Your Top 3 Reasons for Drop in Mass Attendance?

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The main reasons many of my friends and family strayed, as did I for a long time, were:
  • A common feeling that the Church is out of touch with American Catholics and disagreement with the Church’s positions on contemporary issues such as married and female clergy, birth control, and gay relationships;
  • A lack of true understanding of Catholic tradition, doctrine and disciplines as many Catholics are not taught thoroughly growing up about their faith;
  • A feeling that they are not welcome due to one behavior or decision or another, which is out of step with Catholicism, such as a divorce.
I think that things like bad music might push a family from one church to the church across town, and poor homilies might result in some grousing, but lasting absence from church is, in my view, a more serious decision for most people.
I drifted away from the Church shortly after my first communion as a child until shortly after my 40th birthday. I never lost my faith in God. I never lost my faith in the Church. My parents stopped going so I stopped going and then school/work/family got in the way.

I suspect had I stayed in the Church the entire time I would be Greek or Russian Orthodox today. Ironically I side-stepped a great deal of pain but at the cost of a great deal of grace too. In those years though had I (for example) been divorced and re-married (my formation as a Catholic was next to non-existant – I would not have known any better) I wouldn’t be a member of the Church today so I have empathy for your comments.

In many respects I wish I was just coming back into the Church right now. Things have been very nasty for a great many years and only now do things seem to be looking up.
 
People who want to learn can learn. Same for kids. There are plenty of children and teenagers who live in poor neighborhoods and attend wretched schools and have non-inspiring tachers. But somehow they manage to learn a lot on their own.

Nowadays, anyone who wants to learn about Catholicism (or any faith) can go online and read lots, and find out about resources both old and new.

@Cat . Nowadays yes but I was talking about what I call the ‘post Latin in school’ period about 50-70 years ago for the ordinary faithful. Nowadays because of the internet and other more readily available info outside of the local Parish I believe that is exactly why many people are either coming back or ‘reading’ their way into the catholic Church as they seek the ultimate truth. As I said in another thread asked if the Protestant reformation did any good; these new faithful , the former protestants that are coming home to the fullness of the faith ,I believe, are the fire of the Holy Spirit that are breathing new fire and holding the local clergy and lay ministers to the truth. They don’t go to mass to check the block, they go because they LOVE God and want to follow Him where ever he leads because He is truth.
 
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People who want to learn can learn. Same for kids. There are plenty of children and teenagers who live in poor neighborhoods and attend wretched schools and have non-inspiring tachers. But somehow they manage to learn a lot on their own.

Nowadays, anyone who wants to learn about Catholicism (or any faith) can go online and read lots, and find out about resources both old and new.

@Cat . Nowadays yes but I was talking about what I call the ‘post Latin in school’ period about 50-70 years ago for the ordinary faithful. Nowadays because of the internet and other more readily available info outside of the local Parish I believe that is exactly why many people are either coming back or ‘reading’ their way into the catholic Church as they seek the ultimate truth. As I said in another thread asked if the Protestant reformation did any good; these new faithful , the former protestants that are coming home to the fullness of the faith ,I believe, are the fire of the Holy Spirit that are breathing new fire and holding the local clergy and lay ministers to the truth. They don’t go to mass to check the block, they go because they LOVE God and want to follow Him where ever he leads because He is truth.
I and my husband are part of those former Protestants who have come home to Catholicism.

I love the Church and I love being Catholic.

But I think that along with our enthusiasm and fire, we also bring with us a lot of ideas that the Church is not really happy to hear.

E.g., I think that the local parishes should strive to create more opportunities for fellowship and to foster friendships. One of the posters, lisahiku, expressed this need beautifully–she’s lonely in the Church.

In the past, the parishes were neighborhood parishes, and many of the members knew each other outside the Church and were friends.

But this isn’t the case nowadays. The rules about attending a neighborhood parish have been lifted, and Catholics are willing to drive all over town or out of town.

So IMO, the Catholic parishes in the U.S. need to recognize this, and to try to emulate the evangelical Protestants and create a network of social and educational activities within the parish, so that people have the opportunities to meet others with common interests and make friends.

When people have friends, they are held accountable by those friends, and this makes it hard to just skip church week after week. Their friends call them and ask, “Hey, where are you lately?”

Another issue that Protestants bring to the Catholic Church is the music issue. I personally think that the “M” word in Catholicism is not masturbation, but music. I personally think we are more likely to attend a Catholic seminar or class, or hear a homily, about masturbation and Christians rather than music and Christians! The issue is swept under the rug, but it’s there and it’s causing divisions, and IMO, the Catholic Church needs to wake up and pay attention and do something about music in the Church.

My personal feeling is that they need to re-visit the “Gregorian chant and pipe organ” ideal and recognize and validate other styles of music and other instruments. I know them’s fightin’ words around CAF. But I stand by them.

Just today, I read in our newspaper about a conservative Catholic parish in our diocese where the priest has attempted to restore the more ancient practices in the Mass (OF Mass, but with Latin, chant, propers, kneeling rail and Communion on the tongue), etc. Apparently over half the members have LEFT that parish, with no good words about the parish. Very discouraging, and IMO, an illustration of what I keep saying on these forums. Traditional music and practices are NOT the answer to dwindling Mass attendance. Those who think that traditional music, Latin, chant, etc. will bring people back are wrong, IMO. As long as the Church continues to harbor this delusion, people will continue to leave the Mass in droves, just as they have in this parish.

So you see, Protestants bring fire, but the same fire that warms and gives light also can cause destruction. I recognize that my views as an ex-Protestant Catholic are controversial, and so I don’t spread them around much. I think the most important thing is obedience to our Church. But if I were given the opportunity to spread my ideas to Church authorities, I would gladly do so!
 
I think a big reason is that people are angry at the scandals in the church.
This is definitely a problem. I know some extremely devote Catholics (e.g., of the never-missed-a-mass in 50 years variety) that actually looked into attending other Church’s when the sex scandal hit.

Another major issue that I continually see is due to marriage-related issues. They cover the whole spectrum. The common one involves those divorced and remarried outside the Church. People consider it an insult the them and their family when the Church refers to their marriage as “invalid” or “attempted.” Furthermore, they’re not going to abstain a year or more for the annulment and convalidation.
 
This is definitely a problem. I know some extremely devote Catholics (e.g., of the never-missed-a-mass in 50 years variety) that actually looked into attending other Church’s when the sex scandal hit.

Another major issue that I continually see is due to marriage-related issues. They cover the whole spectrum. The common one involves those divorced and remarried outside the Church. People consider it an insult the them and their family when the Church refers to their marriage as “invalid” or “attempted.” Furthermore, they’re not going to abstain a year or more for the annulment and convalidation.
I agree with this, too. So many good theories on this thread. Very interesting discussion.

I also think that many couples avoid Mass and conservative Protestant churches because they are co-habiting, or because they feel a loyalty to support the members in their family who are co-habiting.

This is where the mainline Protestant churches (Lutheran, Episcopalian, Presbyterian, Reformed, etc.) are picking up people. Often you see the outreach material for these churches say: “Inclusive” or “All are welcome, and we mean ALL.” Although many of us understand that this is code for “homosexuals, transsexuals, bisexuals, transgender, etc.”, there is another aspect–those who are co-habiting, divorced, separated,etc. are welcome, too, with no questions asked, and no “awkward” sermon topics that will make them feel condemned or uncomfortable. Also, all the socials are planned so that they don’t favor married couples with children.

Also, the Protestant megachurches are a refuge for these people, because they are low-commitment churches that allow people to attend church anonymously and be left alone. The teaching is really basic and somewhat “fluffy,” so again, no awkward condemnations or demands for repentance and changed behavior. It’s all about “love.”

I’m glad the Catholic Church is standing firm on the marriage issues! But we will have to accept that the issue will result in more attrition from Mass. As I posted earlier, people don’t want to go where they are challenged to repent and give up sin.
 
The sexual sins issue is definitely the biggest that surveys turn up and that I hear from ex-Catholics everywhere. Something like, “all those all celibate males don’t know anything about raising a family or living in a horrible marriage.” And so, by extension, they must not know much about anything…

Divorce, remarriage, contraception, co-habitation, fornication. They are almost universal in our culture and a church that teaches against them is not going to be popular. People may move from the parish with the pastor that does have ‘great sermons about hell and damnation’ because they are uncomfortable, but the parish across town with the “I’m OK, You’re OK” pastor isn’t going to be their favorite place either, because they don’t want to get up early to drive across town, or the person they remarried isn’t Catholic and the step-kids refuse to go, or 100 other excuses.

Personal sin is selfishness exactly. I WANT what I WANT when I WANT it! That includes sex when I want it (and with whoever), sleeping in when I want to, not being unconvinced by ridiculous Holy Days, DREs with weird rules, etc.
 
Divorce, remarriage, contraception, co-habitation, fornication. They are almost universal in our culture and a church that teaches against them is not going to be popular.
No, but this it true even within the Polish, Hispanic, and other cultures as well. Yet that doesn’t seem to stop them from coming to Mass; they just don’t receive communion if they’ve done something against Church teachings.
 
No, but this it true even within the Polish, Hispanic, and other cultures as well. Yet that doesn’t seem to stop them from coming to Mass; they just don’t receive communion if they’ve done something against Church teachings.
Oh yes, that happens and it shows correct understanding on their part. However, there are also plenty of hispanics and polish people who don’t go to church at all, or go to some kind of an evangelical church that doesn’t preach against remarriage and contraception.
 
no, but this it true even within the polish, hispanic, and other cultures as well. yet that doesn’t seem to stop them from coming to mass; they just don’t receive communion if they’ve done something against church teachings.
good point!
 
  1. lack of emphasis on God’s justice/truth of hell/mortal sin
  2. lack of emphasis on God’s mercy (in the confessional)
  3. lack of sound teaching
 
Looks to me that many of the reasons given are not reasons at all…they are simply excuses!
Excuses put the blame on someone else… they blame the Church and it’s teachings not realising that it is Jesus speaking to them through his Church so that they dont go astray.
They dont want to listen to “celibate” priests telling them what they can and cannot do in marraige, forgetting that Jesus was celibate!
Satan must be dancing with joy if he can get people to make feeble excuses like…I dont like my priest, I dont like the homiles, the singing etc etc and then get them to walk away from Jesus.
We have a war on our hands to get the prodigal children to return. Keep praying.
Mike
 
They watched as the sacred was treated as if it were profane. Then they left.

That’s my #1 reason distilled down to its very essence.
 
…Another issue that Protestants bring to the Catholic Church is the music issue. I personally think that the “M” word in Catholicism is not masturbation, but music. I personally think we are more likely to attend a Catholic seminar or class, or hear a homily, about masturbation and Christians rather than music and Christians! The issue is swept under the rug, but it’s there and it’s causing divisions, and IMO, the Catholic Church needs to wake up and pay attention and do something about music in the Church…
Your postings are wonderful. Let’s take the music issue. Ask in the most solemn and tactful manner “why do so many Protestant parishes have such better singing and music than we do?” and the canned response will almost invariably be “but they don’t have the Eucharist!”

What? :confused:

I believe mentioning the God-given gifts we Catholics enjoy is a way not to address our own shortcomings as Catholics. Yes we have the Eucharist! One would think that would help to ensure our singing/music would be BETTER than anytone elses and not an excuse for poor music/singing!

I think in many ways Catholics are LAZY when it comes to things like music and fellowship – both take a great amount of WORK. I also suspect the entrenched politics surrounding Catholic parishes might be a bit heavier than most Protestant parishes in terms of music and fellowship ministries – but I really don’t know for sure. Then again so many are so hardened from how they have been mistreated for the past half century or so. They’re survivors – ticket punchers and they want out of Mass ASAP each Sunday.

I do know this. If the Choir from St. Pete’s visiting the Mass I attend followed by a free catered gourmet breakfast from the best Restaurant in town in our own parish hall, the feedback would likely be “the choir made the Mass 10 minutes longer!” as they marched like drones to their vehicles, oblivious to the people motioning them into the parish hall.
 
**imho
  1. Lack of belief in the real presence of jesus in the holy eucharist.
  2. Ditto
  3. Ditto
if catholics believed in the real presence - nothing would or could keep them away. This is the main issue - everything else is just icing on the cake (great homilies, good music, and welcoming community).**
are you saying that jesus is really and truely present in the holy eucharist? Are you saying he is there body-blood-soul and divinity??? You mean to say he is really in that host and that it’s no longer just a piece of bread? Is that what your saying? And the wine is no longer wine but the blood of the christ? I know in john 6 it says that but can we really believe that? That the mass in the roman catholic is a
re-presantation of the sacrifice of calvery? You must be saying that at every catholic mass is an honest to god mericle is taking place, at every one? You must be saying that the tabernacle in every catholic church is more holy than the arc of the covenant, because it contains the body of our christ? Is that what you are saying? Well these are the very things that i beleve in. The secret is no secret to us, the church needs to consitrate on the devotion to the holy eucharist, and that there are consiquences to be paid for those that stray. A priest i heard on ewtn said that he wasn’t going to hell for anyone.a sin is a sin is a sin. Our priests, not the lay people, need to drive that home. Wake people up before the whole congregation winds up in hell.
 
well, obviously the eucharist is not enough for some people because Mass attendance is down big time. And I am one of them.
 
well, obviously the eucharist is not enough for some people because Mass attendance is down big time. And I am one of them.
I think that’s more a matter of BELIEF in the Eucharist – the Real Presence.
 
Can I propose one more? Apathy. Apathy because times are good for us in the Western world. Just like with the history of the nation of Israel, as soon as the enemy is defeated, as soon as times began to be good, they stayed and strayed away from God.

I was reading about Libya, and there was a story of a teacher that’s from Niger (I think) that is holed up in his house because he and his family are being hassled by the rebels because they think he’s one of Gaddafi’s mercenaries. The article said that the only time they ventured out was to go to Mass.

May they be an example for us. Let’s thank God for what we have, and never forget He who gives and takes away.
 
  1. Sexual abuse
  2. General drop in spirituality due to technological+medical advancements
  3. False spiritual concepts such as yoga, incense burning sticks, deep breathing, painting pictures of the ocean etc.!
 
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