Would you move to another country for someone?

[admonsta]

If my husband got a job overseas, I’d go with him. No question.

If I met someone from overseas and was trying to decide whether to move there to be with them, that would be very different. Either we would have to marry first, or I would have to be independent of them until we married. That way, I minimise my risk of being left high and dry if things didn’t work out.

 

[UpUpAndAway]

I did. Can it be done successfully? Yes. Is it easy? Not at all.

I married my husband civilly to gain the right to immigrate without employment. I moved six weeks after our civil wedding, then we did the “living together as brother and sister” thing (with varying degrees of success…:blushing until we were able to get married in the Catholic Church six months later.

Since we had agreed that I would stop working once we were married, it made more sense for me to move to his country than for him to move to mine.

I have never, not for one second, regretted marrying my husband. That said, I can’t say I really thought the situation through as well as I should have. I was in love and I thought everything else was secondary. I didn’t speak any French when I arrived, and that was a much bigger stumbling block than I thought it would be. (When I tell people this, most of them say, “…duh.”) There are many cultural differences that I simply do not understand even after eleven years in country. :banghead: There is a certain level of French society, the “inner circle” for lack of a better term, that is just closed off to anyone who isn’t French, so I could be here for the next 50 years and never really belong.

If I had taken the time and made the effort to really consider what I was doing, I might not be where I am today. I’d still be married to my husband, but we might not be living here. In fact, we have seriously discussed leaving France on more than one occasion. But for the moment, it looks like we’re staying where we are. For various reasons I won’t elaborate on or this post will turn into War and Peace, I’m happy with that.

 

[Crescentinus]

I’d have to consider this, due to job opportunities and moral issues.

 

[Gearoidin]

As the title says, would you move to another country for someone? What are some of the things you would consider in making that decision? Thank you.

My husband is Japanese, I am Irish. I moved to Japan.

We considered: financial aspects - job opportunities,
health insurance,
lifestyle - climate, commuting distance, etc
standard of living,
safety,
family
attitudes to mixed race marriages, …

My husband did spend time in Ireland and the Uk. He didn’t like either. We also considered moving to Canada. He’d been there and really liked it. In the end, we decided it was better to have at least one family nearby

If you want to ask any specific questions, please do.

Gearoidin

 

[seekingadvice10]

I probably couldn’t live in a 3rd world country permanently, it would be different if I were volunteering, etc but to raise a family definitely not. If it was another English speaking country and for the love of my life, I’d like to think so. If I didn’t, I’d wonder “what if”, plus if you’re married your spouse comes first, well after God.