got married to her?

 

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AmyS:

My mom never stopped visiting her, or had my dad or us kids stop, in fact she would encourage that we visit… When my grandmother was in the hospital and dying my mom was there everyday with her.

My mother-in-law was driven nuts by her mother-in-law, who was more or less oblivious to the effect she could have on people. She drove her own son nuts! Nevertheless, my MIL looked out for her MIL for 15 years after her husband died.

I said it before and I’ll say it again: every funeral, every wedding, every birth, every big event, they are there, in spirit if not in person. You really do marry a person’s whole family and all those family relationships when you marry the person, even if they never see or speak to each other. And like anything else about your spouse, things can change for better or for worse.

Those of you considering marriage, take heed and meet the family! Watch how the in-laws are treated, especially. You may learn an awful lot. (Oh, and meet your intended’s current friends, too. If you hate all of them, do everyone a favor RUN!!)