In order for a Catholic to become a former Catholic they would have to discover something about their religion that isn’t right. I think that is why us former Catholics appear so irritating to devout Catholics. However, I can speak for myself and at least a few others when I say that our beef is not with Catholics it is with Catholic doctrine. When people’s beliefs are challenged they get offended. Often in an informal debate setting, like a discussion board, hostility rises as the debate heats up.
Please try to remember one thing about us former Catholic; we most likely have a lot of family and friends who are devoted to the Catholic faith and we love them dearly. We do not set out to demean Catholics in any way.
It is quite natural for someone to say they found the truth when they leave one belief system for another. People do not leave a church they have been a part of for years without believing they have discovered something better. Even if they become atheist they believe they have found something better.
I as a Catholic respect the decision of those who decide to leave our Church. They are free to do as their conscience dictates. When the subject comes up and we engage in a conversation, like I have done with one of my brothers-in-law, I will defend the Church and I will try to explain to him where he is wrong.
I also have a few friends that left the Church, most of them just aren’t religious, they are not converted Protestants. But they make the same accusations against the Church than those that became Protestants. When I ask them if they are going to join a Protestant church they flatly say no, and explain that they know that the true Church is the Catholic Church. Then why do you reject it?, I ask, and the answer is the same: it’s not easy to be Catholic.
Why isn’t it easy to be a Catholic? For one, Stephen K. Ray, a convert Catholic (formerly Baptist) says the following:
“For the Protestant, the major obstacle, overshadowing all others, is the issue of authority… Authority doesn’t sit well with the twentieth-century mind-set. It smacks of weakness, slavery, and subservience, especially in a society that values unlimited personal freedom as a birthright… Submission to Christ in his Church is not an act of blindness, weakness, conformity, or groveling. It is rather an act of courage, intelligence, and decisiveness-a willing choice made from the very essence of emancipation. We [he and his wife] realized that the Catholic Church was God’s authority, his Kingdom represented visible in space and time. Once we recognized the truth and historical solidity of the Church’s claims, we had no choice but gladly to swear allegiance and pledge our fealty.”
Crossing the Tiber, 1997 Ignatius Press
Most left for the discipline (imposed by that Authority) required from our Faith from day one of Christianity, not for a major theological or religious principle debate. I’m talking here about by personal experience… I know, I know: not all former Catholic fall in this category. There, I acknowledge it. The ones that moved to a Protestant denomination are happy now because they face no more “discipline”, and they have been convinced by their new church that “since it’s not in the Bible” it’s their right to reject it, now they are “free”. So, by being a Catholic, and knowing first hand all the objections that our own Catholic brothers have regarding our Church is that we know the truth of their rejection.
Confession… it’s not easy to confess one’s sins I agree. But we have to do it because that’s what Jesus wants from us.
Authority… “You are Peter” etc., we have no problem. But there are those that don’t like it when the Church tells us that premarital sex is a sin, or that contraception is also a sin, etc. See, it’s not easy to be a Catholic in the 21st Century. No need to give more examples.
That’s why when we see someone going away from the Church we say we know the real truth behind their leaving. Again, for most of them, not all of them. I even have had the same thoughts, but I know I can’t just proclaim myself to be judge and say that the Church is wrong because She asks me not to sin. I don’t have that Authority.
God bless you