…see women with children cross the street hurriedly to avoid passing too close (among many other similar actions), but almost no white male of the same age can do the same.
Is this really any different from, say, a black man trying to avoid a group of redneck/neo-nazi looking white men in the South? I’m sure it doesn’t happen as often, since there are significantly fewer neo-nazis than black people, but it does happen.
These feelings exist for a reason, whether they’re justified or not, it’s not really the fault of the individual in most cases that they feel compelled to act in a certain way. Our media is saturated with stereotypes which attach behaviors to appearances (skin color, clothing, manner of speech, etc.). For my part, I will go out of my way to avoid a group of people who look like thugs, regardless of race. There is an implicit association between manner of dress and potential behaviors that has been reinforced by all kinds of media for decades. If I see someone with a hoodie pulled up over their head covering their face and their pants sagging down to their knees, I’m probably going to avoid that person. Similarly, if I see a dude with shaggy hair wearing a trench coat, there’s a good chance I’ll avoid them as well.
My wife had a handful of kids who dressed like thugs but were actually quite respectful, studious children, they just happened to like the style. However, she had far more whose behavior matched the stereotypes, which only serves to further reinforce those stereotypes and associated presumptions.
It’s not fair, and in most instances such behavior is probably misplaced, but it’s hard to call it irrational when personal experience and basically every form of media reinforces it, including what we see on the news.