I don’t really see anything wrong with having super close friendships, even without making the girls say that they’d like to get married someday. I’ve had friendships like that, and they’re wholly independent of whether or not I’d like to get married someday. I think it’s sad that inseparable female friends are assumed to be lesbians- these are experiences that many, if not most girls have, though it’s not as portrayed in anime most of the time. Too often these “romantic friendship” things are intended to bait a male audience. I want actual friendships, actual activities and working together and staying up late at night to discuss the future and whether either of you is ready for it. That’s what close friendships are, not scenes where one girl touches another and the second girl blushes and freaks out. I don’t have a problem with close girl friendships, I have a problem with the fake way that some stories frame them.
Well said, you nailed it. And these anime cotribute to the problem blurrying the lines. And with people in fandom prone to ejnoy these things (fujoshis, and yurifans [don’t know it there is a more precise term for them]), even a simple friendship is understood as something else. And close ones? even more. Is sad, because they are perverting something good, and making other types of love gravitate toward eros. Now even the incest line is crossed. I remember the times (2006-2007) when in anime forums yaoi and yuri weren’t mainstream and not many people was into these.
The fake stuff, is like the recent critic from hayao Miyazaki. Some directors, animators and writers don’t create realistic characters. These girls that have suggestive gestures, while not crossing the lesbian line (that is, not declaring themselves as such, or not framing their friendships as romantic couple situations -even when they are having couple-like behaviors-), are fanservice.
Oh, and I probably would be willing to write a story about girls who are romantically in love, because sometimes that happens. I’d just make it about the girls and their decisions, and paint their choices, good or bad, in a positive or negative light depending on what they do. I don’t think there are a whole lot of things, even sinful things, that we aren’t allowed to tell stories about. I don’t want there to be a ton of stories about that, but a few where the characters sacrifice their desires in order to do the right thing would be positive.
There are obvious thing one shouldn’t protray in productions, like erotic stuff, etc. Other sins need to be displayed as something bad, an not glamourize or normalize them.
With a story about two girls romantically involved, there are certain risks. For example.
Cutesy moe yuri series. Besides normalization, we have the problem of presenting them as something super cute and desirable. Affects men, and women too. I know about various cases of girls that became curious or even like to try the things they see in the moe yuri series. Why that happens? lack of good moral grounds, loneliness, problems with social relationships, lack of discerning and confusion about deep friendships and romantic relationships, etc.
Realistic approaches. These, if include normalization or glamourization, can be problematic too. And can make people support lgbt causes, etc (this can happen with the moe yuri series too).
So, how would you approach such productions?
Girls have close friendships fairly often. That doesn’t make them “romantic” per se. There are at least three kinds of love other than eros, and any of those can be shared between people of the same gender without sin. Those kinds of love are a good thing. I don’t know how we’re defining “romantic” in this conversation, but the only things that annoy me are unnecessary blushing and suggestive touching. It’s really common in anime and not common in real life, and I wish we had more shows with girls who are romantically disinterested but also really close to each other.
Yes, I dislike how close friendships between girls are being perveted. I know these are common among girls, and are not romantic. I think that one could define romantic gestures, as something that a girl wouldn’t try with her sisters or cousins. Suggestive touching, too much kisses in the cheeks, the way the look at the other, etc.