Women only please: "acclimating" to head covering

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Thanks to the OP for this thread and the encouragement it gives to start wearing a head cover at Mass. I wore a scarf for the first time at Mass on Sunday; just a regular square silk scarf tied at the side sort of gypsy style. Anyway no stares, no more then usual anyway 😉 I’ve got some mantillas …I like them, but the scarves cover better and don’t fall off!
 
I’ve been wearing a head covering now for about a month. I’m wearing a kerchief. I’m only aware of two other women in my whole 4,000 plus parish who wears one. But, I’ve heard several women say they want to wear one, but are too embarrassed.

But, here’s my question, should I gently push the issue with my daughters? Or, let them decide? I know my 12 year old would not wear one–she is mad enough that I won’t let her wear jeans or t shirts to Mass. But, I think my 7 year old would.

What do you do with your daughters?
 
I don’t have daughters, but I would ask them rather than tell them. You don’t want them to resent wearing a head covering and then never do it again when they are able to stop. Lead by example, and gently ask them if they would like to wear one as well. They might surprise you! Even if they say no now, they might say yes later when it’s more their own idea - if you get what I mean. 😉

~Liza
 
Hi !!🙂

This is a great thread.I had an ocassion to go to aTLM and had no headcovering. I looked all over the house and came up with an old lace collar that my mother -in -law had croshayed.It was quite large and passed for a vail. I felt funny at first,but soon forgot I had it on.It seemed so correct for Church. I am going to buy a mantilla on E Bay and wear it to the NO.🙂

Cecilia:thumbsup:
 
DJgang said:
Would a lightweight scarf be too distracting?

Lately I’ve been wearing a scarf as a headband. Not really a head covering, but I feel like maybe a scarf will not feel strange if I decide to wear it…

Good luck.
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Maybe I should try a lightweight scarf. But my point is I’m always afraid it will come off, and I always feel it’s in the way and I’ll get a lot of stares.
 
PatienceAndLove said:
Perhaps a snood would be more to your liking? Several headcovering sites carry them, as do some of the sites others have listed.
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I think snoods could be nice. My hair and headcovering won’t reall be in the way, and it probably won’t be so distracting.

I normally wear my hair in a ponytail, so I like to keep hair and stuff off my neck and face.
 
Okay; for the last 3 weeks I have been wearing head coverings- largely thanks to this thread, so thanks,OP. The lace mantilla I wore fell right down as I tipped my head to receive Communion on the tongue, so the following Sunday I wore a silk scarf, loosely knotted at my throat and secured at the sides with those little triangular clips- they worked really wel! So far I am the only one wearing a head covering, but who knows, maybe it will catch on here. The thing that amazes me is how much courage it takes for us women to do such a simple thing when most of us wouldn’t think twice about being the first to try out the latest fashion. So cowgirl up everybody! Don’t be afraid to be different- we are doing it to please Him! ( And no, I’m still not brave enough to wear my cowboy hat!)😃
 
rider said:
Okay; for the last 3 weeks I have been wearing head coverings- largely thanks to this thread, so thanks,OP. The lace mantilla I wore fell right down as I tipped my head to receive Communion on the tongue, so the following Sunday I wore a silk scarf, loosely knotted at my throat and secured at the sides with those little triangular clips- they worked really wel! So far I am the only one wearing a head covering, but who knows, maybe it will catch on here. The thing that amazes me is how much courage it takes for us women to do such a simple thing when most of us wouldn’t think twice about being the first to try out the latest fashion. So cowgirl up everybody! Don’t be afraid to be different- we are doing it to please Him! ( And no, I’m still not brave enough to wear my cowboy hat!)😃
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Try sewing a hair clip or a hair comb into the front seam of the Mantilla. This will keep your mantilla on.
 
I wore my white (embarrassingly white-white) lace mantilla today for the first time to Sunday NO Mass. My daughters, 9 and 11, decided they wanted to wear theirs also after 4 weeks of discussing the reasons, traditions and scripture regarding this practice. I was so self-conscious that I kept my eyes closed and my head bowed through the entire Mass – I didn’t want to see people staring at us. Soon, I began to feel as though I was in my own little world, protected and sheltered from every distraction by my veil. Wearing that little piece of lace today was one of the hardest things I have ever done! I deeply believe, however, that my Lord, my God, my King, and my all is asking me to humble myself in His presence.
 
Thank you for this thread. I’ve been wanting to cover since I went to my first TLM but I have not been able to get up the nerve. At my regular parish ( NO ) I see one or two women that wear veils once in awhile. I’d prefer to wear the large scarves I have but they tend to slip off my hair very easily.
 
I understand some of the feelings that go with beginning to wear a head covering. Whenever I feel uncomfortable, I use it as part of the humbling experience of wearing one. For me, I have found that any discomfort is simply another way I can combine my ‘sufferings’ with Christ. Then the ‘distraction’ becomes more of a prayer. Think of Our Lord and how he was ridiculed, spat upon, etc. It is not our desire to be noticed, but if it happens, it’s a good opportunity to ‘offer it up’ in humility. Just a thought:)
Also, I began making veils a few years ago, and giving them away. I found that I had the same problem with movement as so many others talked about. I sew a ‘comb’ into the top, about 2" from the edge. It is quick and easy to slip it into my hair as I enter the church. This helps also in the fact that we are not to place our veils in the same manner we fix our hair in a mirror…that eliminates the ‘humility’ in covering our vanity…instead, don’t look! God bless,
Therese1
 
I wear a little scarf or a newsboy cap to daily Mass. To Sunday Mass I wear a nice hat or once in a while a chapel cap. The only time I feel comfortable wearing a mantilla is to an extraordinary Mass.
 
I had a little set back in my acclimating.

My dd had her first communion enrollment Mass. We were asked to read the prayers of the faithful. As we walked in, I noticed of course that my dd and I were the only ones with head coverings. We sat up front because we had to go up to read. I was distracted throughout the Mass because I felt so self-conscious. I kept telling myself, “I’m wearing it for Jesus.–not for anyone else.”

We were sitting diagonal to the Albo where we suppose to go. When the time came, I couldn’t make myself (with my dd) cross in front of the Altar, necessitating a bow, and then around to the other side. I just went to the Pulpit that was close to us. Generally during Mass that is where our parish has the prayers of the faithful read, but I know the RE wanted us to go to the Albo.

During Sunday Mass, I don’t worry about wearing a headcovering so much anymore. But, this was so upfront.

Plus, mom and I were talking about reverence in Church. She had introduced the topic. I told her I was wearing a headcovering now. And, she told me that it was weird.

sigh.

I just want to make sure I’m doing this for Jesus. Is he really pleased with me wearing a headcovering? Is it a good mortification of my vanity or am I separating myself from my fellow parishioners?
 
I, too. worry if I am covering my head for the right reasons. I truly do not want to call attention to myself nor do I want to appear holier than thou. I am painfully aware of my sins and shortcomings.
I cover my head because scripture calls for it and women have been covering their heads in the presence of the Lord since Old Testament times. Why did we suddenly become exempt from doing this around 1970? It came about because of pressure from feminists. But the Church no longer demands it so it is now a free choice.
I try to wear a headcovering which is as unobtrusive as possible. And no one should be made to feel ashamed to either cover her head or not cover her head.
 
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