Women, how should catholic men treat you?

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For what it’s worth, I got a good chuckle out of it all. 😁
 
I like your sarcasm but the last time I deployed that type of sarcasm I got scoldings. 😒😏
 
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Thank you for asking the question.
It seems this thread has been thrown off the rails.

You know what I would appreciate from men? I don’t like when I meet someone and shake their hand, they look me up and down from head to toe. Men don’t do that to men. Look me in the eyes and smile. Don’t check me out, and I’m almost 60. Sheeesh. Bad habit. Be a gentleman. Model that for the younger women, for your wife, for your daughters, and your sons.
 
People where I live open doors for each other with a smile. The man I have been married to for 47 years does laundry dishes and some of the cleaning.
I want to be treated as a human being with value. Don’t assume I am stupid. Don’t talk down to or over me.
 
MagdalenaRita said:
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Le_Crouton:
I’m not treating men poorly. I’m just saying shouldn’t men treat women better
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I appreciate your question and think it is a good question. I am not sure, though, if I would say better so much as I would say different. Society used to realize that there were differences between men and women and women were treated with respect for their femininity. Sadly that is something that is lost.

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Car doors used to be a lot heavier then they are now. And holding doors for people entering a building is just common courtesy, for men and women.
 
If you know how to treat people in general then you know how to treat women. So this thread seems kind of pointless. If you are asking about how you should treat a woman you are trying to flirt with or to date maybe there would be something to learn. But asking about how to treat women in general is kind of pointless. Treat them with the respect you would treat anyone else.
 
redbetta said:
So, the point is, men ought to be gentlemen to all women, regardless of romantic interest.
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Good advice. I know my sister has encountered that a number of times in her life. She would think she is just good friends with a good guy. He expresses romantic interest. She declines. Then his personality and behavior completely changes. I never understood that. We should be kind to people regardless of any perceived benefit we may or may not receive from them in the future.
 
Yes we should. Beyond a doubt. I may casually hold a door open for a man following me through, but I will stop and hold a door for a woman while she goes through first. I don’t open the car door for my son’s, brothers or friends. But if my wife, or daughters, or sisters are riding with me, I do. I will, maybe this one isn’t right, be more likely to give money to a woman who is begging on the street. I will give up my seat in a crowded church for a woman. I would go on and on, most of these are just habits we were taught as kids.
 
Exactly. I don’t expect to do all the cleaning and cooking in exchange for door openings. I hold the door open for anyone who is behind me. My husband does all the laundry and we share the cleaning and yard work.
 
The only good thing I can say about that kind of behavior is that it at least makes it clear you’ve dodged a bullet. There is no way a guy can keep that charade up forever.
 
babochka said:
And holding doors for people entering a building is just common courtesy, for men and women.
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This is true, yes, but I do not hold a door open for a man the same way a man holds a door open for me. A man will hold a door and allow a woman to go first where a woman might hold the door behind her just keep it from closing so it doesn’t hit the man following her. There are at times exceptions of course.

It is also important to say thank you when someone holds a door for you. I do say this especially for women because for some reason the whole holding a door open for a woman seems insulting to some, as shown by how this thread has turned into a topic about holding doors open. My son when a teen held a door open for two young women and rather than saying thank you they scolded him that they don’t need a man to hold a door for them. As you can imagine it took him a while to want to be courteous again.
 
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Most men I know would look at me really weird if I opened and closed the car door for them. I think I will keep doing it for women.
 
GhostOfBBM said:
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MagdalenaRita:
If you were that good of a Catholic you would never call a woman a “hussie”.
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I’m a Catholic from the 20s. Get on the trolley, sister.

Also, I love the fact that CAF is so crazy about women’s clothing that what I thought was obviously satire isn’t registering.
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These days some people’s real behavior goes to such extremes that it can be hard to tell when someone is being satirical.
I’m pleased to learn that you were not one of the extremists.
 
What disgusting behavior they displayed, Im sorry your son had to experience that.
 
Le_Crouton said:
What are some ways that we can do a better job as catholic men in treating our sisters in Christ?
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There would be variations depending on the woman.

For me, just treat me like I’m equal. Don’t put us on a pedestal, we’re just as flawed. Be genuine as possible. Chivalry can be awkward and weird at times, so it’s up to you if you want to open a door lol. Some women like it, some women don’t.

In a more catholic context, I guess just defend us when we’re blamed for men’s lust. Don’t stereotype us, we’re all different.

I guess that’s the main two things catholics need to work on.
 
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