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Pilgrim525
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If you were given another lifetime to live would you marry the same spouse again? 
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Almeria
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Absolutely. Do you know what the odds are against finding another guy whoāll watch the Tonys and all 24 hours of LeMans with me? One or the other, possibly, but not both! 
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quattrocchi
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Probably not.
If our marriage were a book, it would be titled The Long Loneliness
If our marriage were a book, it would be titled The Long Loneliness
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thestickman
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1st spouse (neither of us were Catholic or religious): NoIf you were given another lifetime to live would you marry the same spouse again?
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2nd Spouse:Absolutely!!!
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MaryB23
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Yes! Yes! Yes!
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spanky
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Yes indeed! Hope she feels the same way. Sheās not Catholic, but instrumental in strengthening my understanding of Christās Church. It wouldāve been more convenient and less stressful at times to marry a Catholic like me, but I never wouldāve pursued the truth without her challenging me!
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ElizabethJoy
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Iām so sorry.
If youād like to talk about it more, the people here are so kind and they can really give you some good counsel for putting that kind of marriage to good purposes. I hope youāll stay around and read through the archives. There has been so much good advice given here.
Feel free to start a thread if you are in need of prayers and/or empathy or something else.
God bless you,
Elizabeth
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AlanFromWichita
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We have been married 18 years, as of yesterday.
Do we have to go through spouse training all over, or do we get to pick up where we left off?
Ummm, ummmm, I mean, yes! Of course I would! :yup:
Julie I know youāre in your apartment reading these forums; In case you see this I just want to you to know you have made my life complete, and given me the most wonderful children I can imagine. I had no clue about love or commitment until I met you. :dancing:
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Do we have to go through spouse training all over, or do we get to pick up where we left off?
Ummm, ummmm, I mean, yes! Of course I would! :yup:
Julie I know youāre in your apartment reading these forums; In case you see this I just want to you to know you have made my life complete, and given me the most wonderful children I can imagine. I had no clue about love or commitment until I met you. :dancing:
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spanky
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Tonyās and LeMansā¦quite a combo! Are we talking theatre and car racing here?Absolutely. Do you know what the odds are against finding another guy whoāll watch the Tonys and all 24 hours of LeMans with me? One or the other, possibly, but not both!
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surfinpure
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Oooo, tough question. 
My husband and I have very different personalities, and sometimes we both suffer for that. But if I had married anyone else I wouldnāt have the same beautiful child heās given me. And he really has been a good husband. I donāt suppose you have to be crazy about someone through the entirety of your marriage, just as long as you both learn to honor one another.
Nobody said it would be a bed of roses, but hanging on has certainly paid off.
My husband and I have very different personalities, and sometimes we both suffer for that. But if I had married anyone else I wouldnāt have the same beautiful child heās given me. And he really has been a good husband. I donāt suppose you have to be crazy about someone through the entirety of your marriage, just as long as you both learn to honor one another.Nobody said it would be a bed of roses, but hanging on has certainly paid off.
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CarrieMG
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I will agree with surf(name removed by moderator)ure. It has been difficult, but I have grown much. We have been in and out of counseling, but I have grown much. He is supposed to be the one to help me realize who God wants me to be and be the best chance I have of reaching the pearly gates as I learn to work things out with him. Dealing with him has brought me to my knees in prayer more than anything else in my life. That has been a wonderful blessing!! So all in all he has been a wonderful blessing as have our five terrific children. Christās Peace, Carrie
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BlestOne
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well considering that my ex left me and my 3 beautiful childrenā¦
and āforgotā to tell me about his other wife
and forgot to divorce her before he married me
and āforgotā to tell me about his first child
and decided that he was no longer christian but a pagan high priest
and refuses to pay child support
and left me a letter telling me that he never loved me but was using me
ā¦dependsā¦can I still have my 3 children? Would it be Godās will?
As you can see, I have been through the wringerā¦but if that was the only way to have my kids or if it were Godās will then I would have to say yes. If I could still have my kids and not have to go through the ****ā¦I would make a wiser choice the next time around. I donāt know if this makes sense to anyone but, who I am today is because I went through the ****, and I actually like me today. I canāt imagine life without my children! When I had nothing else left except for the kids and my faith, I was grateful that I had the most important things I could have.
and āforgotā to tell me about his other wife
and forgot to divorce her before he married me
and āforgotā to tell me about his first child
and decided that he was no longer christian but a pagan high priest
and refuses to pay child support
and left me a letter telling me that he never loved me but was using me
ā¦dependsā¦can I still have my 3 children? Would it be Godās will?
As you can see, I have been through the wringerā¦but if that was the only way to have my kids or if it were Godās will then I would have to say yes. If I could still have my kids and not have to go through the ****ā¦I would make a wiser choice the next time around. I donāt know if this makes sense to anyone but, who I am today is because I went through the ****, and I actually like me today. I canāt imagine life without my children! When I had nothing else left except for the kids and my faith, I was grateful that I had the most important things I could have.
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robertaf
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I have been married to the same guy for 50 years this past February.
Oh yes, I would marry the same one again. Do you know the odds of finding another person on this planet who would put up with me for that many years?
If I knew what I know now, I might do a better job of it, second time around.
Oh yes, I would marry the same one again. Do you know the odds of finding another person on this planet who would put up with me for that many years?
If I knew what I know now, I might do a better job of it, second time around.
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cheddarsox
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My hubby and I attended a wedding this past weekend, and we had this very conversation! We both agreed we would marry each other againā¦but decided the wedding itself would be different.
I love my hubby more than I did when we married. Andā¦this also came up in conversation last week, when he surprises me by his behavior (and after 20 years, sometimes he still does) he almost always surprises me by being better than I expected.
I am/we are very lucky and blessed.
cheddar
I love my hubby more than I did when we married. Andā¦this also came up in conversation last week, when he surprises me by his behavior (and after 20 years, sometimes he still does) he almost always surprises me by being better than I expected.
I am/we are very lucky and blessed.
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Karin
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First Husband - NO, I would rather rot in hell than marry him again!
Second Husband- **YES!!! **
Second Husband- **YES!!! **
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Giannawannabe
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Yes. I would marry him again. I prayed my entire young life for God to send me the right man to marry, if marriage was to be my vocation. He did
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AmberDale
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Yes of course I would marry my husband again. He is wonderful. I love him very much.
We are very much alike, yet very different. We mesh well together.
We are very much alike, yet very different. We mesh well together.
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contemplative
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Yes
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ShannonE
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I wouldnāt.
We got married for the wrong reason. I can really really relate to the person that posted āThe Long Lonelinessā comment - it has been a long lonely journey.
We got married for the wrong reason. I can really really relate to the person that posted āThe Long Lonelinessā comment - it has been a long lonely journey.
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space_ghost
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ā¦if i dated her again, i would marry her againā¦ because i couldāt help but fall in love with herā¦
ā¦now would i date her again? In hindsight??? Nope!
ā¦she is baptist and i am catholicā¦ nothing has changed for 27+ yearsā¦ she is still baptist and i am still catholicā¦ we accept our situationā¦ there were a lot of painful years over the religious differencesā¦ all 4 children are catholicā¦ there was a lot of pain due to that as wellā¦
ā¦so given the chance to relive and to not know my spouse, i would listen to my parents and date only catholic girlsā¦ given control of the circumstances of courseā¦ Life, had a funny way of throwing a monkey wrench into the mixā¦ and there-in lies the problemā¦
ā¦please donāt misunderstandā¦ i canāt imagine life with another, but if you donāt think being of the same faith is a big deal, well then, i beg to differā¦ it matters, no matter how sophisticated or with-it you think you areā¦ it mattersā¦
Peace:thumbsup:
hereās hoping spouse doesnāt see this post
ā¦now would i date her again? In hindsight??? Nope!
ā¦she is baptist and i am catholicā¦ nothing has changed for 27+ yearsā¦ she is still baptist and i am still catholicā¦ we accept our situationā¦ there were a lot of painful years over the religious differencesā¦ all 4 children are catholicā¦ there was a lot of pain due to that as wellā¦
ā¦so given the chance to relive and to not know my spouse, i would listen to my parents and date only catholic girlsā¦ given control of the circumstances of courseā¦ Life, had a funny way of throwing a monkey wrench into the mixā¦ and there-in lies the problemā¦
ā¦please donāt misunderstandā¦ i canāt imagine life with another, but if you donāt think being of the same faith is a big deal, well then, i beg to differā¦ it matters, no matter how sophisticated or with-it you think you areā¦ it mattersā¦
Peace:thumbsup:
hereās hoping spouse doesnāt see this post
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