Wore my veil at the NO today

[tecvba]

I love to wear a veil. It helps remind me just WHO it is that I am speaking to. I also love seeing the tabernacle in a Church but I think sometimes people forget where they are because the noise level reaches concert hall volume in some churches. I go to mostly a parish that has a TLM-even the NO masses there are more reverant but I still like the TLM.

 

[DesertSister62]

Don’t mean to just jump in at the middle of this discussion, but those of you who are putting the N.O. Mass down, …for some of us that is the only Mass that we have access to.

I spent some time with my Dad last summer and in Modesto there were 3 Catholic Churches that I knew of and several priests at each Church. Here in the South it isn’t like that in the smaller rural areas. I live close to Tupelo and there is ONE Catholic Church in Tupelo and the Latin Tridentine Mass isn’t offered anywhere in MS at this time. It was listed for Jackson but that is hours and hours away at the bottom of the state. (and as it turned out, it had been cancelled!) Tupelo is up in the Northeast corner of MS.

Our Mass is pretty reverent. If anyone “covers” at Mass, there aren’t many. My friend wears either a mantilla or a hat, but I decided to go with a veil that is listed on the “Plain Catholic” website. The biggest problem so far has been that people will come up to me and assume that I am a Catholic Sister. I feel that is because Catholics miss seeing their Religious Sisters in veils! We have Catholic Sisters as “Pastoral Ministers” here in the South where we are not able to have a priest. The ones I have seen in MS do NOT wear veils so it is hard to identify them if you don’t know them.

I like my veil, though, so I just hope that people will get used to seeing me in it and will know that I am not a Sister.

BLESSINGS!

 

[adelore]

I admire you for wearing your veil. I’ve never had a “Veil” of the lace type, (just head coverings, doiles, scarfs, ect.) but I’ve got one ordered.

I can understand people thinking you might be a Sister, since a lot of the Nuns don’t wear the Habit anymore. (and we don’t have any Nuns at our Rural Parish.) So I can see where it might make them think you are a Nun. But when they find out your not a Nun, I’m sure it gives them plenty to think about with you wearing a Veil in honor to our Lord.

 

[tecvba]

Don’t mean to just jump in at the middle of this discussion, but those of you who are putting the N.O. Mass down, …for some of us that is the only Mass that we have access to.

I spent some time with my Dad last summer and in Modesto there were 3 Catholic Churches that I knew of and several priests at each Church. Here in the South it isn’t like that in the smaller rural areas. I live close to Tupelo and there is ONE Catholic Church in Tupelo and the Latin Tridentine Mass isn’t offered anywhere in MS at this time. It was listed for Jackson but that is hours and hours away at the bottom of the state. (and as it turned out, it had been cancelled!) Tupelo is up in the Northeast corner of MS.

Our Mass is pretty reverent. If anyone “covers” at Mass, there aren’t many. My friend wears either a mantilla or a hat, but I decided to go with a veil that is listed on the “Plain Catholic” website. The biggest problem so far has been that people will come up to me and assume that I am a Catholic Sister. I feel that is because Catholics miss seeing their Religious Sisters in veils! We have Catholic Sisters as “Pastoral Ministers” here in the South where we are not able to have a priest. The ones I have seen in MS do NOT wear veils so it is hard to identify them if you don’t know them.

I like my veil, though, so I just hope that people will get used to seeing me in it and will know that I am not a Sister.

BLESSINGS!

Good for you about wearing your veil !

Speaking strictly for myself I would not ever put down a NO mass. It is a legitimate mass of the Latin Rite Roman Catholic Church and to say otherwise is to say The Church is in error to use it. For me it is a matter of preference and since I am blessed enough to live in an area that offers both options I like going to the TLM for my own spiritual desires. I definitely do not agree that it is the TLM or no mass at all. I did not really grow up the TLM either so it’s not a yearning for the past so much as it is a sense for me personally of the quiet and reverence.

 

[motherofsix]

Don’t mean to just jump in at the middle of this discussion, but those of you who are putting the N.O. Mass down, …for some of us that is the only Mass that we have access to.

I spent some time with my Dad last summer and in Modesto there were 3 Catholic Churches that I knew of and several priests at each Church. Here in the South it isn’t like that in the smaller rural areas. I live close to Tupelo and there is ONE Catholic Church in Tupelo and the Latin Tridentine Mass isn’t offered anywhere in MS at this time. It was listed for Jackson but that is hours and hours away at the bottom of the state. (and as it turned out, it had been cancelled!) Tupelo is up in the Northeast corner of MS.

Our Mass is pretty reverent. If anyone “covers” at Mass, there aren’t many. My friend wears either a mantilla or a hat, but I decided to go with a veil that is listed on the “Plain Catholic” website. The biggest problem so far has been that people will come up to me and assume that I am a Catholic Sister. I feel that is because Catholics miss seeing their Religious Sisters in veils! We have Catholic Sisters as “Pastoral Ministers” here in the South where we are not able to have a priest. The ones I have seen in MS do NOT wear veils so it is hard to identify them if you don’t know them.

I like my veil, though, so I just hope that people will get used to seeing me in it and will know that I am not a Sister.

BLESSINGS!

I understand you comepletely. My husbands family is from Greenwood, MS, close to you guys, and we find it hard to find a chruch when we go visit. I am lucky to have so many churches within walking distance of my house. South Louisiana is full of Catholic Churches. I do, however, drive 20 minutes for a TLM.

 

[WaldMissionar]

I went to Mass with my grandma for the first time last week. She wore a lovely scarf around her neck. Before Mass (NO) we got to talking about TLM, of which I am a fan. Turns out she likes it too and wishes the parishes around would celebrate the Mass the traditional way. Just in case, I had my mantilla in my purse. I brought it out and looked at her smiling. I put it on and she put her scarf over her head. After Mass an elderly woman sitting behind me in the pews smiled said, “God bless you.” I think she was touched by this act of devotion.

Recently I went to weekday Mass at the LA cathedral. I wore my mantilla. A couple of other women wore theirs.

I go to college in a liberal town. Even the Catholic church is “liberal”. I feel more comfortable wearing my pretty pink gauze Tibetan scarf around my head.

Wear it proudly, wear it devoutly!

 

[Khoria_Anna]

I have had some people say nasty things about head coverings of all kinds…like really nasty

On a similar note, my friend went up to the priest for communion with a veil on her head and he refused to give her communion until she took it off her head. Which she refused to do…so he just ended up giving her communion.

Carolina Girl, I’m devastated, esp. since I’m also a Carolina girl and don’t want to run into that! I used to veil all the time, but stopped after getting nasty comments and looks. I then just veiled only when I thought it wouldn’t be a distraction to others or to myself. I looked on it as an act of personal piety that could cause distraction to others who are offended by such things, and to myself who doesn’t want to be worrying about what others think.

Anyway, I’m now a cancer patient taking daily radiation to remove a brain tumor. I veil or cover everywhere except in my own home because the right side of my head is bald. It’s not obvious when I do a comb over under a veil. I don’t know what I’d do if a priest gave me the choice between receiving Our Lord in the Eucharist or removing my veil .

My uncharitable thought would be to just remove the veil and shock the heck out of him, but that would be wrong. And besides I wouldn’t have the guts. I’d probably just slink out of the church and collapse in tears before I hit the Narthex. So, guess I’ll just go to the parishes where I know that veils are welcome until my hair grows back.

 

[mantilla410]

My goodness, I’m giving thanks that I live in such a traditional area that I have never gotten nasty looks, comments, or heaven forbid, been told to remove my mantilla by the priest! Here in this area you see all sorts of ladies with either veils or hats on: Hispanic, Basque, Filipino, Italian, Irish, etc. Of course, we are a conservative county for being in California, so that may have something to do with it…

I have a lovely collection, mostly black. I like black. I have a prize white one from the wonderful Devorah that many of you have shown links of her work. This one I wear at Christmas and Easter; its special. During the winter I do sometimes wear a rebozo (traditional Mexican shawl) because my head and ears get cold.

Keep wearing your veils, ladies. Think of it as part of your Armor of God and the veil as your helmet!

 

[Catherine_CM]

When my fellow parishioners cease wearing short shorts, halters, exercise clothes, and worse to Holy Mass, THEN I will worry about whether or not a head covering is inappropriate. While touring Mexico and Guatemala I saw posted on church doors signs asking tourists to refrain from wearing beach attire to Mass. Maybe we need that here. Thank you. Catherine

 

[CatholicRevert1]

I am currently converting and feel that God wants me to wear a veil to Mass. I have never done this before (have ordered one on the internet) and think it will be great. A lot of women wear them in the Cathedral in London so should be fine (hopefully).

 

[FanChan]

I am currently converting and feel that God wants me to wear a veil to Mass. I have never done this before (have ordered one on the internet) and think it will be great. A lot of women wear them in the Cathedral in London so should be fine (hopefully).

Welcome Rome! It’s great to hear you’ve got a good community to wear a veil in, I feel as lucky with my own. Lord knows if I’d wanted to start wearing one back at the old parish I would’ve been even more of an outcast than I already was. If I got dirty looks for not holding hands during the Our Father, I can’t imagine what wearing a veil would’ve caused

 

[CatholicRevert1]

Welcome Rome! It’s great to hear you’ve got a good community to wear a veil in, I feel as lucky with my own. Lord knows if I’d wanted to start wearing one back at the old parish I would’ve been even more of an outcast than I already was. If I got dirty looks for not holding hands during the Our Father, I can’t imagine what wearing a veil would’ve caused

Who holds hands? I have been to several Churches in my life and nobody holds hands. That would freak me out! I guess it would have made me an outcast too - very strange.

 

[FanChan]

Who holds hands? I have been to several Churches in my life and nobody holds hands. That would freak me out! I guess it would have made me an outcast too - very strange.

Lol. It was the norm to me - every parish I’d ever gone to did it, so when dad started to stop doing it, it was almost insulting. Then he explained it, and mom and I followed his example. I had one lady who actually reached out and grabbed my hand when I didn’t offer it. I could only sigh and go along with it.

 

[Sarabande]

It was pretty uncomfortable, actually. I got a weird look or two, and I felt completely the opposite of modest, since I was sort of drawing attention to myself.

Any of you gals do that when/if you have to go to the NO Mass? How do you feel about it?

I have tried doing it during mass, but I felt that I was bringing more attention to myself, so I stopped. That said, I do like wearing one when I can at mass. It makes me feel more modest, but if I attend a mass where no one is wearing one and I get stared at and people whisper around me, I just feel like I shouldn’t be bringing that kind of attention onto myself.

 

[wisdomseeker]

Who holds hands? I have been to several Churches in my life and nobody holds hands. That would freak me out! I guess it would have made me an outcast too - very strange.

in my area every church i go to people hold hands. it is kind of strange to me. i dont know much about it but it seems to me that is something new. who started this i dont know. i just put my hands together and pretend i dont know what they are doing.

God have mercy on us.

 

[DesertSister62]

Ladies, I have to ask why in the world you would let anyone tell you whether or not you can or cannot wear a veil in Church when Vatican II never made a change to that particular situation. People just assumed it had and it was never challenged by the priests. That is why that priest (above) didn’t refuse communion to “Carolinagirl411’s” friend. He couldn’t and back it up. It is NOT against the Church law to wear a veil or any other covering to Mass!! It’s just that the people who wanted that particular liberty teamed up with the liberal priests and everyone was happy; for a time. Now, however, different people in the Church are being led by the Spirit to begin covering again.

I have to ask again, though,…why in the world would we bow to the dicates of people that are many times inappropriately clad themselves? What we should be concerned about is the lack of humility and reverence in our Masses. God deserves the greatest respect and I wear my veil for that reason and no other. And because I wear it for HIM…no one is going to make me take it off!

And now I will get down off my soapbox! Sorry, it is a touchy subject with me, is all.

DesertSister62

 

[CatholicRevert1]

It is NOT against the Church law to wear a veil or any other covering to Mass!! It’s just that the people who wanted that particular liberty teamed up with the liberal priests and everyone was happy; for a time. Now, however, different people in the Church are being led by the Spirit to begin covering again.
DesertSister62

I think it is more a case of people being obsessed with appearances and not wanting to look different. I live in London and most people wear black or blue coats so they don’t stand out! It is strange. As far as the mantilla goes I hope it arrives today so I can wear it to Mass tomorrow. Looking around Church it only seems to be older women wearing them which is sad too. I am 38 next week so will bring the average age down a few years lol. I didn’t think the Spirit could call me to wear a mantilla though but it feels right. I just booked a tour of Italy with a Christian holiday company in September and we go to the Vatican on the tour. Mass at the Vatican will be awesome!

 

[FanChan]

I think it is more a case of people being obsessed with appearances and not wanting to look different. I live in London and most people wear black or blue coats so they don’t stand out! It is strange. As far as the mantilla goes I hope it arrives today so I can wear it to Mass tomorrow. Looking around Church it only seems to be older women wearing them which is sad too. I am 38 next week so will bring the average age down a few years lol. I didn’t think the Spirit could call me to wear a mantilla though but it feels right. I just booked a tour of Italy with a Christian holiday company in September and we go to the Vatican on the tour. Mass at the Vatican will be awesome!

Oooh, that’s great! I really want to go to the Vatican some day.

Here in America, I’m not so sure the ‘not wanting to stand out’ thing is quite so true. The scantily clad women certainly draw attention to themselves. A big part of it, I think, is the stigma the feminist movement placed on them back in the sixties. That led to nearly all women giving them up. Then the new generation goes to Church and never sees them, or rarely sees them, and while perhaps curious, doesn’t pay much attention. People who’ve converted post VatII most likely don’t have much of any clue as to their significance if they haven’t been specifically educated about them, which was the case with my mom. I asked her one time at a Catholic conference what they were for, and she could only assume it was a cultural thing, since the majority of the women were Mexican that we saw with them.

This is one of those topics I wish the Vatican would give a very brief clarification on, for everyone’s sake. End the debate on whether or not they were dismissed as necessary, and give some approval to the continued practice if they were dismissed, at least to get all of the evil-eyed ladies off our backs. Well, if they’d listen to the Vatican.

 

[Rush_Catholic]

It was pretty uncomfortable, actually. I got a weird look or two, and I felt completely the opposite of modest, since I was sort of drawing attention to myself.

Any of you gals do that when/if you have to go to the NO Mass? How do you feel about it?

God bless you for showing true religious courage!

 

[DesertSister62]

Hi Again, Ladies,

I have a question that I neglected to ask the last time I posted: Where do you sit when you go to Church? In the front, the middle, or the back of the Church? I think the reason that no one bothers me is because I sit in the second pew from the front and the only people I see are the little ladies that sit in front of me…that and the Altar and Priest,…and Altar Servers. I have no idea what the people behind me are doing or thinking as I don’t see them, so maybe you guys need to move to the front…?

Blessings,
DesertSister62