Would you move to another country for someone?

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Carina20 said:
I would move for a fiance so we can plan the wedding and get married. I feel like if the relationship is serious and leading to marriage, then of course, it’s no question.
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Careful!! I know of someone who did just that. She gave up her job, learned the language and relocated. Only after she got there and a child on the way did she find out that he was already married and she was number 2!! :eek: She then returned to the US (no residency permit granted in Italy) and is living with her parents. No job… 😦
 
I am actually considering doing it right now. It would be easier for me to move since moving with visa issues and working it would be more prudent for me rather than him. Moving before marriage would mean for me getting a job offer first, I wouldn’t move if it meant that he would have to sponsor me, I would prefer for that move to be independent of him.

Someone mentioned climate and actually this is one of my concerns, I’m in the Caribbean I like the sunshine year round. We’ve had conversations about snow and winter, I don’t like the cold, but hey I think I’m up to it. I would do it for a great job opportunity without question so I believe I can do it for someone I love.
 
AllSeasons said:
Would it change things if I said the country in question is Canada?
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Well, AllSeasons, why don’t you tell us a little more about the situation.

In addition to all the things I listed previously, there are other considerations:

how long have you known this person
is this a marriage situation we are talking about
are you both citizens of the same country moving to an ex-pat situation for work or military post
or are you citizens of different countries and one is relocating to live permanently in the other country
what are the immigration laws of both countries

I mean, really, you haven’t given much to go on. And, Canada really doesn’t make a difference. It is still a foreign country no matter how similar to the US. I have a friend who married a Canadian, moved to Canada (Vancouver) and had a child. The husband left her and now she CANNOT return to the US due to her child’s Canadian citizenship and the custody/visitation laws of Canada. She is stuck in a country not her own, with no family, and now no husband.
 
1ke said:
I have a friend who married a Canadian, moved to Canada (Vancouver) and had a child. The husband left her and now she CANNOT return to the US due to her child’s Canadian citizenship and the custody/visitation laws of Canada. She is stuck in a country not her own, with no family, and now no husband.
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:eek: Does the child not get automatic American (US) citizenship from the mother? Does Canada not allow dual citizenship?
 
AllSeasons said:
As the title says, would you move to another country for someone? What are some of the things you would consider in making that decision? Thank you.
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I moved from Vermont to Kentucky for my guy (who I met here on the CAF!!) 😃

It’s not another country…although, it sure feels like it sometimes!!! :yup:

What did I consider? Well, this was the man I knew I was called to marry, and it was more sensible for me to move. This was a better place to raise kids, and a better place to live for our unique circumstances. I miss Vermont terribly sometimes, but I know this is the right decision. 👍
 
lerapt78 said:
AllSeasons, since you don’t list your location on your profile, I don’t know from where you’d be moving. But, if you’re an American I imagine there would practically be no culture shock if you moved to any of the British Canadian territories, so that would probably make the transition fairly easy.

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I wouldn’t say that. Moving from province to province for myself has caused culture shock, and I haven’t even been to Newfoundland. I don’t even speak Newfie. People think Canada and the US are so similar, but they’re really not. We speak a different language here, we use the metric system. We have Mounties, and our money is colour coded so you don’t accidentally leave a $50 tip. Very different from the USA.
 
lerapt78 said:
:eek: Does the child not get automatic American (US) citizenship from the mother? Does Canada not allow dual citizenship?
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Yes it does. My sister-in-law was born in Canada. Her dad’s Canadian, but her mom’s American. She has dual citizenship and is completely free to live, work attend school, vote, etc. in either country.
 
Deo_Gratias42 said:
I wouldn’t say that. Moving from province to province for myself has caused culture shock, and I haven’t even been to Newfoundland. I don’t even speak Newfie. People think Canada and the US are so similar, but they’re really not. We speak a different language here, we use the metric system. We have Mounties, and our money is colour coded so you don’t accidentally leave a $50 tip. Very different from the USA.
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Both Canada and the United States are big enough that one could ask if someone would move to another province/state for someone.

…but obviously it’s a bit easier to go back home if you are in the same country, especially if this is a relationship that will result in children.
 
1ke said:
Well, AllSeasons, why don’t you tell us a little more about the situation.

In addition to all the things I listed previously, there are other considerations:

how long have you known this person
is this a marriage situation we are talking about
are you both citizens of the same country moving to an ex-pat situation for work or military post
or are you citizens of different countries and one is relocating to live permanently in the other country
what are the immigration laws of both countries

I mean, really, you haven’t given much to go on. And, Canada really doesn’t make a difference. It is still a foreign country no matter how similar to the US. I have a friend who married a Canadian, moved to Canada (Vancouver) and had a child. The husband left her and now she CANNOT return to the US due to her child’s Canadian citizenship and the custody/visitation laws of Canada. She is stuck in a country not her own, with no family, and now no husband.
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That will be down to child custody issues, court orders and such, not the residency rules of Canada.

She’s not stuck in the country - she’s not allowed to leave with the child.
 
lerapt78 said:
:eek: Does the child not get automatic American (US) citizenship from the mother? Does Canada not allow dual citizenship?
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Yes, but as far as Canada is concerned he is Canadian. She could not leave the country with him. And of course, she was not going to leave him behind.
 
1ke said:
Why are you being so obtuse?

This doesn’t tell us anything.
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No name calling please. I don’t want to reveal too much personal information on here, in case she reads these forums, too.
 
1ke said:
Yes, but as far as Canada is concerned he is Canadian. She could not leave the country with him. And of course, she was not going to leave him behind.
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It will be more to do with shared custody and not allowing one parent to remove access to the child from another parent.
 
I did. It was very difficult. My DH was stuck in Mexico for immigration reasons. I moved down there with our 3mo DD. I don’t feel like writing a big long thing about my experience here, but if you want to know more, PM me. We are currently in the states together, so he has also moved to another country for me.

“For wherever you go I will go, wherever you lodge I will lodge, your people shall be my people, and your God my God. Wherever you die I will die, and there be buried. May the Lord do so and so to me, and more besides, if aught but death separates me from you!” Ruth 1:16-17
 
I would but ONLY if I were married to the person. No sense up rooting my life for someone else unless we were in a permanent bond.
 
In April 2011, I moved to the UK from the Pacific Northwest to marry my then-fiance (now husband. met on CAF). After four months, we moved to New York for his work, now we are returning to the UK for his new permanent job. Hopping oceans is fun, and a good way to get rid of stuff.

It was a culture shock (trying to understand the Glasgow accent :eek: ), but in some ways, I feel more at home in the UK than New York. There is just something I like about it more. So it worked out well for us.
 
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