I don’t want to go on the Pill persay. What I really want is one of those pills in The Giver. Did everyone read that book? In the book, Jonas lives in a utopian society. At the age of 11, he reports to his parents that he had a sexual dream. His mother gives him pills to take, and the feelings instantly leave him.
You bring up a good point. Most of the people who have posted on this thread saying that the sex drive is a good thing are married. I haven’t seen a ton of single people disagree with my assertions.
I’ve been thinking (dangerous I know). Having a high sex drive sucks when you are single. Maybe it is like a wrapped gift under a Christmas tree. When I was little, I would beg my mom to open JUST one. She said no. I would sulk, cry, throw a fit. I would stare at the presents under the tree for hours. But my mom wouldn’t budge: no presents till Christmas. And CountrySinger, don’t stare at me and go play. I would keep myself busy with little kid things, but I still really wanted the presents.You bring up a good point. Most of the people who have posted on this thread saying that the sex drive is a good thing are married. I haven’t seen a ton of single people disagree with my assertions.
When you’re single, your sexuality is a gift. And the gift that it gives you is eternal damnation. Thanks but no thanks.
(Sees herself at the exchange counter in Heaven.)
Yes, for a gift, God gave me a sex drive. I’d like to exchange it for something a little more useful, say, a new cell phone?
Yes, I read that book. The same society also euthanasised its own citizens, young and old, without remorse.
Not that poor innocent priest, I hope…
I think that if no one wanted or had the desire to have sex until being married, I think there would be a lot less marriages. If you had no strong urges/attraction towards the opposite gender, you wouldn’t pursue them as much. You would seek out companionship in friends and you would be satisfied/happy.It’s pure speculation, of course. But (if I can be so presumptous) if God was to ask me what I would change in human nature, I would change this. No one should want to have sex until they get married.
Actually, I think there would be a lot fewer divorces, since I think people would actually make better choices in marriage partners without being distracted and misled by their sex drives. Not to mention that Heaven would be a lot more crowded than it is right now. Wait, maybe that’s a bad thing. No, definitely not.
Nope. Do I look like the kind of woman who would do that?Not that poor innocent priest, I hope…
I think you are exactly right. I’m a 30 year old single guy who has waited his whole life. It’s frustrating to wait, but I don’t regret my sexuality. Instead, it’s a strong motivation to pursue marriage. If you wait for the right reasons (purity of heart), it gives you more motivation to stay the course the longer you wait. Why throw it away after all this time?
You seem to limit being male or female to simply wanting to have sex with someone of the opposite sex. If that was true, then gay men or lesbian women are not actually be male or female, and children would not actually be male or female.
I was describing what humans could have been like before the Fall or if the Fall had never happened. I was speculating that, if humans had never fallen, we would want nothing more than to do the will of God. **That means that, if humans had never fallen, we would want to marry because it was God’s will for us, not because of our sex drives or an attraction to the opposite sex. ** So if man had never fallen, and we didn’t have sexual desires, then we would still want to marry. If anything, we’d want to marry for even better reasons!
Yay CountrySinger! I’m very happy for you!
Don’t worry. I’m not planning on giving up anytime soon. I just think that, if I didn’t want to have sex, I’d be a much happier single, a better person, and a much better Catholic.
I’m not going to throw it all away, despite what my new and slightly crazy co-worker is scheming. But, unlike you, I do regret my sex drive. Not my sexuality; I have no problem with being female. But I was a female long before I wanted to have sex, and if I woke up tomorrow and found that I didn’t want to have sex, I would still be female.
I appreciate the sympathy, but I didn’t get the sense that Liberanosamalo was lecturing me or simply being mean. Of course, when I originally posted this rant, I was very upset. So upset, in fact, I had to wait a few days before I could read the responses. I was really expecting to get chewed out for it. But most people here, including Liberanosamalo were really nice and supportive. I was surprised. I was even more surprised how many people had the exact same thoughts that I do.
The funny thing is something happened early today (I don’t even remember what) that made me think of Anne of Green Gables.
LOL. That’s funny.
There is definitely more to being male or female than wanting to have sex, but I feel that our normal sexual desires are irreversibly linked to the other male or female characteristics. Note that, from a biological perspective, traits that are distinctly “male” or “female” generally exist to promote reproduction in some way, either by encouraging people to have children, bonding between fathers and mothers, arriving at an appropriate division of labor between fathers and mothers, or by making it easier for men and women to locate healthy mates.