Would you be more upset with your teenager if you caught them smoking or cheating?

[snoopy]

Fashina86:

No it doesn’t, but smoking also holds the advantage of being able to quit and go through recovery to try to rid the body of some carcinogenic matter, increasing lifespan. It is more forgiving, than just the immediate shooting in the head. Consequences, in the long term, are the same and both do show an acute disrespect for the body. I don’t know…

You are correct in stating that there are benefits to quitting. Some people are able to quit, some are not. Why take the chance? My sister in law had a double mastectomy. Lost both breasts to cancer and went through 10 months of chemo, radiation and also the surgery. I’ll never forget visiting her after she got home, her hair was just about all gone save for a couple of tufts of hair left, she was grey and ashen faced and sick to her stomach. My heart just sank when she excused herself and got up and lit up a cigarette. I thought, my God, you went through all that, and now the one thing you can do to try to save your life is not smoke, and you won’t even do that!!! I just couldn’t believe it!!! 2 years later and she is still smoking 2 packs a day and has the audacity to be pissed at the doctors because they won’t do reconstruction on her because she smokes. Well, they can’t. Smoking constricts the blood vessels and you cannot heal.(As she already found out when she couldn’t heal after her mastectomy), plus there is the added risk of pneumonia and blood clots. Why would doctors take that chance, their malpractice insurance is high enough as it is. Anyway, whenever I get the urge to smoke, all I do is think of her and my urge goes away. Who knows, she may be the one who saved my life. I don’t want her to die because I Iove her, but since she won’t quit, I have to detatch. There are millions of stories out there like this one, and it is my hope that one of these stories will get to you, and maybe a life or 2 can be saved.

 

[Fashina86]

snoopy:

You are correct in stating that there are benefits to quitting. Some people are able to quit, some are not. Why take the chance? My sister in law had a double mastectomy. Lost both breasts to cancer and went through 10 months of chemo, radiation and also the surgery. I’ll never forget visiting her after she got home, her hair was just about all gone save for a couple of tufts of hair left, she was grey and ashen faced and sick to her stomach. My heart just sank when she excused herself and got up and lit up a cigarette. I thought, my God, you went through all that, and now the one thing you can do to try to save your life is not smoke, and you won’t even do that!!! I just couldn’t believe it!!! 2 years later and she is still smoking 2 packs a day and has the audacity to be pissed at the doctors because they won’t do reconstruction on her because she smokes. Well, they can’t. Smoking constricts the blood vessels and you cannot heal.(As she already found out when she couldn’t heal after her mastectomy), plus there is the added risk of pneumonia and blood clots. Why would doctors take that chance, their malpractice insurance is high enough as it is. Anyway, whenever I get the urge to smoke, all I do is think of her and my urge goes away. Who knows, she may be the one who saved my life. I don’t want her to die because I Iove her, but since she won’t quit, I have to detatch. There are millions of stories out there like this one, and it is my hope that one of these stories will get to you, and maybe a life or 2 can be saved.

That’s terrible. I am so sorry… so you would rather have had her lose integrity then die… I can see where you come from…