Wife says she'll divorce me if I become Catholic

[Cyril_Of_Canada]

Reminds me of the intervention set up to keep me from converting. But you’ve already got all the real advice you need. Or at least I’ve got nothing useful up my sleeve that hasn’t been said.

Oh. There’s one thing.

Make sure there are a lot of snacks around.

That way every time someone opens their mouth you can interrupt with, “Hey I don’t mean to interrupt. But have you tried these chocolate covered anchovies?”

Besides. No one can talk a lot with their mouths full. Not you. Not them.

Good luck!

Peace.

-Trident

I’d like to hear about the intervention set up to prevent you from converting if you wouldn’t mind sharing with me. Thanks.

 

[Trident_H]

I’d like to hear about the intervention set up to prevent you from converting if you wouldn’t mind sharing with me. Thanks.

Well this was done with my parents, one of their elder friends, and a well-meaning aunt/uncle pair. There was a big air of drama. They started with trying to pray over me like I was possessed. Then they took turns telling me of the horror I was walking into. Like I was stepping into the devil’s clutches. Like I was going out into a minefield. Barefoot.

I knew better than to try to argue. Mom would have just shut me down. So I just sat there eating from the vegetable tray until they were done (that’s what reminded me of the snacks).

I knew after that I was on the outs with a lot of them. They’d tried. They’d hauled out the trumpets and gave me a blast. But I wasn’t taking it. So they switched gears. Went full on shun mode. The aunt giving ma the look of consolation like I’d just died. My uncle grouching and grumbling his way out of the room. Muttering something about horses and water. Mom looked at me in disappointment. Dad just started reading the newspaper like none of it had ever happened.

And I was free to go. So I went. Freely.

Course none of them liked my fiance because of it. But they came around by the time of the wedding.

Hope it goes better for you. I never had to face down 2 pastors in one sitting. Might need more than a veggie platter for that. Might even need sausages.

-Trident

 

[Maximilan_Kolbe]

I’m still open to more suggestions and advice.

I would ask your wife to accept a visit from/to a Priest since you are being gracious and willing to talk to two Pastors. Is that fair? What could any spouse say when their own spouse is willing to do the same thing?

She needn’t fear such a visit. If a person is as confident in their beliefs as they claim, they will not be deterred. I know in my heart of hearts that the Catholic Church is the Church Christ founded. There is literally nothing that anyone could say or do that would ever lead me to doubt that.

 

[Cyril_Of_Canada]

I would ask your wife to accept a visit from/to a Priest since you are being gracious and willing to talk to two Pastors. Is that fair? What could any spouse say when their own spouse is willing to do the same thing?

She needn’t fear such a visit. If a person is as confident in their beliefs as they claim, they will not be deterred. I know in my heart of hearts that the Catholic Church is the Church Christ founded. There is literally nothing that anyone could say or do that would ever lead me to doubt that.

These two pastors are not merely pastors to us. They are our friends with whom we regularly do monthtly fellowship and bible studies with. They also have given us helpful advice about marriage. I’d thought I’d make that point because it is more casual than I may have given the impression on here. Yet, it is formal in a sense that they are our guests and have not visited us before due to the fact we live about an hour away and had moved a year ago.

I think a priest coming over would be a good idea and my wife had previously said she is open to attending RCIA classes with me when I start going to them in August, so she could learn more about the catholic faith as I do as well. However, recently because of the latest turn of events with her standing in opposition to me even converting and becoming a member, I am not sure how asking a priest to come over would be received. I hope she’ll be open to it and so prayers are needed.

My catholic bibles, catechism, and some tracts came in the mail yesterday, and even then I have had to keep it hidden for now as I ponder how to proceed. I like the suggestion that Underacloud gave where he said the lines of “thank you, I am aware of those issues and am reading widely from both the protestant and Catholic perspectives on them” and that I need to make it clear that I have considered (are considering) all issues, but are not interested in defending the Catholic stance.

I’m not sure how it would be received because I’ve spoken strongly to quite a few people about my convictions for the catholic faith, church and against protestantism and it’s teachings. I think it would be best to tell them I still reading widely from both perspectives and that perhaps this would be seen as good in their eyes. And then, with a bit of time, as this whole ordeal dies down a bit, I hope and believe that my wife would be more receptive and not so hardened. Perfect love casts our fear, as I recall.

Please pray for me that my japanese studies go well for me and I can have much success with learning japanese, memorizing lots of vocabulary, and have good memory recall for what I’ve learned. I need prayers for this, that I become fluent in japanese, and I’d like to take it even further than simply knowing it for communicatinf with my wife for her sake, but also to be able to translate and explain catholic teachings and sermons to her in japanese.

There is no japanese catholic community here where I live as far as I know and no japanese catholics too. If she were to attend mass, I’d probably have to explain everything in japanese to her. And these two things would go a long way in helping overcome certain issues I am facing.

Thank you for your replies and prayers. I’ll be lurking here as usual and should reply and update everyone on what is going on in a bit.

 

[Kat127]

My heart goes out to you, your wife and your friends. This is a very difficult situation.

I do not know your wife’s personality. But perhaps you can tell her you are concerned about fighting with your friends so you will do your best to listen to what they have to say and won’t argue every point with them because you are interested in staying their friends. (You can also tell this to the pastors.)

This may be a tough position for you to take because you will allow them to say their piece with little argument. You are not required to defend the Catholic faith or your decision to convert. You are speaking to these pastors out of love for both your wife and them.

I would suggest practicing statements like. “That is not what the Catholics teach.” “I don’t believe that to be true.” If any books or writings helped you along your path of conversion you might suggest they read the books. Don’t offer to show them the argument in the book, just suggest a title to them to read if they will like.

Before you meet with them. Pray to God to give you strength and compassion. Ask for the Holy Spirit to guide your words and heart. Also ask for help from your guardian angel. You do not face those pastors alone.

I will pray for you.

 

[Kat127]

I also wanted to reply to some of your wife’s concerns and anxieties. My prayers are with you, I certainly understand her fear and worry.

If your wife is open to it I have a few suggestions.

Many parishes have volunteers who greet new members of the parish which often includes those who moved from another place. Talk to your parish office or the person in charge of RCIA and see if it is possible to meet with some of those Catholics. That way your wife has a chance meet some people.

Many times parishes are involved in volunteer works such as with a local food pantry. Ask if it would be possible for you and your wife to volunteer with them. It would be a great way to meet some new people in a very low pressure environment.

If your wife is willing to attend Mass with you. Maybe you can find a missal online in her native language. She can follow along that way and not feel like she is missing. This would not be that different from when Catholics heard the Mass in Latin and followed along in English.

I can tell you as a woman with a life-long hearing problem I do not always follow the Mass and rarely hear the homily. I do my best and sometimes that means reminding myself that I should not beat myself up over my limitations. God takes our imperfect efforts and perfects them. So she does not need to worry overly much about it. Even life-long Catholics accidentally stand or start the sign of the cross at the wrong moment.

If you have not already, you may let her know that Catholics believe the protestants to be our Christian brethren. They are our brothers and sisters in Christ. We do not believe their doctrine is correct. We can say harsh things to them (as they do to us.) But we are called to love them and we extend our hand out to them as both family and friend. There is no reason you can’t remind friends with your current friends.

 

[Cyril_Of_Canada]

They want to discuss what I said to the male pastor a week ago as a blurted out statement:

“I am planning to become/convert to catholicism.”

So, when they visit and ask about that and want me to divulge and discuss and share that with them in the privacy of my home, in front of my wife, what should I say is I take the neutral stance for “examining about both point of views” when i’ve already clearly said what I wanted and intended to do?

The pastors and my wife think I’m doing this on impulse. My wife told me herself they and she cannot understand why I am doing this and how I could come to make such a decision. And they(the pastors) want to hear me out in private away from the church.

 

[hereagain]

Dear Cyril,

I too am really sorry to hear of your dilemma, and I can relate, on a smaller scale. I’m currently a “closet Catholic” who is really a reverted cradle Catholic. (mess?) I got married to my strong Christian (non-denominational) wife at the height of my non-denominational times. Most our friends are non-Catholic Christians. I practice my Catholic faith as much as I can, but still go with my wife to our formerly mutually chosen non-Catholic Christian church, as others here have said, for the unity of our marriage, and for now (which may change in the future).

I just mention that to let you know you’re not alone and I know it’s hard, really hard, especially with the mass (no pun intended, well, maybe a little!) misunderstandings of the Catholic Church among non-Catholic Christians. I’m to the point with my non-Catholic friends, I simply don’t discuss any of this with them as I’m also far FAR from an apologist-that stuff is really hard to communicate. I was raised in the Catholic Church and it still took me several years of study to finally understand most (as I still don’t quite understand it all, but I believe it) of what the Catholic Church teaches. Therefore, I can’t expect those who have no knowledge of the Church to be convinced with one conversation from me. The view from inside the Catholic Church is much different from the outside. To me, it’s a matter of experiencing Jesus there, not just intellectual convincing. I think not many have that gift that people like Scott Hahn does. Then there’s the old saying which goes “a man convinced against his own will, is of same opinion still”. People will believe what/how they want to, sometimes regardless of what may be true.

Something that I kept thinking about when reading your posts was maybe focus on Jesus Himself a little more than the Catholic Church. I deeply love the Catholic Church and it pains me greatly I’m not in full communion with her publicly, but am trusting it all to God, even day by day. The hardest thing for me is tolerating the non-Catholic preaching every week in my wife and I’s church. Thankfully, they are not anti-Catholic, and I figure if they ever speak directly against the Catholic Church, I’ll pull the plug. I don’t think that will happen and the Pastor there believes in going to where God puts you. I hope someday I’ll be able to tell him the truth that God has lead me back to the Catholic Church.

And that’ s really the bottom line for both of us. If God truly wants us in the Catholic Church, He will open the doors. The non-Catholic Christians are not all anti-Catholic, and those who are actually are simply misinformed, but still CHRISTIANS. While I believe in the Catholic Church, I also acknowledge there was certainly need for reform during the times of what became the Protestant Reformation. I also don’t agree with Luther and Calvin (anymore) but I also think they meant well, especially Luther. It’s not like he went out to rebel and destroy the Catholic Church and start Protestantism-he tried to help the Catholic Church get on God’s track with the written Word of God. With an honest nonobjective view of history we (meaning us Catholics) haven’t been perfect either! The splits also go way back before the Protestant Reformation, especially the Great Schism of 1054 where it was mutual but I think “we” might have started it! Remember the sharp disagreement between Paul and Barnabas was so great they departed ways (Acts 15:36-41). Well, I could go on and on, but ignorance of church history is the basis of most anti-Catholicism.

I think it’s really a matter of knowing God through Jesus is the path to heaven. Not every Christian may have the opportunity to experience God through Catholicism like we do. As followers of Christ and especially Catholics, we need to pick up our crosses and be nice, even to those who may about hate us out of ignorance. “Father forgive them, they know not what they do.”

Anyway, hopefully something I wrote is helpful to you. I’ll pray for you, brother.

HA

 

[Cyril_Of_Canada]

Thanks Hereagain. Yeah, we are closet catholics. I am happy to hear you can relate even though it is on a smaller scale.

It saddens me that I can’t seek the counsel of my christian friends who clearly would try to reassure me with their views(Evangelical, reformed protestant views). One of the questions I had been asked by the head pastor was if I had been speaking with someone or someone had been speaking to me. I said no; Which is true. I don’t know anyone in person who handed me any catholic materials or spoke to me about catholicism. No one did door-to-door evangelicism to me. For a long time, I had these feelings and thoughts and it was all from private study, examination and seeking out answers from protestants and catholics(catholic sources on the internet, such as Catholic Answers and New Advent). Did I lie or mislead him? I don’t honestly think I did. Which concerns me anyway. What will they think if I really do start speaking to a priest in person about all my questions and hear his views as equally as theirs? Will they and other christians I know suddenly become hostile?

Maybe they won’t be hostile. It is absurd, even ridiculous, at such a scenario. How can people expect me to listen to them and not hear the other point of view as well, especially because catholics are also christians.

It saddens me to hear such people proclaim a person who accepts Jesus as Lord and Saviour in their church and gets baptized as saved with such joy and happyness, even tears, but then perceives me, a baptized christian who accepts Jesus as Lord and Saviour, as someone who may not be saved all along because I either desire to convert to catholicism or do so. It saddens me deeply. Such a christian cannot lose salvation they teach, but lo and behold, it is also possible to never be saved to begin with. It’s like someone teaches Calvin to christians and then warns from a Lutheran perspective if one shows a desire to convert to catholicism. “Never saved to begin with” is just double think. Protestantism is a bunch of double think. You can’t lose salvation, but if you join the catholic church that has these errors, you were never saved all along cause they do this this and this.

Anyway.
So, I received my Ignatius Study Bible, Didache Bible, Catholic Catechism, and some catholic tracts. I am filled with joy! But at the same time, I feel I have to hide them and if I were to bring them with me to the protestant church or leave them in the open at home, it might create problems.

 

[underacloud]

And they(the pastors) want to hear me out…

They want to “hear you out”; what, as though you need their approval for this?

Be careful about the agenda here. Their agenda will most assuredly be to talk you out of it. But what is your goal for this meeting? Keep in mind you will (almost certainly) not convince them that this is the right decision. You will not be able to help them understand it. But hopefully you can show them - especially your wife - that your decision is not impulsive, but is carefully considered and informed.

Assure them that you are well informed of all Protestant criticisms of Catholicism.

Assure them that Catholics love Jesus and fully believe that He is the only source of salvation. Any suggestion otherwise is pure misunderstanding.

Assure them of your love for your wife and commitment to your marriage.

Do not expect to win any arguments on doctrine. Avoid them.

Do not expect them to be happy with or accepting of your decision; this will not happen and needn’t be your aim.

Work out what you want from the meeting, so you can steer conversation where you want it to go.

 

[Cyril_Of_Canada]

They want to “hear you out”; what, as though you need their approval for this?

Be careful about the agenda here. Their agenda will most assuredly be to talk you out of it. But what is your goal for this meeting? Keep in mind you will (almost certainly) not convince them that this is the right decision. You will not be able to help them understand it. But hopefully you can show them - especially your wife - that your decision is not impulsive, but is carefully considered and informed.

Assure them that you are well informed of all Protestant criticisms of Catholicism.

Assure them that Catholics love Jesus and fully believe that He is the only source of salvation. Any suggestion otherwise is pure misunderstanding.

Assure them of your love for your wife and commitment to your marriage.

Do not expect to win any arguments on doctrine. Avoid them.

Do not expect them to be happy with or accepting of your decision; this will not happen and needn’t be your aim.

Work out what you want from the meeting, so you can steer conversation where you want it to go.

I think you’re right about this. Thank you for the advice.

 

[underacloud]

I think you’re right about this. Thank you for the advice.

No problem. While I was raised Catholic and never converted, most of my closest friends have been Protestant and I’ve been through these issues many times over, with Protestants who feel the need to try to save me (which is frustrating, but I do understand it from their viewpoint).

And my closest friends still are Protestant, so please do not lose hope. It is possible to arrive at a place of mutual respect.

 

[Cyril_Of_Canada]

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[Trident_H]

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“You’re becoming a catholic?!?”

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lol

 

[Cyril_Of_Canada]

Yesterday, I received two catholic study bibles and the catechism of the catholic church. Should I keep them hidden from her for now? Then again, if I keep them hidden, she may get upset that I hid them from her and wasn’t upfront about my feelings, feeling the need to hide it. She did tell me before she’d rather have me tell her I wanted to go to the catholic church than not tell her, but now I am not sure how she’d react because of her current stance against conversion.

Advice on how to proceed with the Ignatius Catholic Study Bible and the Didache Bible?

 

[hereagain]

I’m in the same boat here too, Cyril. One of the early things that happened with me and my wife is she “caught” me reading St. Therese’s bio on my smart phone while we were at our non-Catholic church. This prompted more discussion of my Catholic interests and she told me what she didn’t like about it was my going to Masses without her knowledge. For quite awhile after that, I’d tell her when I’d go, but it is very uncomfortable for both of us-she doesn’t know how to react and has a look of confusion and fear when I’ve told her and I feel like I’m confessing a sin! So I mostly stopped telling her, but always willing to admit it too. I told her recently I went (Good Fri.) saying how I haven’t been to a Good Fri. liturgy in probably 30 years. She basically said ‘that’s nice, dear’ with a look of somewhat disapproval. Once when I told her after a service at our non-Catholic church I didn’t agree with that I may have to do something about this and my Catholic leanings her fear level hit about the terror stage which prompted me to quickly back off. (We were very much on the same page spiritually when we married. The only difference was probably the Eucharist which I have always believed in no matter how non-Catholic I’ve ever been.)

Shortly after our discussion of my Catholic interests she said I shouldn’t feel I have to hide it. However, I pretty much do. I keep my Catholic materials mostly to myself. I actually have a very modest altar in my “man cave” with just a crucifix and a few candles. I also have a shadow box with holy cards, another crucifix and a small statue of Our Lady I put out when “the coast is clear” during my home altar prayer times.

As previously mentioned, things look much different from inside the Church than from the outside, and anything even a little Catholic looking looks strange to many non-Catholics. When I went to a shrine intending to buy some religious articles and get them blessed to have more sacramentals I was thinking about how open with them I should be, when I felt the impression I’m to “protect the sacred”. That’s what I do which seems to be most beneficial. But with books, that may be a bit different especially if your wife believes the Bible. Mine does adamantly and showing her scriptures that support Catholic doctrine sometimes helps.

cheers!
HA

 

[Cyril_Of_Canada]

I’m in the same boat here too, Cyril. One of the early things that happened with me and my wife is she “caught” me reading St. Therese’s bio on my smart phone while we were at our non-Catholic church. This prompted more discussion of my Catholic interests and she told me what she didn’t like about it was my going to Masses without her knowledge. For quite awhile after that, I’d tell her when I’d go, but it is very uncomfortable for both of us-she doesn’t know how to react and has a look of confusion and fear when I’ve told her and I feel like I’m confessing a sin! So I mostly stopped telling her, but always willing to admit it too. I told her recently I went (Good Fri.) saying how I haven’t been to a Good Fri. liturgy in probably 30 years. She basically said ‘that’s nice, dear’ with a look of somewhat disapproval. Once when I told her after a service at our non-Catholic church I didn’t agree with that I may have to do something about this and my Catholic leanings her fear level hit about the terror stage which prompted me to quickly back off. (We were very much on the same page spiritually when we married. The only difference was probably the Eucharist which I have always believed in no matter how non-Catholic I’ve ever been.)

Shortly after our discussion of my Catholic interests she said I shouldn’t feel I have to hide it. However, I pretty much do. I keep my Catholic materials mostly to myself. I actually have a very modest altar in my “man cave” with just a crucifix and a few candles. I also have a shadow box with holy cards, another crucifix and a small statue of Our Lady I put out when “the coast is clear” during my home altar prayer times.

As previously mentioned, things look much different from inside the Church than from the outside, and anything even a little Catholic looking looks strange to many non-Catholics. When I went to a shrine intending to buy some religious articles and get them blessed to have more sacramentals I was thinking about how open with them I should be, when I felt the impression I’m to “protect the sacred”. That’s what I do which seems to be most beneficial. But with books, that may be a bit different especially if your wife believes the Bible. Mine does adamantly and showing her scriptures that support Catholic doctrine sometimes helps.

cheers!
HA

Wow. Yeah. It’s too bad we have to keep our catholic beliefs private. The downside is that it may hurt our significant other and cause them to feel that we don’t trust them, especially with our thoughts and feelings. I may hide my catholic material, but what if she learns of them sometime in the future and finds out I hid them from her. I sense it would be deconstructive for our relationship. So, I may decide to keep them out in the open. Thanks for sharing, Hereagain.

 

[Cyril_Of_Canada]

I think it would be wise for me to not hide the catholic material from my wife. I’ll leave it at our office/study and keep it there. But for now, I’ll just bring my English Standard Version to our non-denomational church.

 

[wildrumpus]

“Why would he do that!?!”

“What!? Why would YOU do that?”

“So you believe me in adding to the work of the cross?”

“Catholics worship Mary.”

“Catholic’s communion of the saints is divination to dead people.”

Those are some of the reactions I have received when people found out I want to become a Catholic. Some people I told; Others found out through my wife. My wife urged me to not do it, saying everyone at the church will think I will be unloving toward her if I convert to Catholicism and, she feels that way too, and that our marriage would no longer work out and that she would want to divorce me. “Why don’t you listen to everyone?” She says. “Your father and mother doesn’t agree with your actions and said the marriage is important and what is important is for us to be happy. Our pastors disagree and so do the other people. If you do it, it’ll be unloving and we might get divorced.”

Yup. It seems now that if I go through with Catholic, my marriage may be over. And my parents might blame me and so may everyone else in my life. And we have a son too. I am currently tempted to quit my plan to convert, but I don’t want to. I’m definately in a state of mortal sin and firmly believe that if I were to die, I’d go to hell. Plus, I don’t agree with protestant teachings anymore and luther and calvin, but she likes luther and agrees with his teachings. I offered to keep attending the church as usual, with the addition of mass(since I am required or else it is a mortal sin) for the unity of my marriage and to keep doing everything as before, but it comes down to the conversion. The fact I’m converting is the deal breaker apparently.

They want me to reconsider and listen to what the pastors have to say and my parents, meanwhile she no longer wants to hear me talk or share catholicism with her and others.
My wife told me she cannot respect me in wanting to convert nor accept it and it’s just unthinkable. That I’m completely selfish and being impulsive, and if I were to do it, I should wait 18 years from now when our son grows up and moves out. How could I convert; After all, this is the church whose pastor married us, and helped us out, especially when it came to us having a baby. My wife feels deep gratitude toward them and also because they have been loving toward us as a community.

…I feel like I just want to give up on myself. It feels too almost too much to bare…but I want to convert to catholicism at the same time…

Your original post and some of the replies has made me feel sick to my stomach on a variety of levels.

Those who say you are being abused are not only ridiculous, but it isn’t helping the situation.

Judging by your original post and the quoted statements, it appears that you did not approach the situation in a very diplomatic way. If you had, she would not have been so shocked. Out of the clear blue sky you inform her you want to convert to Roman Catholicism, and you expect her to take it like a grain of salt? It sounds to me like you kept a secret for some time. If you had gradually brought up different ideas and spoke to her in a loving manner, she would not have been shocked. Too late now. Now it’s your responsibility to fix it. You must put your family ahead of yourself. It is this messed up because of how you handled it. And if you do not fix it (which I believe you can), and simply convert regardless, just how much of a Christian will you really be then? From my perspective, you have handled this whole thing very selfishly and/or cowardly. It’s time to man-up and practice True Love, the way Jesus taught us, and use this opportunity to show everyone just what True Love really is.

And if you really believe that our loving God would force you to go to Hell just because you haven’t had some special receipt by a Priest, then I will pray for you morning, noon, and night. The Lord knows if you are saved, and He also knows how you are acting.

I hope you have a good Priest you can talk with, and I am praying for you and your family brother.

 

[Cyril_Of_Canada]

Your original post and some of the replies has made me feel sick to my stomach on a variety of levels.

Those who say you are being abused are not only ridiculous, but it isn’t helping the situation.

Judging by your original post and the quoted statements, it appears that you did not approach the situation in a very diplomatic way. If you had, she would not have been so shocked. Out of the clear blue sky you inform her you want to convert to Roman Catholicism, and you expect her to take it like a grain of salt? It sounds to me like you kept a secret for some time. If you had gradually brought up different ideas and spoke to her in a loving manner, she would not have been shocked. Too late now. Now it’s your responsibility to fix it. You must put your family ahead of yourself. It is this messed up because of how you handled it. And if you do not fix it (which I believe you can), and simply convert regardless, just how much of a Christian will you really be then? From my perspective, you have handled this whole thing very selfishly and/or cowardly. It’s time to man-up and practice True Love, the way Jesus taught us, and use this opportunity to show everyone just what True Love really is.

And if you really believe that our loving God would force you to go to Hell just because you haven’t had some special receipt by a Priest, then I will pray for you morning, noon, and night. The Lord knows if you are saved, and He also knows how you are acting.

I hope you have a good Priest you can talk with, and I am praying for you and your family brother.

The reactions in the first paragraph were not from my wife; They were from fellow protestants we know, some of whom are pastors. First, when I had first told my wife, she was fully supportive of my decision, even asking why I hadn’t told her sooner. I thought things had gone so well; It seemed far from what I had imagined.

Consider the following that I posted on Feb. 15 reporting the result of telling my wife I wanted to become catholic:

"
What an interesting turn of events today. My wife and I had a talk. She is respecting my decision to convert to Roman Catholicism. She even suggested that my son could even join me, though she isn’t sure if she’ll convert. Tomorrow, I head off to the local parish in my area to have a face-to-face talk with one of the priests, or church staff, is possible. I may need to book an appointment.

I’ll admit, I never in my entire life believed this day would come. Never. I thought I’d be a protestant to the day I die, and then some. I’m still in shock. Just taking it all in."
forums.catholic-questions.org/showpost.php?p=13677104&postcount=40

The following thread is about me going to inform the head pastor in private about what I’d like to do after I had my wife’s support. She still wanted to hear what they had to say:
forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?p=13688341#post13688341

March 11th, which took place shortly after us speaking to the pastor, I posted some questions regarding what my wife brought up in her opposition to catholicism. At this point she told me not to pray for her to join the catholic church and said to let her be as a protestant and not bring up catholicism in our home in order to keep the unity. She wantsd me to just keep it to myself at this point and not talk any further with forums.catholic-questions.org/showpost.php?p=13739148&postcount=1

This thread is about what happened a week ago after I told someone my wife and I know privately who is leaving the church with her husband to find another one. So I wanted to share because I felt they could relate to me. Then some others found out(the two other pastors and someone else). I posted some of their reactions at the beginning of this thread.

So you see, this has been ongoing for a while and not sudden.